How are you having your marriage recognized by the Catholic Church when you return home?

[KJ Shea]

Hi, I am wondering how everyone is having their marriage recognized by the church? I spoke with our church and they agreed that we can get married in the church as long as we have a symbolic beach wedding.

 

I was even fortunate enough to book the Church for the day of our AHR which is very convenient.

 

This is fine except there is going to be two months between the ceremonies and I feel a little funny about not being "legally" married for those two months. 

 

What is everyone else doing??

[AngieEH]

I'm doing EXACTLY what you're doing. But the church one will be BLOOD only. Only people related by blood (with exception of my God parents, who are in Malaysia anyway and haven't expressed any interest thus far) will be there. Then straight to restaurant for some eats and I plan to come to my place straight after and doing the tea ceremony (I'm Chinese). I'll probably be the only one in my family to do all 3 things in one evening haha

 

What's your time lapse between your destination and church one?

[gersbja]

Thats a toughy... I was also trying to think of how i could be recongized in the catholic church, where my grandparents could also attend.  I was sure in which order i would have it.  Either get legally married before or after? 

 

Question... Where are you having your DW?  What date are you going to use as your wedding date?

[dpitre]

I'm actually doing a small Catholic ceremony the weekend before my Mexico ceremony.  The Catholic ceremony is immediate family only, with grandparents (who couldn't travel to Mexico).  No aunts/uncles. 

 

I'm doing a legal ceremony in Mexico.  Now, I just met with my priest (who is a relative) and he wants us to do the legal paperwork for my Catholic ceremony.  I'm against this as I am using MX as my legal ceremony.  I may just get the paperwork, sign it at the Catholic ceremony and never turn it in- just use my Mexico paperwork with the Apostallite seal.

 

My priest is a bit confused with my intentions.  My views really separate church and state.  I'm a very private person, particulary with religion and therefore, don't want alot of people around.  Since my DW represents my close friends and family, I still want it to be special and recognize it as my legal ceremony.

 

I would maybe try to get a priest who's a bit more progressive and do a legal ceremony in Mexico and then do your Catholic ceremony when you return.