Invites vs. Announcements

[RAENJAY]

Ok, I'm probably stressing over NOTHING, but.... Do I really HAVE TO SEND formal invitations, yes, I will to the people who I know are coming, but at this point even 8 months out, we know who is and who isn't coming to Cabo. Can I just send an announcement after we get back? We aren't having an AHR, so I'm getting so confused.

[JENGONDA9]

Oh my gosh, you are so funny! my fiance' and his mother and I had a HUGE "discussion" about this very thing!!! It is the only major issue we have had so far! I really wanted to do a simple postcard, and they really wanted a full invite.

 

At 7 months out, we ended up sending a greeting card style invite. It had a pic of us on the front cover from when we got engaged in Cabo, with the sunset behind us. When you opened it up, it had a brief informal invite that referred people to our website. I can send you the template if you want. Our guests LOVED it!! Everyone has it on their fridge. And then the people who aren't coming can still post something to your guestbook or find out where your registry is. The only problem is that a bunch of people we didn't expect surprised us and decided to come. Good luck!

[JPMO]

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Originally Posted by RAENJAY Ok, I'm probably stressing over NOTHING, but.... Do I really HAVE TO SEND formal invitations, yes, I will to the people who I know are coming, but at this point even 8 months out, we know who is and who isn't coming to Cabo. Can I just send an announcement after we get back? We aren't having an AHR, so I'm getting so confused.

I like so many others on this board am in the same situation. We sent out a passport style STD which was pretty inclusive. For those coming I will send a formal invite; not because we have to but becasue I want to. I also want to send out a formal announcement after the wedding. Both the invite and the announcement are unnecessary, but since it is destination I thought why not.

[gkashmira]

Stephanie - It's a tough decision. I think that if you invite people then a few you didn't think were going to ake it will come. If that's okay then it's not a big deal but if you've budgetd for a specific amount of people it might cause problems later to add...

 

Honestly I don't know - my parents insisted on inviting everyone so I guess we'll just see how many people decide to come!

[TOESNTHESND]

We are sending out STD's and formal invites. Eventhough we pretty much know who is coming we are still sending both. Just cause I want to.

[Jackie]

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Originally Posted by TOESNTHESND We are sending out STD's and formal invites. Eventhough we pretty much know who is coming we are still sending both. Just cause I want to.

I agree, I think invitations are so fun. But I suppose if you arent into the idea then you dont need to. Thats what I love about a destination wedding, You can pretty much throw any ritual/tradition out the window and add new ones as you please. I say, do whatever the heck you wanna do, Its your wedding.

[TammyB]

We did formal invites and STD's but we only sent them out to the people that we knew were coming or the ones that we thought "might" come. I also plan on sending out an annoucement after our wedding to everyone with a picture.

[SASSYGIRL]

I loved our STD's and they cost a pretty penny. It seems silly to me to send out invitations that will be less impressive than what our save the dates looked like (especially when I already know who is coming to the wedding and who will not be able to make it!) I bet my guest would rather me save the $ and put it to better use!

[MERRYME]

I love my formal invites! I sent them to everyone. I know it is expensive but they are sooo worth it! Maybe it is just me but I don't think I would have felt like I was getting married withought them!

[Sarah]

I really just think it is a personal preference and depends on who you would be sending them too. My STD's were quite elaborate but I had fun making them (wow- I already got over the "I'm never doing this again!" Scary). I'm sure I will come up with something to make that looks similar to the STD's to keep the theme going. We have a lot of people who would like to be a part but won't be able to make it, so it is important to FI & I that people still receive an invite. I probably will make it be a combo invite/announcement of some sort.