ANNOYED OF PPL ASKING WHY THEY ARE NOT INVITED!!!

[clgriffi7]

We are having to do invite tiers for our wedding.  We are telling those in the 2nd tier that have heard about the wedding that we have had to limit the list based on the number of family members my fiance has (which is so true!).  We are also telling them that once we hear back yes or no from those family members we will send out more invites.  In my case this is actually true - but you could probably use an excuse like because friends will never know how out of town family responded. 

[Aumuller]

People who ask questions like that obviously haven't been married because I think if they had they would realize more guests = more money! So of course you're not gonna invite someone you don't every talk to or barely know! And seriously I would just respond with, would you invite me to your wedding?

[bmadzia1]

I agree with all of you.  How rude to ask. I couldn never do it. If I see people that are getting married, I'll comment, or ask how things are going, but I never HINT or ask - WHY YOU DIDN'T INVITE ME??? And I never hold a grudge.

 

We are sending out 40 invites (which comes to 75 pple).  We already know that 25% is not coming, but we think it's still proper to send them the invites.  I had someone ask me the other day why they didn't get the STD card, and I just simply said that we are having a small ceremony among closest friends and family.  And when they insist, I become very BLUNT and ask: "Seriously, how many times have we spoken this year?". And if they insist, I tell them the price of the package (adding a couple hundred per person). Then they look at you like you fell of the moon .

 

They do not realize, that when you exceed a certain number of people, it costs you more money. And the reason for getting married DW style, is to cut the spending. Plus, I'm not big on being the centre of attention. I'm inviting people that I KNOW I can spend an entire week with ))))

[MrsJones2Be]

I agree as well! This is YOUR day and no one should make you feel uncomfortable because they did not get invited. Do what makes you happy girl!

[jrod07]

We sent out 60 STD to our closest friends and families.  People who were not invited keep approaching my mother and my future mother in law asking them why they didn't receive one and if they can tell me to make sure to send them the official invite.  So, not only are they putting me in an awkward position, they're also making my mother and future mother in law uncomfortable.  It's crazy how some people just can't get a clue. 

[mochamakes3]

We haven't sent out our invites yet so hopefully that doesn't happen, but my attitude has tried to be, "It's our wedding, we're getting married there, anyone that can afford it is welcome." But they better not complain about anything!

[SusanJeff2008]

I'm not at that stage yet but I was afraid of that. I still don't know what I will do if they ask, lol

[MrsJones2Be]

I agree, that is soooo rude! Your wedding should be full of people that are actively involved in your life, not random people you met once or twice. Or even people who you don't talk to on the regular. I am about to send out my STD and I am preparing myself for the storm that will be brewing! LOL!