Should I send invitations to.....

[JaimeLynne]

We already know "through the grapevine" that most of FI's extended family will not be coming, but we still plan on sending them STD's and invites. I say, you never know - they might come! Plus some of them are so far away it's a good way to keep in contact and let them know we are still thinking of them...

[cheese_diva]

We sent out STDs to all guests on our list (small guest list, immediate family and close friends, no co-workers, nobody that I didn't know their last names, etc)

 

We didn't ask for an RSVP but many signed our guestbook online stating they'd come or not. Because we put.."formal invite to follow" on the STD, we thought it only proper to send them an invite to. Because our guest list was small, we were able to send everyone an invite even if they told us they couldn't make it or didn't think so.

 

This way I have a final RSVP count.

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by MoBride When I asked my Mom about this topic she said not to send invites to people you know cannot make it because it looks like you are expecting a gift. I don't know if I buy that but I thought it was worth mentioning.

I see how it would look that way, particularly if the recepient is someone you don't speak to on a regular basis.

[royfa]

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Originally Posted by starchild I see how it would look that way, particularly if the recepient is someone you don't speak to on a regular basis.

I agree!!!

[cheese_diva]

I sort of agree about it looking for a gift, that's why we didn't invite extended family that I haven't seen in years in the first place (knowing they probably wouldn't come) however, people are going to complain regardless.. either they complain because they get an invite even though you know they aren't coming, or they complain because they didn't get an invite.. lol you can't win!!

[coming together]

We are sending them to everyone. We don't keep in touch with my dad's side of the family, but I am still sending them invites. We feel that sending everyone invites keeps everyone in the loop, and lets them know that we want them to be a part of our wedding (even if they can't attend).

[1elephant]

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Originally Posted by beachbride I sent my STD's to everyone ..

there is something so wrong with this statement

[TaraDM916]

We are having an AHR. I think I am going to send STDs and then invitations for both the DW and AHR at the same time. Then, people that won't be going to Mexico may still attend the AHR. If I do these kinds of invites, do I enclose two RSVP cards, or one with two blanks?

[BrittneyD]

We are sending invitations to everyone that got an STD. It is easy for us though because my dad is a printer, and is doing our invitation for free. We are also having an AHR, so there will be an insert in the invitation for that. We are doing an on-line RSVP, so I don't know about how many cards you do. Maybe you can find a way to get the RSVP for both on the same card.

[MsShelley]

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Originally Posted by naughie there is something so wrong with this statement

that's hilarious... maybe I should out loud before posting!!!