Including a non-bridesmaid but good friend

[ryan190]

Did you want her to be part of the ceremony?   I agree with Mrs. Williams, just invite her to every single bridesmaids event and make her feel like part of the wedding party.  One the day of the wedding, you don't need to include her.

[spaterson]

I'm stuck in the same boat! There ar eonly like 2 girls I think I'm going to have stand up because of the size of our wedding party but like 5 others that I feel should be included!

[CBREWSTER]

I have 3 Bridesmaids and 2 Hostesses. The Hostesses have dresses a like and are doing everything the bridal party is going. The are responsible for handing out programs and making sure things are set up correctly. And they both told me they are so happy that I found a way to include them. Just an idea.

[shan0487]

I am planning on doing the same sort of thing, I think we are going to have someone close to us perform the ceremony, have hostesses make sure things are set up correctly and deal with that stuff and have another friend dj for us.  That way we can include all of our close friends in addition to the bridal party!

 

Originally Posted by CBREWSTER 

I have 3 Bridesmaids and 2 Hostesses. The Hostesses have dresses a like and are doing everything the bridal party is going. The are responsible for handing out programs and making sure things are set up correctly. And they both told me they are so happy that I found a way to include them. Just an idea.

[perry1217]

I am in a similar situation!!!!  My sister is my MOH and my FI's best friend is the best man. But----I have two step sisters (17 & 20), one brother (20) and two step brothers (20 & 26), not to mention my FI's brother (23).  There was no way to include everyone, especially because this doesn't even take into account close friends!  I'm trying to think of a way to at least get my two step-sisters involved since I am not having a bridal party. 

[dallace]

I have a similer situation that I posted about on another thread. I wanted to keep my wedding party small and sticking to family so I dont have any hurt feelings. MOH (bff of 10 years) my sister and my brothers girlfriend as BM's. I have a good friend that I would LOVE to have as a BM but it's just not going to work, as it is our wedding parties are going to be uneven (which by the way is driving me nuts, but I will have to deal with it lol). Anyways, I'm going to have her included in everything (shower if I have one, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, the girls getting ready ect.) but also have her in charge of making sure things run smoothly. I'm most likely going to have her hand out the programs and after the ceremony have her and my BM's take the favors, centerpieces and place cards to the restaurant and keep track of my guestbook (after some photos of course). I'm also having a few games throughout the day/night so I'm keeping her in charge of determining "the winner" and collecting whatever needs to be collected. She's going to be so involved in the actual wedding day and everything leading up to it I'm hopign she doesnt feel like she's beign ripped off by not being a BM. She's been absolutely AMAZING helpign me with anything I've wanted to try out and great with throwing awesome ideas on the table (which makes me feel even worse for not having her in the wedding party). She has a good idea of exactly what I want and can make it happen for me, I know thats what the WC is for but it calms my nerves a bit having someone I'm close with that knows what I want. The only thing I'm wondering now...is should I have her wear something similer to my BM or have her wear the same dress?? Any ideas would be awesome!!

[shan0487]

I don't know if you got any responses from the other thread, but from your description she's your "personal attendent" I am that in a friends wedding in October and I am just wearing a black dress (the bridesmaids are also wearing black dresses).  She will most likely be my personal attendant in my wedding and I will like to include her in photos so I would like her to wear a dress in one of my wedding colors in order to coordinate.  I couldn't ask her to buy an expensive bridesmaid dress when she isn't a bridesmaid, but if I just tell her to find a dress in orange, yellow or purple then hopefully she can find a cheaper dress.  hope this helps!

 

Originally Posted by dallace 

I have a similer situation that I posted about on another thread. I wanted to keep my wedding party small and sticking to family so I dont have any hurt feelings. MOH (bff of 10 years) my sister and my brothers girlfriend as BM's. I have a good friend that I would LOVE to have as a BM but it's just not going to work, as it is our wedding parties are going to be uneven (which by the way is driving me nuts, but I will have to deal with it lol). Anyways, I'm going to have her included in everything (shower if I have one, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, the girls getting ready ect.) but also have her in charge of making sure things run smoothly. I'm most likely going to have her hand out the programs and after the ceremony have her and my BM's take the favors, centerpieces and place cards to the restaurant and keep track of my guestbook (after some photos of course). I'm also having a few games throughout the day/night so I'm keeping her in charge of determining "the winner" and collecting whatever needs to be collected. She's going to be so involved in the actual wedding day and everything leading up to it I'm hopign she doesnt feel like she's beign ripped off by not being a BM. She's been absolutely AMAZING helpign me with anything I've wanted to try out and great with throwing awesome ideas on the table (which makes me feel even worse for not having her in the wedding party). She has a good idea of exactly what I want and can make it happen for me, I know thats what the WC is for but it calms my nerves a bit having someone I'm close with that knows what I want. The only thing I'm wondering now...is should I have her wear something similer to my BM or have her wear the same dress?? Any ideas would be awesome!!

 

[dallace]

Oh good. I now have a "title" for her....I wasn't really sure what to call it before lol. Thanks for that!! Yeah I want her in my pictures as well so she will have to be in a dress that will match the wedding somehow. I was thinking of just puting her in the BM's dress only because I'm buying them from a friend that just had a wedding with my colors and all the BM's are selling their $400 dresses for dirt cheap. We will have to see if I will be able to coordinate sizes though... I'm just wondering if that would look weird having someone that looks like a BM sitting in the audience during the ceremony.

[shan0487]

You're welcome! Glad I can help! Wow, that's awesome that you can reuse bridesmaid dresses! I don't think it will look weird, my friend was a guestbook person in someone's wedding and she had the exact same dress as the bridesmaids.  So I say go for it if she fits into one of the dresses!

[dallace]

I know! I'm so excited that I'm going to be able to reuse her dresses and that she's okay with it lol. They are the perfect color, and the price is right! =P