Memorial for our Fathers

[kmarie]

I am getting married Nov 2010. My father and my FI's father have passed away and I was hoping to get some ideas on how to incorporate them into our special day. I'd like the idea of little picture frames attached to the bouquet but i was hoping to think of something more.

[ShawanaK]

If you are making programs for the ceremonie you could mention something like “In memory of those loved ones who are not with us today” or For those loved ones who could not be with us today, we cherish your memory, and we know that you are smiling down on this blessed event. You could light 2 candles during the wedding ceremony for each of the deceased fathers. You could also set up a special small table at the wedding reception with a flower arrangement and a card saying “In memory of those loved ones who are not with us today” or more specifically, “In memory of (your father and his fathers name)" You could also put a picture of the bride or groom with the deceased person you are honoring. Hope this helps. My father passed away to and I am going to mention him in my programs.

[LisaRob]

I would also like some ideas please, as my father passed away 8 months ago and I definitely want to incorporate something in the ceremony.

[greysgirl]

I lost my Daddy in July of 2008. I plan to wear his diamond from his wedding ring in my right-hand ring. I also will have his pic in a frame wrapped on my bouquet and my brother and I will dance to "What a Wonderful World", his favorite song. Man I miss him

 

What about having your FI wear one of his ties?

Or saving his "chair" in the front row and placing a tropical corsage on it during the ceremony when you honor him/them?

[kmarie]

Great, Thanks for the ideas ladies and sorry to hear there are some out there in the same boat as me. I aways thought he'd be there to walk me down the aisle. Who are you having walk you down the aisle? I am going to ask my brother.

[dianep]

hi,

 

my husband's father passed away a year ago on the 4th of july. we incorporated a line or two about honoring those who could not be with us on our day. simple, like his dad was.

 

i just wanted to say that i'd be careful about planning on having candles to represent your fathers. i'm not sure where your wedding will be taking place, but beaches tend to be windy. so if you're having an outdoor ceremony, i'd check with your wedding coordinator to see if that's advisable at your site.

 

good luck, and i'm sure both of your fathers would be honored to know that you're thinking about them and incorporating something into your day for them.

 

p.s. my dad is still around, but wasn't able to make the trip for our wedding. ours was a small ceremony, but i walked myself down the aisle. it wasn't weird at all. but i wonder if there is a thread out there somewhere for this subject.

[LisaRob]

I will be having my mom walk me down the aisle. I only have 2 brothers, so it would have been difficult to choose which one to ask. I am, however, asking my 2 brothers to stand up for me - not exactly my BMs (lol), more like my GMs. I felt it important to include family as much as I could seeing as we lost our dad months ago.

[DiamondGirl]

My FI's dad passed away 3 yrs ago and I'd like to do something in his honor for our wedding. I would def do the picture on my bouquet. Keep the ideas coming forward, it's alot of help. Thank You

[murmel]

I lost my father many years ago to cancer, and my mother will not be able to attend since she is now in a nursing home.

 

We plan on having one of our bridesmaids/ or groomsmen propose a toast during the reception. It will be a toast to celebrate and pay tribute to the wonderful family/people who are no longer with us, but are smiling down on us as we start our new journey.

 

I also plan of wearing a small piece of jewerly my father gave me when I was young, as a tribute to him. And my bouquet will have the same colors my mother's bouquet had at their wedding, as a tribute to her.

 

It is very difficult to not have such important family members close by, and it is hard to find a suitable way to pay tribute. Best wishes, and keep the ideas coming. I would love to get some other ideas.

[Lindslou]

Hi Ladies

 

I too lost my father 2 years ago. I'm hoping my mom will walk me down the aisle if not I will go alone. Love the idea of placing a corsage on a chair for the ceremony. Since my dad passed away the last 2 Christmas's we have always lit a candle during dinner for him and I plan on buying a special candle to light during the dinner/reception. Good luck girls, it sure is hard but I know my dad will be there and so will yours!!!