Honoring those that have passed away

[acireta]

10 years old?!? wow. what an amazing guy you are marrying! I was 23 and overwhelmed taking care of him, I can't even imagine.

 

The lapel pin is so beautiful, and the watch idea is just precious. He is lucky to have such a thoughtful fiancee!

[wilsonj2]

Love the lapel idea!  Thinking of having my mom walk me down...

[delgadot]

Hello ladies I am crying as I am typing this because I lost my dad suddenly in 2008 and I was a daddy's girl and it has been so hard to accept the fact that he is not here. Everyone knows how much my dad meant to me. I posted my engagement story on here and if you read it the morning my FI was going to propose he took the video camera and went to the cemetery he placed the video camera on top of my dad's stone, got down and asked my dad for permission to marry me!! It was awesome. I felt so good to know that my dad was still involved in some way:) But as for the wedding itself I am having a hard time deciding how to honor him. My dad not being here is a very sensitive topic for me and my siblings I don't want everyone crying and making my wedding a sad day...My mom will walk me down the aisle and I am going to have a picture frame charm of him on my bouquet so that he will be walking me down the aisle too....but other then that I really don't think I nor my family will be able to handle much else.... 

[LisaMatterni]

 

 

Originally Posted by delgadot 

 

Hello ladies I am crying as I am typing this because I lost my dad suddenly in 2008 and I was a daddy's girl and it has been so hard to accept the fact that he is not here. Everyone knows how much my dad meant to me. I posted my engagement story on here and if you read it the morning my FI was going to propose he took the video camera and went to the cemetery he placed the video camera on top of my dad's stone, got down and asked my dad for permission to marry me!! It was awesome. I felt so good to know that my dad was still involved in some way:) But as for the wedding itself I am having a hard time deciding how to honor him. My dad not being here is a very sensitive topic for me and my siblings I don't want everyone crying and making my wedding a sad day...My mom will walk me down the aisle and I am going to have a picture frame charm of him on my bouquet so that he will be walking me down the aisle too....but other then that I really don't think I nor my family will be able to handle much else.... 

 

I'm sorry for the loss but I'm sure that your Dad is happy for you. I really like the engagement story. Your FI is very respectful person, it's really awesome. I'm hoping you the best on your wedding day despite the absence of your dad. Just think of it, he's watching over you. Good luck on your wedding day!

[delgadot]

Thank you:)
 

Originally Posted by LisaMatterni 

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Originally Posted by delgadot 

Hello ladies I am crying as I am typing this because I lost my dad suddenly in 2008 and I was a daddy's girl and it has been so hard to accept the fact that he is not here. Everyone knows how much my dad meant to me. I posted my engagement story on here and if you read it the morning my FI was going to propose he took the video camera and went to the cemetery he placed the video camera on top of my dad's stone, got down and asked my dad for permission to marry me!! It was awesome. I felt so good to know that my dad was still involved in some way:) But as for the wedding itself I am having a hard time deciding how to honor him. My dad not being here is a very sensitive topic for me and my siblings I don't want everyone crying and making my wedding a sad day...My mom will walk me down the aisle and I am going to have a picture frame charm of him on my bouquet so that he will be walking me down the aisle too....but other then that I really don't think I nor my family will be able to handle much else.... 

I'm sorry for the loss but I'm sure that your Dad is happy for you. I really like the engagement story. Your FI is very respectful person, it's really awesome. I'm hoping you the best on your wedding day despite the absence of your dad. Just think of it, he's watching over you. Good luck on your wedding day!

[Lindslou]

OMG I love this idea!!! I too lost my dad 2 years ago and have really been struggling with him not being there.  I was trying to come up with something to do but everything I can think of just makes me cry and I know it will make it sooo hard for me on the wedding day to have something so visual.  I wish I found this earlier cause we leave next weekend   Wish you all the best of luck and you know he will be right there with you in spirit

Originally Posted by schmizer 

My fiance's dad passed away from terminal cancer.  To make a long story short, Fi was left here in the US to care for him while his mother and sister moved back to Taiwan.  He was only 10 years old.  I know how close they were and when we were talking about not having his physical presence at the wedding, FI broke down and cried.

 

I have racked my brain for ways to honor him in our ceremony. One of the things I am doing is something like this...

 

Found this on etsy and I think it is perfect for inside his lapel.  I am also having his dad's watch fixed (doesn't work) so he can wear it that day...

 

 

 

 

[NikkiT1021]

I totally teared up when I saw the lapel!  What a great idea! 

My FI's mother passed away several years ago and they were very close. We haven't talked much about how to incoporate her memory into our wedding since it's hard for him to talk about it, however I've been thinking since we got engaged "how can I involve his mom?"  I'm thinking maybe getting him a lapel as a wedding gift the morning of and he can wear it next to his boutinerre.  I know it will mean more to him than anything else in the world.

I also love the idea about reserving a seat.  Thanks for all the great ideas girls! 

[dcairns]

My grandmother was very important to me. So I bought this for my bouquet

 

http://www.etsy.com/transaction/36585460

 

Also will have a frame and a Seat for her...

[ckntb]

These are all wonderful ideas

[mdcoug]

These ideas are so awesome, I lost my mom in 2010, my younger sister in 1998. These ideas were making me tear up reading them.