sister problems

[Ashley*]

she has since backed out...I'm both relieved and hurt.  Relieved because I know she would have been more of a problem when we were down there.  And hurt because she's my sister and all my life I've dreamed of this day with her beside me.

 

Thank you everyone for your support

[Nan]

 Ashley:I´m so sorry to hear that you are having problems with your sister.  I get along very well  with mine and  I couldn´t think of my wedding without her. I hope you work out your differences with her because I´m sure that even if you are mad at each other... you will sure miss her at your very important day!

[snow88]

 

 

Originally Posted by Ashley* 

 

she has since backed out...I'm both relieved and hurt.  Relieved because I know she would have been more of a problem when we were down there.  And hurt because she's my sister and all my life I've dreamed of this day with her beside me.

 

Thank you everyone for your support

 

Sorry to hear that.  Your husband will be beside you and that is all that matters in the end.  

[Amanda+Dave]

I really feel for you. I am also having major sister issues.

I have never imagined having her as my MOH, and when she asked me to be hers, I never had the intention of reciprocating. I can never get a hold of her when I need her. Her husband's family is always ahead of ours. So last night I call her to ask if she will be a bridesmaid (I didnt want to do it over the phone, but since we are dress shopping next weekend and my MOH and other bridesmaid will be there I had no choice) and her response is "that's all I get to be" then goes on to call me unbelieable and doesnt even give me a chance to explain my reasoning.

Then her husband is in the background making rude remarks.

 

she hangs up on me, calls my mom, tells her they won't come to my wedding. now my mom is upset and hung up on me too,

 

such bullshit ... when did picking the MOH not become something the bride gets to do???

 

Just so stressed right now. I have not eaten since last night and my stomach is tied up in knots.

 

I am just so angry!!!!!!

 

sorry for the vent.

[breathenagain22]

And here I was thinking I was alone in sister problems...My sister has always been an issue, even though we have been close.  Before my relationship with my FI I had more time and patience to deal with her, but now I'm just getting sick of it...  My family has catered to her b/c when she is in a bad mood she is hell on wheels...  But now with a FI and 3 year old son (not my biological son, and boy does she like to remind me of that!!) I don't have time to make sure the world revolves around her..  My FI invited family and friends to my 31st birthday, which he had planned to surprise me for my engagement, and she didn't show.  When I told her about it I got a dry congratulations and are you sure this is what you want to do... She then reminded me of things I had said in the past about not wanting kids, not wanting to get married, etc.  Well, things change!!  Just bull...  But she is my sister and like I said we had been close up until I started dating my FI.  My previous relationship was 10 years long and we never had intentions of marrying, had problems in our relationship and would often break up for months and get back together... She also is in a similar relationship and I think she is hurt that I have gotten out of that nasty cycle and she is still stuck in it. 

 

Anyhow, with all that said I finally decided on my wedding party, did not pick her as a MOH, but did pick her for a bridesmaid.  Her response, or you''re going to have a wedding??  WTH!  She accepts, comes to the first official bridal party meeting (the MOH and one other bridesmaid are colleagues so we talk all the time about the wedding) and posts on Facebook... At a bridaly party meeting and feeling left out... I shouldn't even be here!! 

 

She then leaves the area we are meeting in and goes into the living room (not her house!) to watch tv and eats in the living room (even though the host has set up an area for us to eat in)...  Mind you there are 5 bridesmaids present, my middle sister (problem sister), my baby sister, two colleagues (which she knows), and a college friend (that has only met everyone else once)... And she feels left out??? How??

 

I don't know what to do... My dad said not to worry with her, she has a bad attitude and I don't have to deal with it and I know my FI is going to get fed up with hearing me complain about her.  He has tried everything to build a relationship with her, some days she likes him (especially if he is feeding her for free) and some days she doesn't.

[kymish]

omg i feel so sorry for you ashley and all you other brides !!!

 

i had a falling out with my sister when we were planning her wedding 5 years ago.. it was a local wedding i was her MOH during the planning.. i planned EVERYTHING with her even paid for portions to make things easier (our parents couldnt afford to help) anyways she chose a super above knee strapless tight hot pink dress for  the wedding party. and their was NO WAY i could pull off wearing that.. ( plus size girl here and had recently given birth) so she got mad and instead if letting me wear something a little more covering decided that i couldnt be part of her wedding party.. i thought thats fine so i became the photographer for her wedding instead.Then a month after her wedding was upset with me cause i hadnt given her a wedding gift yet..i figured paying for her dress, bridal shower, and bachelorette party not to mention wedding favors, would have been enough ?? To be honest with helping her planning her wedding and planning for the arrival of my baby not to mention working i jsut sort of forgot about getting her a gift.. anyways she didnt talk to me for 3 years or so. now were closer then ever and  im the one getting married and so far no problems !

i hope everything went great for your wedding ashley !! ( that just so happens to be my sisters name as well LOL )