Difficult parents/relatives

[sunstarsmoon]

 

 

Originally Posted by Majimart 

 

Update:  Parents and uncle have now cancelled their entire trip!  This must be a blessing in disguise!  I'm also getting emails about how selfish I am, and now my fiance is a "drunk" because we chose an all-inclusive resort, and I have somehow managed to squander my education in this whole process too (?!?).  Apparently we've now ruined our lives completely for not inviting these strangers.

 

Oh dear! 

 

I think I am now happy they are not coming--will be less stressful this way! 

 

This must be the first wedding that breaks up a family rather than bringing them together.  It must be for the best--sometimes things like this happen for a reason.

 

Nevertheless, we fly on Monday!  Can't wait! 

 

Best of luck to everyone else struggling with family issues.  I've learned just to "let it go."

 

 

You don't need that kinda of stress, and must be so relieved that they are not coming.  Have a great wedding and vacation and enjoy all those that will be there!

[clgriffi7]

I am sorry to hear your parents and uncle have chosen so poorly, but it is amazing that you are in such a good place about it.  You were 100% right to do what you did and not invite the friends.  Your parents should never have put that request on your shoulders - not even if you were getting married near home.

 

I hope you have a wonderful wedding next week with NO DRAMA.

 

Originally Posted by Majimart 

Update:  Parents and uncle have now cancelled their entire trip!  This must be a blessing in disguise!  I'm also getting emails about how selfish I am, and now my fiance is a "drunk" because we chose an all-inclusive resort, and I have somehow managed to squander my education in this whole process too (?!?).  Apparently we've now ruined our lives completely for not inviting these strangers.

 

Oh dear! 

 

I think I am now happy they are not coming--will be less stressful this way! 

 

This must be the first wedding that breaks up a family rather than bringing them together.  It must be for the best--sometimes things like this happen for a reason.

 

Nevertheless, we fly on Monday!  Can't wait! 

 

Best of luck to everyone else struggling with family issues.  I've learned just to "let it go."

[islandbride8]

I agree. Things happen for a reason.  It's sad people are treating you this way, especially so close to your Happily Ever After!  The first time I every heard of an AI resort was about 6 years ago when my parents went to Cancun.  Guess what?!?!  Neither of them drink, ever!  Don't let harsh words stick in your mind.  They will live to regret this, but they should be the one's to live regreting their decision, not you.  You will be a beautiful bride!  Good luck and Congrats!!!!

[AfricanVenus]

That's the spirit love. Let go and let flow. This is NOT about them! Be blessed and congrats on your wedding!

[Amanda+Dave]

Sorry to hear about your situation.

We went through something similar with my FI's parents. They made up a million and one excuses as to why they would not attend. Then finally, they decided to come and asked if we would invite their neighbours. So I didn't want to, but I wanted his parents to be there because I didn't want him to have any sadness on our wedding day, so we invited the neighbours ... who declined!! That made me mad, because we wasted the money on the invitation for them and they weren't even coming!!

Anyway, his parents are coming now, but they are staying in a separate villa. They are going to cook and clean because they didn't want the AI option and both FI and I have agreed that we will not be spending time away from our other guests to hang out with them, They couldn't do what we asked, they had to be difficult and we are not going to let it ruin what we have planned to be an amazing trip.

 

PS so exciting that you leave so soon!!! Good luck and congratulations. I am sure everything will be amazing, and your parents should be ashamed of themselves for missing it!

[karyan]

So glad that you decided to stand your ground! It's your parents that are the selfish ones in not attending, and they will have to explain why they aren't at their child's wedding.

 

Make sure you send them a lovely photo of you enjoying yourself with all your guests, and add "Had a perfect day! So glad we decided to go away for the wedding!"

[sebitasalejo]

Hopefully the rest of the guests will let your parents know about how beautiful and amazing your wedding was. They will wish there had gone. 

I also hope you can sort out these issues for the good of the family you are starting. Good luck!