Just Curious- do you find this forum "clique-ish"

[QueenDiva]

I'm just curious and would like to hear from others. Do you find this forum to be kinda clique-ish? I love so much on here & get great ideas, but I find myself sometimes not wanting to contribute a thought because it seems so clique-ish sometimes. Kinda like people have their own little friends that they talk to and your voice just kinda gets lost here...

[ACDCDCAC]

Honestly I can see why someone might feel that way... We are a HUGE community, and members do tend to break off into groups when they start finding others with similar interests, resorts, wedding dates, styles, etc. But I think we do a pretty good job of making sure there is something for anyone and everyone. Please don't let it stop you from contributing, think about it, the next person may feel that way about you...

[QueenDiva]

Thanks Abbie, I do intend to stick around, lol.

[acireta]

 

 

Originally Posted by QueenDiva 

 

I'm just curious and would like to hear from others. Do you find this forum to be kinda clique-ish? I love so much on here & get great ideas, but I find myself sometimes not wanting to contribute a thought because it seems so clique-ish sometimes. Kinda like people have their own little friends that they talk to and your voice just kinda gets lost here...

 

no way girl! i'm sure there are people who don't even log-in, who read and "hear" what you're saying! (and they probably stole some of your boarding pass ideas because you did a great job)

 

i don't really talk to anyone specific on here, we can start a Chicago clique!  ;-)

 

[ACDCDCAC]

hi erica! there's my newest love hehehe

[acireta]

mwah! :-)
 

Originally Posted by Abbie 

hi erica! there's my newest love hehehe

[schmizer]

I think that in any social network, there are cliques.  But I have found people to be incredibly helpful, especially when they see you are going to contribute...

 

I think there are a lot of people that come on here and ask a question or two and then you never see them again.  I can see how that would get frustrating or annoying to others.

 

BTW- I think the midwest brides should unite:)

[cookiemunchkin]

Totally agree with this.

 

One thing I noticed when I joined is that I started new threads when I wanted to ask a question and would get very few responses... and like you, I felt a bit like I was being ignored.  But then I started posting in some of the more established threads, and got TONS of responses!  I think its more that people revisit the same threads over and over, so you'll be more "noticed" by posting in one of those than by starting a new thread.

 

Overall, people are super helpful if they do see your messages.  Try posting in one for the resort you will be getting married at, i'm sure there will be a lot of help for you there

 

Originally Posted by schmizer 

I think that in any social network, there are cliques.  But I have found people to be incredibly helpful, especially when they see you are going to contribute...

 

I think there are a lot of people that come on here and ask a question or two and then you never see them again.  I can see how that would get frustrating or annoying to others.

 

[acireta]

well said. midwest BDW brides, unite!
 

Originally Posted by schmizer 

I think that in any social network, there are cliques.  But I have found people to be incredibly helpful, especially when they see you are going to contribute...

 

I think there are a lot of people that come on here and ask a question or two and then you never see them again.  I can see how that would get frustrating or annoying to others.

 

BTW- I think the midwest brides should unite:)

 

[CourtneyV]

 

Originally Posted by cookiemunchkin 

Totally agree with this.

 

One thing I noticed when I joined is that I started new threads when I wanted to ask a question and would get very few responses... and like you, I felt a bit like I was being ignored.  But then I started posting in some of the more established threads, and got TONS of responses!  I think its more that people revisit the same threads over and over, so you'll be more "noticed" by posting in one of those than by starting a new thread.

 

Overall, people are super helpful if they do see your messages.  Try posting in one for the resort you will be getting married at, i'm sure there will be a lot of help for you there

 

 

 

I'm not saying you're one of these people - I have no idea what threads you've started since I'm not an everyday member of the forum anymore, but sometimes I ignore new threads because the question asked has been done so several times, that answering it again starts to get frustrating when the answer is already out there... KWIM?  It has nothing to do with you in any way!

 

Having said that, I have a number of friends that I've made on this forum, so yeah, I'm probably more likely to chat with them because I know them... but it doesn't mean to say I won't chat with others either.