What to tell the uninvited?

[LChavez]

That you're paying for it and it's a small wedding.

[Kendall]

I would simply tell them as you did more research, the amount of work and money that a large wedding required, you and your hubby-to-be talked about it and decided that's not really what you wanted - you wanted something more intimate and after researching it more, a DW seemed more like what you guys wanted. If you are planning on having a shin-dig for the family when you get back (say a picnic or something), you could tell them you're going to have pictures or even a slide show available so everyone can see you and your hubby walking down the aisle. Just an idea. Ultimately, I have learned that this is about you and him so you have to do what make you two happy.

[jajajaja]

I kinda skimmed responses so sorry if it's redundant, but I think your guests will more than likely whittle down the list for you. I would just invite close family and friends (the people you intend on inviting) and if it comes up with anyone else, you can either cave and invite them just to be nice or express your thoughts about having a small wedding for financial reasons. We just told everyone "it's just a small, intimate wedding for family" if it was friends and for distant relatives, we just said "immediate family to keep it small and affordable." We did say we would have a AHR to lesson the blow and intended to do so, but by the time we got home I was over wedding stuff and planning so we didn't. LOL

 

Good luck!

 

Oh and we did cave when a distant friend confronted us about not being invited... we were like "Oops... we didn't think you were interested, but you can come if you want." She did and she was a party pooper! Don't CAVE! LOL