BM help

[t1219]

Ahh I am making myself sick. I have five bm's. I am trying to pick a maid of honor. I have two sisters but I really want to ask only one of my sisters and my best friend to be my MOH's. What do I do? How do I go about this without having my other sister hate me? I just know her feelings will be so hurt. Any advise?

[MDLady]

If you think that she will be really hurt and you do not want any drama at your wedding, why don't you ask both of them to be your MOH? I've been at weddings where there were 2 and it was totally fine. That might be the easiest way out of your predicament without hurting your sister's feelings.

[Princess402]

I agree, why not have two MOHs? Honestly, I'm a firm believer in adpating etiquette rules to each unique situation. You can configure your bridal party however you want! I'm not having an MOH, just BMs, that way everybody is equal and no hard feelings!!!

[LA923]

That's a tricky one, I am not sure if the above posters realize that you will already have 2 MOHs, so suggesting to have 3 out of 5 might seem odd to people. I agree that asking one sister over another would lead to hard feelings. It might be easier to have 3 (which is a little unusual) or just one MOH (your bf) and then your sisters are BMs. Is anyone married so you could do Maid of Honor vs Matron of Honor??

[jenninjamaica]

The sister part is tricky, but if you are closer to one, the other might totally understand. Maybe you should talk to them and see how they feel.

[avong1228]

I also have 5 BM and 2 sisters and I couldn't ask one to be my MOH and not the other so I chose my BF and they are just both BM. No feelings hurt!