Unique Thank You Card/Etiquette situation

sheila2011 · October 5, 2010

Hi Girls,

I did a search and couldn't find anyone who is in the same position! This weekend my friends threw me a stagette and I received several shower type gifts. One of my other friends wants to hold an actual bridal shower for me and I couldn't tell her no since it means so much to her (long story).

1) Is it polite to send invites to the real shower to people who gave me shower-type gifts at the stagette?

2) I will be sending those people thank yous, but should I also send thank yous to everyone who attended?

3) I only requested that the people I invited to the wedding be invited to the events, I believe this is correct but am I wrong? I am second guessing everything I do in terms of etiquette!

I hope this makes sense and if someone can help me/give me their opinions I would appreciate it!!

PaperBagPrincess · October 5, 2010

I hear you I have been questioning stuff like this too

1) I would still invite the girls that gave you stagette gifts, but make sure they know there is no need for gifts and if they can't make it, you totally understand, they already celebrated with you

2) I would send a thank you to everyone. But I would add a personal note about the gifts... Thank you for.... it was great... or I am looking forward to using it...

3) I would only invite people that are invited to the wedding. Recently I was invited to a shower and not the wedding. It made me think "I'm a good enough friend to take a gift from, but not invite to your wedding?" When I asked around not everyone felt this way. I found that the mom's and older people thought it was okay. Anyone my age (30 or so) thought it was rude. So you may want to ask around on this one.

Interested in seeing what other ladies think Good luck and let us know what you decide.