Cash Wedding Registry - Is Anyone Doing This?

[anichols8]

We also were facing the same issue.  We have lived together for over a year and don't need anything.  We did decide to to ask for anything because guests are already going to be spending so much money to get there.

[carrieb258]

I agree i dont want to ask for anything, people are spending enough but equally I dont want to end up with 30 toasters! 

 

[Bruuning17]

My fiance and I feel the same.  We do not want anyone to get us gifts since they are paying enough to get to the wedding.  However, people keep telling me that our guests are going to get me things even if I tell them not to.  So, if we don't register or make it clear that we would prefer cash, then we may end up with 10 toasters that we really don't need!  I'm not sure what to do about it either, I really wish people would just NOT get us anything!

[Starfish0512]

" I heard that you can return gifts from BB&B for cash. "

 

 

 " ""Where did you hear this?!  FI and I made it very clear we wern't going to register and at first everyone was fine with it, we got the it's your wedding phrase... of course now that time has passed a bit I received a bit of heat from FMIL about people who don't register.  In our eyes, pick your battles right?  People are going to buy us things - although we own the house, have EVERYTHING, and really would ike cash but refuse to ask for it.  We have been trying to figure out a place to register so we can return for cash if need be.  I know how this sounds as I'm typing it, slightly ungrateful for people giving us gifts but we don't need anything... 

 

To preface the "heat" i mentioned from my FMIL, we are having a family only dw and when we return we are having our AHR, this is why she thinks we need to register (of course without directly saying it to me).
 

Origin"ally Posted by kellygrrrl 

here's how I handled it on our website:

 

http://jdandkellyswedding.weebly.com/registry.html

 

it basically says that if you're coming, that's your gift to us. but if you can't and would like to send something, we registered at BB&B. the whole registry process was super-fun. I realize that not everyone needs a toaster but sheets? towels? bathmats? those things are always welcome, and I heard that you can return gifts from BB&B for cash. the bulk of our registry is comprised of $10 or less kitchen implements, which means we'll finally have nice stuff. (we combined households and are still on the college hand-me-downs ; ). we also skipped the $500 calphalon sets (lovely as they were) because I didn't want my grandparents to send something expensive in lieu of them attending the wedding.

 

my brother did a cool online cash registry that was linked with paypal. basically, you could donate $$ to items he set up like 'Drinks on the Beach in Hawaii - $40' or 'Horseback Riding on the Beach - $75' or 'Helicopter Excursion - $150'. I don't think it matters what you use the money for - people will just be glad to have given it toward something specific I think.

 

barring everything else, I'd say word of mouth is the way to go with cash.

 

[kellygrrrl]

I either read it online, or they said it to us when we were registering. you may try calling your local store to see if the return policy varies.

 

Originally Posted by Starfish0512 

" I heard that you can return gifts from BB&B for cash. "

 

 

 " ""Where did you hear this?!  FI and I made it very clear we wern't going to register and at first everyone was fine with it, we got the it's your wedding phrase... of course now that time has passed a bit I received a bit of heat from FMIL about people who don't register.  In our eyes, pick your battles right?  People are going to buy us things - although we own the house, have EVERYTHING, and really would ike cash but refuse to ask for it.  We have been trying to figure out a place to register so we can return for cash if need be.  I know how this sounds as I'm typing it, slightly ungrateful for people giving us gifts but we don't need anything... 

 

To preface the "heat" i mentioned from my FMIL, we are having a family only dw and when we return we are having our AHR, this is why she thinks we need to register (of course without directly saying it to me).
 

 

 

[JessX823]

Use a honeymoon registry.  I've lived with my FI for almost 13 years so of course, our household is well established and we don't need another toaster or Cuisinart.

 

I used www.honeyfund.com and connected it with my paypal account.  Basically, you can set it up any way you want with different prices such as $50 towards airfare for two to Paris or $25 for spa services.  Your guest would just pick one and pay for it via paypal, credit card or even print out the coupon and give you cash or check.  The money goes straight to your paypal account. There's a small fee but this way your guests can use their credit card if they want to instead of just giving you cash.

 

[mishele81]

This is a fab idea, the honeyfund. I am still debating. I really don't want anything as we also live together, but when there is a bridal shower - I'd rather get items that I want than random things we don't need, it's such a sticky situation.   I think ultimately we will have a small registry, and hope that people will get the hint that we don't want anything or need anything .

[cpowell623]

Cash wedding registries are becoming more common and are not any more tacky than asking for gifts. A cash wedding registry can be used as a primary registry or as a supplemental registry. If you have multiple options then your guests have the option to do what they are comfortable with. A few options include Our Wishing Well, Cash Wedding GIft and Deposit A Gift.