Who is Paying for Your Wedding?

[PaulaV]

We are.

We do very well financially and with 3 daughters, I would not expect my parents to pay for it

[Adamsgrrl]

Fortunatly MY parents are paying for the wedding and paying for Bridal party to go. They are very generous. When we first started planning we were planning with a very small budget but then parents offered to "up" our plans.

 

We're paying for honeymoon, attire, DIY projects etc.

 

FI's family are paying for themselves to go... other than that they haven't offered or asked ONE thing about the wedding..can you tell I'm a little bitter. LOL!

[TammyB]

We paid for everything, Cain's Ma was suppose to pay for our wedding dinner but then she moved and broke up with her FI so her $$ was tied up and couldn't help.

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by Adamsgrrl Fortunatly MY parents are paying for the wedding and paying for Bridal party to go. They are very generous.

I'll say! Your parents win the generousity award for sure!!

[rodent]

We had planned on paying for it all ourselves. I don't want to blow our house savings, so we planned with a budget of $3,000. Then my mom said she wants to help out. We totally do not expect her to do this, but she said she had planned on it. Now that we are getting help, I increased the budget by $600 so we can hire the hotel photographer. I don't know what his family plans on doing, but whatever they decide would be fine with us. They are coming to the wedding & that's all we really want. It's nice knowing that we can pay for it all ourselves without creating any financial strain, but any amount family contributes will just allow us to save that much more for a house.

 

When I have kids, I think I would offer all the kids a flat amount. If they want to elope, they can keep it. If they want a big wedding, they can pay the rest.

[Can'tHardlyWait]

My FI's parents are paying for EVERYTHING. And when I say everything, I mean everything. They even insisted on paying for 2 nights stay for all our guests... right now we anticipate 150. It sounds crazy now, but this was the source of endless arguments between the families. The whole reason we decided to have a destination wedding was to get away from the 200 person NY wedding, with all its costs and stresses. Now we are planning a 150 person wedding Mexico - yeah, no stress there (insert sarcastic tone here).

[Adamsgrrl]

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Originally Posted by Galit My FI's parents are paying for EVERYTHING. And when I say everything, I mean everything. They even insisted on paying for 2 nights stay for all our guests... right now we anticipate 150. It sounds crazy now, but this was the source of endless arguments between the families. The whole reason we decided to have a destination wedding was to get away from the 200 person NY wedding, with all its costs and stresses. Now we are planning a 150 person wedding Mexico - yeah, no stress there (insert sarcastic tone here).

WOW aren't you a lucky girl!! Talk about nice FIL's!! Can we trade fIL's? LOL

[StephanieMN]

We are pretty much alone on this one and I am scared to death! His folks have offered to give us some money but I have no clue how much that will be, they are doing pretty well so hopefully it will be more than a pat on the back. My mother has offered to cover my dress which is huge for her because she works paycheck to paycheck.

Everyone who is getting help should understand how huge it is to be handed money- it must take some of the stress off.

[Can'tHardlyWait]

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Originally Posted by Adamsgrrl WOW aren't you a lucky girl!! Talk about nice FIL's!! Can we trade fIL's? LOL

I definitely see that now, but when this all started, FI and I were not feeling that way at all! We never wanted anyone to spend that kind of money on our wedding. Also, at first his parents hated the idea of a DW so their offer to pay for all the guests was more of an apology to all their friends for their son's "crazy idea of a DW."

Since then, they have warmed up to the idea alot (mostly because all their friends and family have told them how excited they are!) and more and more we realise that they are paying for this wedding because they love us and want to give us the wedding of our dreams ... weddings/wedding planning can be so emotional!

[JulieG]

I forgot to add in that my FMIL is paying for my FH's brothers (3 of them) and wives to come to our wedding. This is a big deal because we are pretty sure they would not have been able to come otherwise. So, I did not want to leave that out.