Moon Palace 2012 Brides

[coconoir1908]

Hi Ladies,

 

I wanted to share with you the update on my cousin who isn't going to my wedding but still never said that she wasn't.  However; her mom (My Aunt) told my other Aunt that she wasn't. 

 

So, since I paid for all of the dress I thought it was only fair to ask that she pay for hers since she is no longer going to the wedding.  It took me a while to figure out the exact wording as my cousin finds everything that is not something that she initiates either offensive or beneath her. In either case after writing the below message (in Pink), and reading it to my Aunt and a friend who knows nothing about my cousin both said "it's great, not mean etc..  So I emailed her.

 

My message

 

Nikki,

I hope that you and Drew had a wonderful Holiday Season, and that this message finds you in good health mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

This communication; although hesitantly written, is unfortunately necessary. There is so much that I would like to say and ask of you, however; without wanting things to be misconstrued I will not. Yet, I pray that whatever the reason that we do not have your support will be discussed in time.

With that said, I ask that you reimburse me the cost of the dress, which is $268. I believe that this is far as it was advised that the purchase of the bridesmaids dress was a gift to say “Thank you†and to help offset the cost for attending our wedding. Since, you will not attend, coupled with the fact that there was plenty of communications and time to decline your involvement prior to my purchasing the dress, this is all that I ask and hope that this is acknowledged.

You can remit payment in whichever manner you choose, however; I am set-up on PayPal as [email protected]. Once payment is received, I will be more than happy to send the dress your way.

Thank you for your time an attention to this sensitive matter.

 

Today I received her response (in blue)

 

Chanel

 

The check is in the mail! I made it an even $300 and please don't send the dress. I have absolutely NO use for it and perhaps someone else can wear it in your wedding. With that being said, I find it borderline offensive that you assumed that I would not reimburse you since I'm completely aware of how expensive weddings can be.

Best Regards,
Nikki King

 

And here is my response (pink)

 

Nikki, I assumed you would find any communication to you offensive which is sad!

My communication with you has always been straightforward & not written in any angry or offensive manner. Yet, since you HAVE NOT communicated to me at all regarding my wedding (which I find insulting & offensive to say the least especially after all that I did to be a part of your day) & given that we are all busy, I sent an email to say "hey can you resolve this" that was it! Nothing more & nothing less. You should know me better than that but given the tone in your response, I gather you do not.

Again, no spite, hate etc. this is not about you, or your day but MINE!
May your heart, mind, & burdens be light! As I was NEVER or will ever be against you!!!!!!!

 

Unfortunate as this is (and she is family), it shows you that no one is exempt.  Not even those of us who uphold our commitments to friends and family.  So hopefully the check is in the mail & I will put the dress on eBay to try and recoup for more. 

 

 

 

[YWS2012]

WOW COCO WOW!!!!!!

 

 It's unbelievable crazy how "OUR FAMILIES & FRIENDS" become strangers to us during the happiest times of our lives. well hopefully the check is in the so you don't have to deal with for while .

 

 

 

Originally Posted by coconoir1908 

Hi Ladies,

 

I wanted to share with you the update on my cousin who isn't going to my wedding but still never said that she wasn't.  However; her mom (My Aunt) told my other Aunt that she wasn't. 

 

So, since I paid for all of the dress I thought it was only fair to ask that she pay for hers since she is no longer going to the wedding.  It took me a while to figure out the exact wording as my cousin finds everything that is not something that she initiates either offensive or beneath her. In either case after writing the below message (in Pink), and reading it to my Aunt and a friend who knows nothing about my cousin both said "it's great, not mean etc..  So I emailed her.

 

My message

 

Nikki,

I hope that you and Drew had a wonderful Holiday Season, and that this message finds you in good health mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

This communication; although hesitantly written, is unfortunately necessary. There is so much that I would like to say and ask of you, however; without wanting things to be misconstrued I will not. Yet, I pray that whatever the reason that we do not have your support will be discussed in time.

With that said, I ask that you reimburse me the cost of the dress, which is $268. I believe that this is far as it was advised that the purchase of the bridesmaids dress was a gift to say “Thank you†and to help offset the cost for attending our wedding. Since, you will not attend, coupled with the fact that there was plenty of communications and time to decline your involvement prior to my purchasing the dress, this is all that I ask and hope that this is acknowledged.

You can remit payment in whichever manner you choose, however; I am set-up on PayPal as [email protected]. Once payment is received, I will be more than happy to send the dress your way.

Thank you for your time an attention to this sensitive matter.

 

Today I received her response (in blue)

 

Chanel

 

The check is in the mail! I made it an even $300 and please don't send the dress. I have absolutely NO use for it and perhaps someone else can wear it in your wedding. With that being said, I find it borderline offensive that you assumed that I would not reimburse you since I'm completely aware of how expensive weddings can be.

Best Regards,
Nikki King

 

And here is my response (pink)

 

Nikki, I assumed you would find any communication to you offensive which is sad!

My communication with you has always been straightforward & not written in any angry or offensive manner. Yet, since you HAVE NOT communicated to me at all regarding my wedding (which I find insulting & offensive to say the least especially after all that I did to be a part of your day) & given that we are all busy, I sent an email to say "hey can you resolve this" that was it! Nothing more & nothing less. You should know me better than that but given the tone in your response, I gather you do not.

Again, no spite, hate etc. this is not about you, or your day but MINE!
May your heart, mind, & burdens be light! As I was NEVER or will ever be against you!!!!!!!

 

Unfortunate as this is (and she is family), it shows you that no one is exempt.  Not even those of us who uphold our commitments to friends and family.  So hopefully the check is in the mail & I will put the dress on eBay to try and recoup for more. 

 

 

 

 

[JQLong]

Ms. Coconoir.....

 

You were extremely eloquent & mature in your email despite the difficult message you had to convey.  Sadly, the reaction was not equally mature.  It really seems that wedding bring out the worst in many people.  Emotions run high and it typically is directed towards the bride ....and they wonder why we become BRIDEZILLAS!!!!!!

 

I have to say....I am not sure I would have been able to keep my cool with that response.....but KUDOS to you!!!!

 

Go Coco...Go Coco! It's your day!

 

Take care....and keep the positive vibe flowing!!!

 

JQ

 

Originally Posted by coconoir1908 

Hi Ladies,

 

I wanted to share with you the update on my cousin who isn't going to my wedding but still never said that she wasn't.  However; her mom (My Aunt) told my other Aunt that she wasn't. 

 

So, since I paid for all of the dress I thought it was only fair to ask that she pay for hers since she is no longer going to the wedding.  It took me a while to figure out the exact wording as my cousin finds everything that is not something that she initiates either offensive or beneath her. In either case after writing the below message (in Pink), and reading it to my Aunt and a friend who knows nothing about my cousin both said "it's great, not mean etc..  So I emailed her.

 

My message

 

Nikki,

I hope that you and Drew had a wonderful Holiday Season, and that this message finds you in good health mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

This communication; although hesitantly written, is unfortunately necessary. There is so much that I would like to say and ask of you, however; without wanting things to be misconstrued I will not. Yet, I pray that whatever the reason that we do not have your support will be discussed in time.

With that said, I ask that you reimburse me the cost of the dress, which is $268. I believe that this is far as it was advised that the purchase of the bridesmaids dress was a gift to say “Thank you†and to help offset the cost for attending our wedding. Since, you will not attend, coupled with the fact that there was plenty of communications and time to decline your involvement prior to my purchasing the dress, this is all that I ask and hope that this is acknowledged.

You can remit payment in whichever manner you choose, however; I am set-up on PayPal as [email protected]. Once payment is received, I will be more than happy to send the dress your way.

Thank you for your time an attention to this sensitive matter.

 

Today I received her response (in blue)

 

Chanel

 

The check is in the mail! I made it an even $300 and please don't send the dress. I have absolutely NO use for it and perhaps someone else can wear it in your wedding. With that being said, I find it borderline offensive that you assumed that I would not reimburse you since I'm completely aware of how expensive weddings can be.

Best Regards,
Nikki King

 

And here is my response (pink)

 

Nikki, I assumed you would find any communication to you offensive which is sad!

My communication with you has always been straightforward & not written in any angry or offensive manner. Yet, since you HAVE NOT communicated to me at all regarding my wedding (which I find insulting & offensive to say the least especially after all that I did to be a part of your day) & given that we are all busy, I sent an email to say "hey can you resolve this" that was it! Nothing more & nothing less. You should know me better than that but given the tone in your response, I gather you do not.

Again, no spite, hate etc. this is not about you, or your day but MINE!
May your heart, mind, & burdens be light! As I was NEVER or will ever be against you!!!!!!!

 

Unfortunate as this is (and she is family), it shows you that no one is exempt.  Not even those of us who uphold our commitments to friends and family.  So hopefully the check is in the mail & I will put the dress on eBay to try and recoup for more. 

 

 

 

 

[OceanPhoto]

So sad to hear that Coconoir1908:

 

I still cant understand why your cousin assume you will know she will pay for the dress, if in the firts place she never told  she wouldnt attend to your wedding, so you made the right thing to writte her, people surprise us everyday, its so sad when things like this happens, hope you feel better now this issue its resolve, hope soon or later she regreat  not attendingt to your big day im pretty sure its going to be amazing!

 

Happy Weekend!

[JennyLynn]

Hi Everyone! I'm Jenny and  new to the forum I've been trying to get a date set for May 2012    I submitted a wedding request and emailed more than once and no one get back to me. Does everyone have this trouble trying to secure a date? Thank you sooo much I'm sure I will be on here a lot

[Jamie5280]

Oh Coco!!! 

 

Of course, another person making it all about themselves!  I felt that your e-mail was VERY eloquent and you didn't attack her, which is most important! People just don't get it!  It's even worse because it's family!!!  There is no easy way to say what you had to say, but you did it like a lady and with class!

 

As we all say, weddings really do bring out the worst in people, which is hurtful and sad!

 

I am soo sorry my dear!  Big Hugs to you!!!!!!   

Originally Posted by coconoir1908 

Hi Ladies,

 

I wanted to share with you the update on my cousin who isn't going to my wedding but still never said that she wasn't.  However; her mom (My Aunt) told my other Aunt that she wasn't. 

 

So, since I paid for all of the dress I thought it was only fair to ask that she pay for hers since she is no longer going to the wedding.  It took me a while to figure out the exact wording as my cousin finds everything that is not something that she initiates either offensive or beneath her. In either case after writing the below message (in Pink), and reading it to my Aunt and a friend who knows nothing about my cousin both said "it's great, not mean etc..  So I emailed her.

 

My message

 

Nikki,

I hope that you and Drew had a wonderful Holiday Season, and that this message finds you in good health mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

This communication; although hesitantly written, is unfortunately necessary. There is so much that I would like to say and ask of you, however; without wanting things to be misconstrued I will not. Yet, I pray that whatever the reason that we do not have your support will be discussed in time.

With that said, I ask that you reimburse me the cost of the dress, which is $268. I believe that this is far as it was advised that the purchase of the bridesmaids dress was a gift to say “Thank you†and to help offset the cost for attending our wedding. Since, you will not attend, coupled with the fact that there was plenty of communications and time to decline your involvement prior to my purchasing the dress, this is all that I ask and hope that this is acknowledged.

You can remit payment in whichever manner you choose, however; I am set-up on PayPal as [email protected]. Once payment is received, I will be more than happy to send the dress your way.

Thank you for your time an attention to this sensitive matter.

 

Today I received her response (in blue)

 

Chanel

 

The check is in the mail! I made it an even $300 and please don't send the dress. I have absolutely NO use for it and perhaps someone else can wear it in your wedding. With that being said, I find it borderline offensive that you assumed that I would not reimburse you since I'm completely aware of how expensive weddings can be.

Best Regards,
Nikki King

 

And here is my response (pink)

 

Nikki, I assumed you would find any communication to you offensive which is sad!

My communication with you has always been straightforward & not written in any angry or offensive manner. Yet, since you HAVE NOT communicated to me at all regarding my wedding (which I find insulting & offensive to say the least especially after all that I did to be a part of your day) & given that we are all busy, I sent an email to say "hey can you resolve this" that was it! Nothing more & nothing less. You should know me better than that but given the tone in your response, I gather you do not.

Again, no spite, hate etc. this is not about you, or your day but MINE!
May your heart, mind, & burdens be light! As I was NEVER or will ever be against you!!!!!!!

 

Unfortunate as this is (and she is family), it shows you that no one is exempt.  Not even those of us who uphold our commitments to friends and family.  So hopefully the check is in the mail & I will put the dress on eBay to try and recoup for more. 

 

 

 

 

[Palacebridex2]

Girl, I'm at a loss for words!! Wow! She is really upset about something that she's not sharing with you!! Girl, all you can do is keep it moving.  Don't let anyone ( family or not spoil your joy) things will end up how they are supposed to be!

Originally Posted by coconoir1908 

Hi Ladies,

 

I wanted to share with you the update on my cousin who isn't going to my wedding but still never said that she wasn't.  However; her mom (My Aunt) told my other Aunt that she wasn't. 

 

So, since I paid for all of the dress I thought it was only fair to ask that she pay for hers since she is no longer going to the wedding.  It took me a while to figure out the exact wording as my cousin finds everything that is not something that she initiates either offensive or beneath her. In either case after writing the below message (in Pink), and reading it to my Aunt and a friend who knows nothing about my cousin both said "it's great, not mean etc..  So I emailed her.

 

My message

 

Nikki,

I hope that you and Drew had a wonderful Holiday Season, and that this message finds you in good health mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

This communication; although hesitantly written, is unfortunately necessary. There is so much that I would like to say and ask of you, however; without wanting things to be misconstrued I will not. Yet, I pray that whatever the reason that we do not have your support will be discussed in time.

With that said, I ask that you reimburse me the cost of the dress, which is $268. I believe that this is far as it was advised that the purchase of the bridesmaids dress was a gift to say “Thank you†and to help offset the cost for attending our wedding. Since, you will not attend, coupled with the fact that there was plenty of communications and time to decline your involvement prior to my purchasing the dress, this is all that I ask and hope that this is acknowledged.

You can remit payment in whichever manner you choose, however; I am set-up on PayPal as [email protected]. Once payment is received, I will be more than happy to send the dress your way.

Thank you for your time an attention to this sensitive matter.

 

Today I received her response (in blue)

 

Chanel

 

The check is in the mail! I made it an even $300 and please don't send the dress. I have absolutely NO use for it and perhaps someone else can wear it in your wedding. With that being said, I find it borderline offensive that you assumed that I would not reimburse you since I'm completely aware of how expensive weddings can be.

Best Regards,
Nikki King

 

And here is my response (pink)

 

Nikki, I assumed you would find any communication to you offensive which is sad!

My communication with you has always been straightforward & not written in any angry or offensive manner. Yet, since you HAVE NOT communicated to me at all regarding my wedding (which I find insulting & offensive to say the least especially after all that I did to be a part of your day) & given that we are all busy, I sent an email to say "hey can you resolve this" that was it! Nothing more & nothing less. You should know me better than that but given the tone in your response, I gather you do not.

Again, no spite, hate etc. this is not about you, or your day but MINE!
May your heart, mind, & burdens be light! As I was NEVER or will ever be against you!!!!!!!

 

Unfortunate as this is (and she is family), it shows you that no one is exempt.  Not even those of us who uphold our commitments to friends and family.  So hopefully the check is in the mail & I will put the dress on eBay to try and recoup for more. 

 

 

 

 

 

[coconoir1908]

Yes, hopefully she stays true to her word.  But, even if she doesn't the message sent will be my last of any kind to her.  Life goes on. 

Originally Posted by YWS2012 

WOW COCO WOW!!!!!!

 

 It's unbelievable crazy how "OUR FAMILIES & FRIENDS" become strangers to us during the happiest times of our lives. well hopefully the check is in the so you don't have to deal with for while .

 

 

 

 

Thanks so much JQ,  It's funny because it took a while to find the exact words (I was angry with her for a while) yet, when written in pure peace she even found that expensive which I eluded to in my reply back to her.  It's sad but she is my younger cousin (28) who is just starting to get into her own.  But as she found out and should already know is that "I give my all to everyone that I can, yet; I do not except BS from anyone EVER" 

 

Where about in NJ are you?  My main office is in Camden near Cooper but I travel to other sites extending to AC
 

 

Originally Posted by JQLong 

Ms. Coconoir.....

 

You were extremely eloquent & mature in your email despite the difficult message you had to convey.  Sadly, the reaction was not equally mature.  It really seems that wedding bring out the worst in many people.  Emotions run high and it typically is directed towards the bride ....and they wonder why we become BRIDEZILLAS!!!!!!

 

I have to say....I am not sure I would have been able to keep my cool with that response.....but KUDOS to you!!!!

 

Go Coco...Go Coco! It's your day!

 

Take care....and keep the positive vibe flowing!!!

 

JQ

 

 

Thanks SM,  the funny thing about it, is that I'm in damn near every picture (except those of the bride & groom) at her wedding.  So she has either a lot of cropping or deleting to do in her photos if she decides to go that route LOL.  I never wish anyone ill will but Karma is a bleep ;-)
 

 

Originally Posted by SMPhotography 

So sad to hear that Coconoir1908:

 

I still cant understand why your cousin assume you will know she will pay for the dress, if in the firts place she never told  she wouldnt attend to your wedding, so you made the right thing to writte her, people surprise us everyday, its so sad when things like this happens, hope you feel better now this issue its resolve, hope soon or later she regreat  not attendingt to your big day im pretty sure its going to be amazing!

 

Happy Weekend!

No sad faces my love!  The one thing that family prepares you for are "their reactions"  I know my cousin like the back of my hand so I knew that a response of some kind would be forth coming.  Yet that nature or content was unknown.  There is something going on with her (that doesn't concern me) yet she doesn't know how to channel her energy at all.  The bottom line is that I will sleep very well at night (as I have in the past) because I know that I have been more than fair in my dealings with her. 

 

Originally Posted by Jamie5280 

Oh Coco!!! 

 

Of course, another person making it all about themselves!  I felt that your e-mail was VERY eloquent and you didn't attack her, which is most important! People just don't get it!  It's even worse because it's family!!!  There is no easy way to say what you had to say, but you did it like a lady and with class!

 

As we all say, weddings really do bring out the worst in people, which is hurtful and sad!

 

I am soo sorry my dear!  Big Hugs to you!!!!!!   

 

Not about to let anyone ruin our day! It is not that crucial and negative energy is not allowed!!  How are you?

Originally Posted by Palacebridex2 

Girl, I'm at a loss for words!! Wow! She is really upset about something that she's not sharing with you!! Girl, all you can do is keep it moving.  Don't let anyone ( family or not spoil your joy) things will end up how they are supposed to be!

 

 

 

[coconoir1908]

Onto the good news I placed an order for FI's suit today from Studio Suits.  I ordered the present size of the Irish Linen in light beige.  The total price (he has a football build;-) was $230 for the suit which included an extra $10 for suit jacket (48R).  Shipping was $20.  So as soon as we receive this, I will post pictures.  I also emailed the gentlemen to give them a heads up as to when I will need their preset measurements. 

 

Once we implement our new database within all of our health 6 centers next week, I will be able to relax again and shortly start ordering decor based on our final numbers.  Also, FI told me last night that his daughter was going to go get her passport on Saturday.  *note if she does go and apply I will have an immediate update on Saturday.  I will allow her to be a bridesmaid again which will mean that I will post her information back on our wedding website, however; I will not do a reprint of our programs.  STAY TUNED!

[summer12]

 

 

Originally Posted by coconoir1908 

 

Onto the good news I placed an order for FI's suit today from Studio Suits.  I ordered the present size of the Irish Linen in light beige.  The total price (he has a football build;-) was $230 for the suit which included an extra $10 for suit jacket (48R).  Shipping was $20.  So as soon as we receive this, I will post pictures.  I also emailed the gentlemen to give them a heads up as to when I will need their preset measurements. 

 

Once we implement our new database within all of our health 6 centers next week, I will be able to relax again and shortly start ordering decor based on our final numbers.  Also, FI told me last night that his daughter was going to go get her passport on Saturday.  *note if she does go and apply I will have an immediate update on Saturday.  I will allow her to be a bridesmaid again which will mean that I will post her information back on our wedding website, however; I will not do a reprint of our programs.  STAY TUNED!

 

 

Whoop whoop! Can't wait to see the suit! And how exciting will it be to get the database implemented?!