Bridal Shower

[TammyB]

Were not having a shower either. Cuurse everytime I go shopping and say to myself "you don't need that right now, your saving for your wedding" I think "hmm if I had a shower I would get it" then I act like a baby and frown all the way home because I wanted whate ever it was...

[TammyWright]

my sisters threw one for me or i wouldn't have had one...it was a ladies brunch and was really fun...we all dressed up in frilly, floral dresses and my sisters rented a room at a nice restaurant...we just had brunch, unwrapped gifts...taht was it...no games, or anything..short and sweet

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At my shower we played a really fun, non-cheesy game.

 

Before the party, someone has to put it all together. You cut out pictures of brides from bridal magazines, and then pictures of celebrity faces from People, USWeekly, etc and then put the celeb faces ONTO the bridal model's faces. (Even like Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, etc were "brides") Then you number them 1-20 or whatever, and give people a little worksheet to fill out who the celeb is.

 

It's fun because all of the young people will get it, all of the old ladies know like 3 of them, and nobody is put on the spot or embarrassed. Just make sure to throw in one or two really tricky ones. It's the least cheesy bridal shower game, and it really is kinda fun....I swear!

 

( I hope my explanation of the game made sense...by brain is feeling like mush right about now!)

[NATASHA]

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Originally Posted by host my sisters threw one for me or i wouldn't have had one...it was a ladies brunch and was really fun...we all dressed up in frilly, floral dresses and my sisters rented a room at a nice restaurant...we just had brunch, unwrapped gifts...taht was it...no games, or anything..short and sweet

We did the same thing and it was really lovely. The only thing my bridesmaids made me do was read excerpts from this article that they framed for me about the important things that a good wife should do (a real article from the 1950's). It was funny.

TammyM - you should have a shower. It would be a good way for you to share the wedding with those who can't come to Cabo with you.

[A10CalGal]

Hmmmm....showers. I have mixed feelings about these events. I've been to some really great ones & some really painful ones! I imagine my MOH will put one together for me, but we haven't really talked about it. I tend to feel like having ppl pay to travel to my wedding is more than enough of a gift...but I'm sure that some of the women that aren't coming will want to participate in a shower. Which brings me to my question...isn't it customary that invited wedding guests determine the shower guest list? I feel like that is a sticky situation for me. I have a lot of girlfriends that I still associate with from my pre-engagement days. They are not invited to the wedding. But I have a feeling they'll get invited to the shower. Faux paux?

[TOESNTHESND]

Good question Christa. Anyone have any advice?

[TammyWright]

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Originally Posted by A10CALGAL Hmmmm....showers. I have mixed feelings about these events. I've been to some really great ones & some really painful ones! I imagine my MOH will put one together for me, but we haven't really talked about it. I tend to feel like having ppl pay to travel to my wedding is more than enough of a gift...but I'm sure that some of the women that aren't coming will want to participate in a shower. Which brings me to my question...isn't it customary that invited wedding guests determine the shower guest list? I feel like that is a sticky situation for me. I have a lot of girlfriends that I still associate with from my pre-engagement days. They are not invited to the wedding. But I have a feeling they'll get invited to the shower. Faux paux?

i wouldn't invite people to the shower that werent invited to the wedding...it is just uncomfortable for all involved...the ones that were not invited will feel weird when the wedding is brought up...the ones that were invited will feel like big jerks when they talk about how excited they are for the wedding to have the gal next to them say they weren't invited....and you will be uncomfortable for all of it.

[NATASHA]

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Originally Posted by host i wouldn't invite people to the shower that werent invited to the wedding...it is just uncomfortable for all involved...the ones that were not invited will feel weird when the wedding is brought up...the ones that were invited will feel like big jerks when they talk about how excited they are for the wedding to have the gal next to them say they weren't invited....and you will be uncomfortable for all of it.

Very good point. My friends at work are taking me to a "hen party." The organizer is from the UK and that's what they call showers. Basically, we all decided to get together for drinks after work before I leave.

We didn't invite anyone to the shower who isn't going to the wedding. I felt the same as has been expressed - why are the same people who are going to the wedding also buying me gifts for the engagement party and the shower! I'm still opposed but they all really wanted to get together. Perhaps you can insist on a no-gift shower and just have an opportunity to get together for brunch.

For people like TammyM who have a lot of family and close friends who will not be attending the wedding, it would be nice to include them in some way either before or after the wedding. Maybe it's not a shower?

[A10CalGal]

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Originally Posted by host i wouldn't invite people to the shower that werent invited to the wedding...it is just uncomfortable for all involved...the ones that were not invited will feel weird when the wedding is brought up...the ones that were invited will feel like big jerks when they talk about how excited they are for the wedding to have the gal next to them say they weren't invited....and you will be uncomfortable for all of it.

That's it! I'm not having a shower. I don't need to deal with this kind of weird stress. I know my MOH would invite all the girlfriends we have locally, and while I love them all, they just aren't really part of my life right now. Honestly, if I would have kept hanging out with them the way I was, I wouldn't be engaged I'm sure! I know they want to send me off in some fashion, which is great, but I don't want to feel bad that I didn't invite them. Which, of course, I am starting to do as we speak

[Jackie]

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Originally Posted by A10CALGAL That's it! I'm not having a shower. I don't need to deal with this kind of weird stress. I know my MOH would invite all the girlfriends we have locally, and while I love them all, they just aren't really part of my life right now. Honestly, if I would have kept hanging out with them the way I was, I wouldn't be engaged I'm sure! I know they want to send me off in some fashion, which is great, but I don't want to feel bad that I didn't invite them. Which, of course, I am starting to do as we speak

Christa, maybe its still early enough that you can have a talk with your MOH and explain it all to her. I'm sure she would understand. She might have allready even thought of the fact that it might make for some uncomfortable or even offended feelings. This is the one thing that I do not look forward to when I really can delve into the planning stage. Who to invite Who not to invite, showers etc. etc.