Who is Paying for Your Wedding?

[dlou]

My mom gave us $2k and my dad gave us $2k...the rest is up to us!

[TATrisha]

My parents are giving me 12k. As for his, I don't think we'll get much, and I'm fine with that.

The rest I will pay for.

Now, I have a question. Since the rest (budgeted 15+k) will be coming from MY bank account, it's only fair that whatever wedding money we receive goes to replenish that right? Side note: we have seperate finances and will most likely leave it that way. What did everyone else do?

[BayBug]

We are paying for our wedding his parents gave some money, which was really sweet of them because we did not expect anything from anyone. Our wedding is everything we wanted and not what other people wanted.

[tvt]

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Originally Posted by Tlseege My parents are giving me 12k. As for his, I don't think we'll get much, and I'm fine with that. The rest I will pay for. Now, I have a question. Since the rest (budgeted 15+k) will be coming from MY bank account, it's only fair that whatever wedding money we receive goes to replenish that right? Side note: we have seperate finances and will most likely leave it that way. What did everyone else do?

How come you'd pay for it all? just curious. But i say YES, if you pay for it the money you get as wedding presents should go to replenishing your bank account!

[TATrisha]

Well, he'd pay for somethings, but I'd pay for a lot of the other stuff. Mostly, because it's stuff like OOT bags which I want... he doesn't! Plus, he pays for the engagement ring... so it all equals out.

[TracyK]

I forgot to include my Grandma. She is paying $1000 towards the cost of the trip for each one of her 6 kids and 2 of my cousins. My Grandpa passed away last year and after he died my close tight loving family went to crap. They started arguing and just not getting along. I hear that sometimes happens and it did to us. Well this is her way of trying to make everyone be together and overcome the stupidity of their fighting. I only hope it works and my wedding isn't a nightmare of more family battles. But, I do appreciate her helping my Aunts & Uncles to come. (sarcasm starts)Even though they could afford it on their own(sarcasm ends)

[rodent]

If it equals out, then I dont think I'd keep extra gift money. Our gift money will go towards common goal stuff, like a house, travel & retirement savings. I plan on paying for more of the wedding stuff, like OOT bags because he doesn't care about stuff like that. We'll split the travel cost. Also, a lot of the stuff we'll register for isn't stuff he cares about, like plates, silverware, etc.

 

But there is no right or wrong answer. I think the main thing is to talk about it & reach an agreement. And what works for one couple, doesn't work for everyone.

[jajajaja]

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Originally Posted by Adamsgrrl Fortunatly MY parents are paying for the wedding and paying for Bridal party to go. They are very generous. When we first started planning we were planning with a very small budget but then parents offered to "up" our plans. We're paying for honeymoon, attire, DIY projects etc. FI's family are paying for themselves to go... other than that they haven't offered or asked ONE thing about the wedding..can you tell I'm a little bitter. LOL!

At least your FI's family will go. My parents are paying for 6K (and yesterday asked me to email our budget outline because it has grown since the 6k offer...my mom said they are discussing on providing more. My mom is saving money out of her paycheck to pay for the photog and dress, which I have declined, but she insists.

My FI's parents don't even know if they will come even though they just gave his little brother 3k for his wedding. We told them months ago to start saving up for our destination wedding (before they contributed to his wedding, which we didn't know they planned on doing) and they said they weren't sure if they had the money. Then a little bit ago his mom accidentally slipped and said they gave them the 3k for the wedding. Talk about bitterness for me!

Here's my thinking- spend 3k to get yourselves there. It's an even amount spent on each son's wedding. Sounds fair enough for me.

Oops..sorry for the thread hijack.

[boscobel]

My parents are giving $10k, and his parents will match that. Matt and I are also paying for our own travel and my sister and her 2 kids. The $10k from my parents is subject to change. At this point they say they can't come with us, so I have told them to use the money out of that for their travel. They are refusing at this point. (Sometimes I think my mom just likes to make me cry.) Matt and I have almost $10k of our own saved as well, so we are looking in pretty good shape. Oh, and my mom has a separate budget for my wedding dress that she is paying for. Anything over $1k, I will have to pay for myself.

 

We hope to pay for everything in Jamaica ourselves and use our parents money for the AHR and leftover for savings for a house.

 

Also, Matt's parents are paying for his brother, sister, her husband and their two kids to come. They are all part of the wedding party and the only one who could afford to come on their own is his brother, so it is awesome that they are doing this to help out.

[CourtneyV]

My parents are paying. We're paying for certain things like OOT Bags, invitations, I'm paying to have my make-up done instead of having the resort do it, etc. We're paying for our honeymoon to DisneyWorld.

 

Aaron's dad is helping out a bit, maybe for the welcome dinner - we're not sure though; and we certainly don't expect anything. We'll just assume we're paying for everything until someone helps out. I don't want to ever "expect" money from someone.