Bouquet - is it really necessary?

[TATrisha]

I think that it's not a necesity... however what would you do with your hands? Is your father walking you down the aisle? if so, you could just hold onto his arm with both hands... and then I don't think anyone would think anything of it. However, if you are walking yourself down, in my opinion, it would look really weird.

[RaydensMama]

Im not plannning on having a boquet, and neither are my BM and MOH. I say do what feels right to you! Its your day!!

[fogdog]

Thanks everyone, for sharing your opinions. I agree with most of you that it feels more bridal and can't imagine a wedding without one which is why I asked the question. But when I started to think about my poor brother standing up there holding it and started wondering whether it's really necessary or not... I also tried to think back to weddings I've been to and I can honestly say that I don't remember a thing about any bride's bouquet. And, since almost all my girlfriends are married at this point, there's really no point in throwing it! I think I'm going to go without and instead put the $ toward centerpieces or the arch for the ceremony.

[foxytv]

NOTHING is right or wrong or necessary or not on your wedding day. It's whatever YOU and FI prefer.

 

You could always have a wrist corsage made instead of a bouquet.

 

Or, as previously mentioned, set it on the table or have Mom hold it (I bet she would be honored).

[NATASHA]

I really don't think it is. I walked down the aisle, handed it to my BM and that's the last I saw of it. I have a picture of it sitting on a table. Did that matter? Not at all. Some people have some nice beach shots with their bouquet.

[jajajaja]

I agree that it would be awkward with your hands. Especially if you were nervous.

 

I think setting it on the table during the ceremony is a good idea. Just to consolidate your idea to put the money into a centerpeice, you could have a bouquet then put the bouquet into a vase on the reception/dinner table later. I'm doing that with mine and my BMs flowers so they don't go to waste.

 

I'm not throwing my bouquet either. I don't think there will be enough single girls, but I also don't want to ruin something so beautiful.

 

You can do whatever you want on your wedding. That's the rules. Period. But I think it would dress your pictures up. Just my opinion.

[fogdog]

Good point about the centerpiece - that's a good compromise/option.

I'm considering walking with my mom and dad, which means I won't have the hands to hold it anyway... I think this will be the deciding factor.

[RaydensMama]

Have you thought of using something other than a boquet? I am carrying a parasol (as are my BM) It would keep your hands occupied if you are worried about that, and you could just close it when you got to the end of the isle. Just a thought!

[starchild]

You totally don't need one, but if you wanted to have some sort of bridal flowers there is always a flower tiara. Or you could have a bouquet and after you walk down the aisle present it to someone special like your mom or a sister before you take your spot.

[Shelley]

I agree you don't need one. Personally I love flowers and can't imagine getting married without one. But that's just me. If flowers aren't you then I say dont' worry about it. That being said, I'd have the same concerns as others - if I didn't carry a bouquet I don't know what I'd do with my hands. However, if both your parents are walking you down the aisle then I guess it's not a concern. I also love flowers for the pictures. Just things to think about. I think you'll be happy as long as you do whatever feels right for you.