To have or not to have a bridal shower?

[Positanobride10]

While I've been against a shower for a while, my mom's BFF wanted to throw me a shower. Here is what I wrote in a recent post, Does anyone else feel awkward about having a bridal shower?:

 

First Post:

I feel awful about having a shower. We're only inviting a few close friends and immediate family to the ceremony in Italy. We are having an AHR when we return with extended family and friends. My mom's BFF wants to throw me a shower and other friends, who are not coming to Italy, say I should have one because every bride deserves a shower. I just don't want to put anyone out. I agree with another post here. I give and give but when the tables are turned I feel weird.

 

I do think a shower will be fun...well on my terms. What I think we'll do is a luncheon with close girl friends. I don't need anything elaborate and no games. I am so over shower games for both baby and brides.

 

Second Post:

I did feel weird about a shower

 

Yesterday, I contacted my mom's friend who wanted to do this and said, "ok". She was so excited and as I re-read this thread and thought about it, I am having an AHR at a nice country club (mom is taking complete control of it, its crazy, see my post on that) but nevertheless, we're paying a lot of money for it. I've been to a million showers, weddings, bought gifts for all my friends and their kids. ...not that I expect ooddles of gifts but I would like the same attention and consideration I gave them for their weddings.

 

So, with that said, I am having a small shower. I'm just going to invite my girl friends and a few friend's wives. I am going to tell my mom's friend I would like it to be lemon/limoncello themed since that is what my destination is all about. Might as well have fun with this. and I've posted on this thread.

 

So, I am going to have a shower. Again, I want it lemon themed since I love lemon flavored anything and it's all around Positano and the Amalfi Coast.

 

So, here is my message to other on the fence brides:

Ladies, get over the guilt. You're getting married. This is something that is special and people who love you want to do this. I am totally uncomfortable in large groups so I am going to invite a small group of ladies and have a blast! I am over the guilt!

[TLC4Rock]

It wasn't guilt for me I just didn't want to do. I'm not an all eyes on me type person. But, I'm glad my two childhood friends were persistent. Its a exciting yet overwhelming in that the group size is large.