Is it ok at your Stag and Doe to just have money won?

[*Lo*]

I'm from Ontario and I still don't understand Stag & Dos. You ask people to come to a party but then pay for things? This is part of the wedding?

[mochamakes3]

I think Stag & Does were more common in smaller towns so that everyone could help with the "fund raising" but are now becoming more popular in larger cities.

[kmbride2be]

Can someone please explain to me what a 'stag and doe' party is? I have never heard of it!

 

Thanks in advance!

 

[Valentine_Baby]

A Stag and Doe is also known as a Jack and Jill.

 

It is a party where usually (which i've seen many times in the past) the wedding party throws this party for the couple getting married.  They usually rent a hall, have a bar, play a few games.  Everyone who comes pays an entry fee of usually $10 each or 2 for $15.  There are raffles and prizes.  Some Jack and Jill's have a table set up to bid on prizes like a silent auction.

 

Just a get together.  At the end of the night, the wedding party gets back all their money back for what they put out and anything left over is given to the bride and groom to go towards their wedding.

 

[Valentine_Baby]

it's a pre-celebration for the couple . . .I think it's a good idea for destination weddings because it gives those people a chance who aren't able to make it to come out and celebrate with you before your big day (that is of course you aren't having an AHR)

[loua4]

Yes. My FI and I said that we didnt want one, but our wedding party is insisting and we are actually really excited about it now. We were going to do the AHR but that just is not in our budget and this is a fun way to see everyone who cannot go, and those who can. All that I have been to in the past have been a blast.

[kmbride2be]

Sounds like a neat idea but we live out of state (New Jersey) and that would mean that we would have to schedule another visit back home (to Texas) on top of all the visits with the holidays, showers etc...

 

I will keep it in mind for the next friend that gets hitched!

 

Thanks for the feedback ladies!