Who is Paying for Your Wedding?

[twinkletoes]

We are going to pay for everything ourselves. Unfortuanely, neither of our families are in a place where they can contribute anything. But I'm so darn independent anyway, I wouldn't let them if they were even able to. LOL.

[michelle08]

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Originally Posted by cessyboston donnies fam is giving us 5k and my mom is buying my dress but we have to pay everything else......

Erica...that is us exactly! His mom said she is giving us 5K (she doesn't have a ton of money and has to pay for siblings vacation too) so I am not counting it until I get it. And my mom said she would pay for my dress and maybe try and help in other ways too. They have a friend lending them a timeshare down there so since they will save on lodging, she might kick in a little extra!

The rest we are doing on our own. We are trying to save and I am banking on a bonus next march, taxes and we always have kind of 0% offer on credit cards (we play that switch around game) so we should be good.

[foxytv]

Tom and I are paying for everything ourselves. He's giving me several $$K when he gets back from Iraq to add to our fund. So far I've been putting down deposits on my own. I'm happy that we've had enough people book that we get 2 free rooms at the resort thus far, which will help us offer at least a one night's stay to most of the bridal party. My parents are going to host/pay for our MD AHR ... but other than that ... we are doing everything on our own. I'm trying to cover most of the wedding myself and Tom is paying for the honeymoon portion. He's also paying off my car when he gets back and putting a down payment on a new one for me, so I figure I can try to cover most of the wedding.

[RaydensMama]

My dad is giving us most of the money and a tiny bit from my mom, then the rest is up to us.

[michelle08]

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Originally Posted by Stephanie 525 We are pretty much alone on this one and I am scared to death! His folks have offered to give us some money but I have no clue how much that will be, they are doing pretty well so hopefully it will be more than a pat on the back. My mother has offered to cover my dress which is huge for her because she works paycheck to paycheck. Everyone who is getting help should understand how huge it is to be handed money- it must take some of the stress off.

It is a big stress relief to not have to worry about the money side of things. That is my biggest problem with this whole thing. I honestly don't expect to see the $5k his mom says she will give us. It's a nice gesture and I am not complaining...I just don't see where that money is coming from and I don't want myself to be put out financially by this wedding, let alone our family!

I have been independent and raised myself since age 16 mostly. My parents had no money and I have always worked 2 or 3 jobs and worked my ass off. I have a hard time accepting money from people. So I know that my mom still doesn' have much money (she has more than when we were growing up) but even her offering to pay for my dress (and it won't cost more than $500) is hard for me to accept. The only thing that makes it easier (and I know this isn't the way to look at it) is that her husband's 3 delinquent children suck money from them as if they were rich!!! It frustrates me because I never ask for money and I know it frustrates my mom because her kids never ask for money! So for my wedding, if there is any extra money she has, I am willing to accept it if she is offering it.

Sorry I went on and hijacked a little...

[jfwolfe72]

My parents will be paying for the AHR and FI's parents will pay for the DJ and flowers for the AHR. Otherwise, FI and I are paying for all of the DW stuff. I hope we can stick to our budget!!

[Jessica]

DH and I paid for every last painful cent and our current bank account shows it!

[tvt]

My parents are paying for almost everything. They gave us 20k up front which is way more than generous in my opinion. However, even though they have given us this large amount we are still trying to be as budget concious as possible. We're also paying for a number of things ourselves, like rings, invites, website, favors, OOT bags, FI suit, etc. We don't feel it's fair that my parents pay for everything when we both make decent money and can afford to do a lot on our own.

 

FI parents aren't contribuitng a dime. (sour subject as the reason they aren't helping is because they disapprove and don't want to contribute to something they don't believe in) Which is another reason why we're stepping up and helping out more than is expected of us. I just can't let my parents pay for it all... I know they don't have a problem with it... but I just can't do it.

[KellyandMatt08]

My parents have given us $10k. So far we have booked the ceremony/reception and my dress with that. Not much left. FI's mom is paying for invites and we are going to see if she can help with the photographer costs.

 

My father travels a lot so fortunately he has been saving his points. He has enought points in airfare to fly roundtrip via SouthWest and rooms at the Hilton for FI, me, mom, dad, brother, and his GF. We really lucked out on that one.

 

So we have to pay for whatever is left including honeymoon, rings, FI suit, flowers, and OOT bag goodies.

[Rachelle E.]

Both of our parents gave us set amounts of money up front. 8k from mine, 2k from his. But to be honest, they both contributed little bits extra along the way. David and I paid for a lot of misc. stuff (hair appts, shoes etc), the rings and the honeymoon. It definitely helped a LOT to have that extra money from them! We really appreciated it.