Will I Regret Eloping?

[futuremrsjrj]

My fiance and recently decided after many hours of planning and unplanning deciding and undeciding that we're eloping in Vegas on 10-15-10. I am just wondering if I am going to regret this?

We didn't have the money to do a big wedding and no one was willing to help us with the cost so this is the most logical and special way to do it. I feel that it should be about us and not so much everyone else but I'm scared that I'm missing out on things. No bachelorette party, no wedding shower, no bridesmaids, no nothing.

Is this normal? Did you all feel this way at some point? And what about after do you still regret it or do you love your decision?

I obviously can't change it now and I dont' want to I just want to know that there's someone else that maybe feels the same way.

[FutureMrsFF1661]

That had crossed my mind to be honest but we going to have a party when we get back, so everyone can see the dress and our parents can give a speech if they wish. I'm going to have a bachelorette party after I'm married - its only a night out drinking too much with the girls so I don't mind that its not before. Sometimes I think it would be nice to hve a traditional full on wedding but then I go back to thinking about the cost and the planning - plus there is the danger a traditional wedding becomes more about trying to cater for the guests needs instead of just enjoying our wedding for what it is. We decided if 'friends' don;t like what we will have done then its tough ) x

[futuremrsjrj]

That's kind of my mindset....if you don't like it tough. I just feel that this way is almost more special at least to me and honestly I'm way more excited then I was when I was planning a bigger wedding. The amount of stress is almost zero.

Thanks for the input it makes me feel better to know you don't have to be traditional. Perhaps I'll have the bachelorette party after I get back too.

[Danyelle]

I would LOVE to elope!!!

 

FI is against it....whatevs.

 

I'm not having a shower, bachelorette party, traditional reception anyway so for me it's nothing to miss.

 

You have to think about what's IMPORTANT TO YOU!!!

 

If eloping will make you happy, do it.

 

If you fear regrets then you should reconsider and save up to have the wedding you truly want at a later time. or plan a cheapie wedding you can afford.

[lyndsay_h]

Can you have a party to celebrate when you get back?  It doesnt have to cost a lot of money, just have the people you care about most get together at someone's house.

[futuremrsjrj]

I think we've decided that we are going to have a small reception/party when we get back. Nothing extravagant but something that at least we'll remember and our familes can be apart of.

Thanks for all the advice.