Mom bailed...

[NikkiT1021]

So my mother who has been unsupportive of our DW from the beginning has bailed on coming wedding dress shopping with me tomorrow. I'm so disappointed and heart broken. This is such a huge day in my life and her excuse is "my ear hurts". If she didn't want to come in the first place, she should have just said it instead of finding any excuse! Luckily i have great friends who will be there but it is still going to feel like something is missing

[mmcst38]

Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that, don't let her ruin your day and have fun!

[islandbride8]

Oh my... My heart aches for you.  Hold your head high girl

[MrsHemmings]

I know this is easier said than done, but ....you have to let it go.

 

Don't let anything or anyone rain on your parade.

 

She will come around, I'm sure.

 

HAVE FUN!!!!!

[msredd3129]

Try and not let it get to you too much. I feel your pain..my mother has been shady re: my wedding also..and I am her one and only child. I saw this saying once...our friends are family that we choose for ourselves, and it could not be more true. We can't choose our family members....Be thankful for the great, caring friends you do have and try to enjoy the experience anyway!

[sascolo]

I'm so sorry! I don't know why parents are so weird. Do you watch Bridezillas or my big friggin wedding? There is always mom drama. It can be heart breaking.

[sascolo]

Oops hit submit too soon. I was just going to add that the advice and support here is good. This is your wedding and you don't need anyone but your fiancé. People can be flaky but make this special and about you and focus on those who are there for you. Ignore the others!

[Kristibear]

I am sorry to hear that.  My mom lives in another state, so she won't be part of the planning process, but to be honest, she probably would've bailed too.  I keep her up to date with pictures and request her opinion on decisions.  You could show her pics of your top three dresses, I'm sure she will feel a sting in her heart to know she couldn't be there to see you in person.

[hamme]

My friend who just got married had the same situation happen with her mom. We just gave her so much love and attention. Her mom is very unhappy in general and let her weight be a factor for not being involved in anyone's life. On the wedding day I could see in her mom's eyes that she was disappointed she wasn't as involved as she should have been.

 

Moral of the story: She is an adult and she will choose to be involved or not to be. Unfortunately all you can do is tell her how hurt you are by her actions and then move on. Surround yourself with people who care for you and will support you.

 

We are here for you girlie!!! I'm so sorry you have to go through this!

[merrylee]

I am so sorry to hear that and I know it's not easy to let it disappoint you, but she'll end up feeling worse about it than you will.

 

You will have an amazing experience with your friends, and you'll be so glad they were there too