who will walking me down the aisle

[Fotini]

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Originally Posted by lizz10179 I'm going through the same thing. My dad passed away last September and one of the reasons I'm having a DW is to not have to deal with a "traditional" wedding without him here. I was going to walk by myself, but now don't want to. I thought it would be nice to ask my dad's brother to walk me, but I just found out last night that he's not coming (no reason given). I thought I'd be ok, but I got really upset when I heard that. I am definitely using a memory frame and attaching it to my bouquet. As for who's walking me down, it's still up in the air. I don't want to ask someone just to have someone, you know? I want it to be special (though nothing can be as special as your dad in my opinion). This post will probably not help you at all, just wanted to let you know that I'm having the same issue. Hopefully your mom's brother will be able to come. Let us know how it works out!

So sorry to hear for your lose too, it is really recent...My mom passed away 5 years ago(actually this week) which is why i think i've been thinking about it now all of a sudden

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Originally Posted by akh are there any women in the family that can walk you down, it doesn't have to be a man? an aunt maybe?

Not to be more of a downer but the only aunt i was really close with, has passed away also. that is why i'm really torn. I was thinking about having one of my girlfriends walk me, that is really like a sister... but then i dont want it to offend my cousin. that has already asked me if he can do it! It one thing if its the uncle

I just got off the phone with the uncle in greece, it doesn't seem likely that he will make it. he has some sort of daily therapy, that has been going on since the spring... All side effects of the medicines he has been taking all these yrs.

[foxytv]

I agree that I'd want my hubby-to-be to be waiting for me at the altar and not walk me down the aisle ... but I definitely think you have a close enough family on both sides that whatever you are most comfortable with will be the right thing. I don't think I could walk down the aisle alone either. :-)

[foxytv]

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Originally Posted by Fotini So sorry to hear for your lose too, it is really recent...My mom passed away 5 years ago(actually this week) which is why i think i've been thinking about it now all of a sudden Not to be more of a downer but the only aunt i was really close with, has passed away also. that is why i'm really torn. I was thinking about having one of my girlfriends walk me, that is really like a sister... but then i dont want it to offend my cousin. that has already asked me if he can do it! It one thing if its the uncle I just got off the phone with the uncle in greece, it doesn't seem likely that he will make it. he has some sort of daily therapy, that has been going on since the spring... All side effects of the medicines he has been taking all these yrs.

I thin if you would rather have your girlfriend do it as opposed to your cousin, then that is okay. I would think he would understand. But what a nice gesture to have asked, regardless. YOu could always have your girlfriend AND your cousin walk you down -- you'd definitely stay steady then. :-)

Good luck and congratulations! I know your big day is coming up soon! And I know how proud your parents are of you!!

[LCBride2007]

that's not a bad idea, having both girls walk you down. that is, if that's what you want and would make you happy.

 

or what about walking down part of the way by yourself, then having someone meet you?

[Jackie]

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Originally Posted by Fotini soo this is something i have been thinking about a lot lately...because i'm really at a lose. I know other ladies have had similar situations. Up until recently i just thought i would walk down the aisle by myself, but considerign how emotional i've been getting at weddings lately, i may need someone there to steady me. I'm in the same situation and feel the same way. I went to a wedding last weekend and cried my eyes out when it was time for the father daughter dance....NOT like me at all, uh-oh big time deep rooted emotions surfacing watch out! Since the wedding I have vowed to myself to remember that my wedding is going to be about happy feelings and I am just going to try and make the best of it. For instance as for the father/daughter dance me and my two sisters will (at all 3 of our weddings) dance to Tim Mcgraws "my little girl" in a tribute to our father. And this way like you I wont feel like I am betraying my dad in anyway by dancing with another "father figure". I may have mentioned this before, but both of my parents have passed away. And had my wedding been here in NY there is an uncle that was very close with my dad that would have been the natural choice. But he is older now and sick, so he wont be making the trip. then in greece there is my mother's brother, who is also sick(he had a kidney transplant 20 yrs ago) and his health changes week to week. so he may not be able to make the 1/2 hr flight....but even if he was ok, we havent really had the best relationship.. better over the last couple of years, but not then there is my cousin...since my parents we older when they had me, i am the baby in the family, and my cousin is 30 yrs older than me....Actually he is my first cousin's husband, I grew up hanging out with them...although he has been around, not exactly parental. but even still it just feels wrong to have anyone else walk me down the aisle, almost like a betrayal to thier memory.. i know this is silly, but i can help feeling that...But in the same turn that like i said before i may just need someone next to me I feel the same way. I was trying to think of someone anyone that could walk me down the aisle but it really just felt wrong! I know it will be hard for you but you can do it, we are here to support you. I am walking half way down and than right where the guests seeting starts I will have fiance come get me and walk the rest of the way with him. That way I will walk myself down but still have fiance there to lean on when I have to walk the nerve wracking walk infront of everyone. Sorry for the long vent... thanks for reading, i just needed to get this out. -fo

Hope this helped even a little

[JulieG]

I was having a problem with the walking down the aisle as well, and my FH and I decided that I was walk half way, and he would come up and meet me and walk me the other half. Since we are starting a new life together and it will be the 2 of us from now on, we decided it would be nice for me to walk half way alone and him to walk half way alone to meet up as 1 and walk the rest of the way together to join our lives. It might seem cheesy, but we really like this idea because its all about us becoming a unit.

 

Just a thought.

[MsShelley]

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Originally Posted by Julesr I was having a problem with the walking down the aisle as well, and my FH and I decided that I was walk half way, and he would come up and meet me and walk me the other half. Since we are starting a new life together and it will be the 2 of us from now on, we decided it would be nice for me to walk half way alone and him to walk half way alone to meet up as 1 and walk the rest of the way together to join our lives. It might seem cheesy, but we really like this idea because its all about us becoming a unit. Just a thought.

Julie, that's not cheesy!! I really like that idea!

[foxytv]

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Originally Posted by Julesr I was having a problem with the walking down the aisle as well, and my FH and I decided that I was walk half way, and he would come up and meet me and walk me the other half. Since we are starting a new life together and it will be the 2 of us from now on, we decided it would be nice for me to walk half way alone and him to walk half way alone to meet up as 1 and walk the rest of the way together to join our lives. It might seem cheesy, but we really like this idea because its all about us becoming a unit. Just a thought.

I do like that idea. At least he still sees you as you start down the aisle, then meets you to finish the walk together. Very sweet!