When Grandma Trades ya in for a 'Roo

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Thanks to everyone that has provided feedback/support. My relationship with my grandma is a very awkward one. She's one of those prideful women that has faced a lot of hardships in her life and while I'd admire her in a lot of aspects, I also regret that I am not very close to her. I have never been able to express my emotions to my grandma nor have I ever seen my grandma express hers. She always shuts down...you know, the pride thing.

 

With 6 her children and 24 grandchildren, sometimes my grandma seems too busy and distracted to actually priortize and focus on one child/grandchild. I think that's the issue with understanding why it would be upsetting to me if she went to Australia instead of my wedding.

 

I know now it's only talk, but it still hurts that it is even a thought when she was debating whether or not she could afford my wedding. I would have thought I would be an important factor in her life and she would want to watch her eldest granddaughter get married. It breaks my heart that that isn't a priority in her life and a trip to Australia is more important.

 

Out of my 5 aunts- one committed. The one that's now going to Australia. And I didn't really take it to heart that my HUGE family wasn't attending my wedding, but my family friends were jumping aboard and excited to go. But now the fact that my own GRANDMA does this. I mean, comeon, your grannie is suppose to be someone that always has your back right?

[Jessica]

Aww, I hope it works out.

 

It is kind of a stab in the heart when some people tell you they can't attend. I mean, I totally understand finanical reasons, but when someone gives you the "I can't afford" it excuse and then goes and engages in something equally expensive or whatever, it kind of just hurts.

 

We had a couple of good friends who said they couldn't afford it, but one couple somehow found enough money to buy a couple of super expensive motorcycles that cost more than the trip would and the other couple just didn't save because they spent all their money that they saved on eating out and buying random stuff instead.

 

Anyway, hopefully your grandma will come through giving it some more thought. This is always an issue with DW's (people finding a reason not to go).

[1elephant]

hey rachel, i'm in a similar boat. when we decided to have a destination wedding, keith wanted 10 people, and i wanted to make sure that my aunts and uncles were there (friends of the family that we consider family b/c they're the only family i have)...once they got invited, then k's side was invited and soon we were up to 110 people. now NONE of my aunts and uncles and cousins are coming (- and they really don't even have excuses - they have more $$ than they know what to do with!) and ALL of his family will be there. so i'm gonna feel nice and crappy walking down the aisle with HIS family watching and NONE of my family there to witness.....

 

let me know how you decide to handle this; i could possibly use the same tactics!