Can You Un-Invite People once you tell them you're going to invite them?

[msmarmar123]

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Originally Posted by fallfromgrace So is there anyone on this thread that wants to "Un-invite" my grandmother? I will "Un-invite" one of their guests. haha...I loved that idea.

We should totally start that service...charge a small fee...we could make a fortune

[fallfromgrace]

haha, what should we call ourselves? Yeah, but seriously, I am still racking my brain on how to not invite my grandmother, and FI is talking about moving the wedding day again so that we can go travel. He wants to get married sooner...so that means that I have less time to not invite my grandmother. Ugh!

[msmarmar123]

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Originally Posted by fallfromgrace haha, what should we call ourselves? Yeah, but seriously, I am still racking my brain on how to not invite my grandmother, and FI is talking about moving the wedding day again so that we can go travel. He wants to get married sooner...so that means that I have less time to not invite my grandmother. Ugh!

I'll work on a name tonight
Do you see your Grandma a lot that it would be uncomfortable if she wasn't invited? Is she old? Are there specific travel restrictions for her? Try to find something and then blame that so you don't look bad

Why don't you want her there? Mine comes down to $$$...I think realistically everyone would get along if they had to...but if someone did something awful/rude/mean to me and would cause me un-necessary stress or any icky feelings on what is supposed to be an amazing time....

[Mkandola]

I dont think you can ... you might as well go ahead and invite them

[fallfromgrace]

My grandmother is old, but fiesty. To make a long story short, she has never liked me. We are her step-son's children, therefore she isn't really my biological grandmother. She always chooses her "real" grandchildren over me and some of my other cousins (who are also step-grandchildren). She's never called for a birthday, never called on special occasions, never even called to congratulate me on my engagement! (however...she found out through my aunt who found out through facebook (FML) and called my father and yelled at him that we hated her so we didn't tell her!)

 

Ugh, so I don't want to bother having her there!

[lalanyc]

I know - maybe you can ask this service to uninvite your guests!

 

WELCOME to iDUMP4U|

 

He can start a new service called "I uninvite 4 U"!!

 

haha

[fallfromgrace]

Oh Hilarious!

[msmarmar123]

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Originally Posted by lalanyc I know - maybe you can ask this service to uninvite your guests! WELCOME to iDUMP4U| He can start a new service called "I uninvite 4 U"!! haha

He was on the Today show a couple of weeks ago...that's excatly who I was thinking of when I said that
Too Funny!

[msmarmar123]

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Originally Posted by fallfromgrace My grandmother is old, but fiesty. To make a long story short, she has never liked me. We are her step-son's children, therefore she isn't really my biological grandmother. She always chooses her "real" grandchildren over me and some of my other cousins (who are also step-grandchildren). She's never called for a birthday, never called on special occasions, never even called to congratulate me on my engagement! (however...she found out through my aunt who found out through facebook (FML) and called my father and yelled at him that we hated her so we didn't tell her!) Ugh, so I don't want to bother having her there!

How many people are you inviting? Do you have a limit? If there are other family members not invited , you can just say it was the budget.

Do you ever see her? If you don't..and you never really have to...I see no reason to include her. I know there's all that "have to" crap...but it's not worth stressing over...
You need to be happy..if she takes away the happy...she doesn't need to be there.
What does your dad say about all this? Does he want her there?

[lsjhik]

Just don't send an invite. Maybe an announcement? Or have FI keep the ones he wants most and cut out the rest. If they aren't coming anyways, they'll only get hurt feelings once they realize they weren't invited. It's still your wedding.