El Dorado Royale (EDR) Brides - POST HERE!

[TheWolferts]

So after a lot of debating, my husband decided he wanted to go on our originally planned honeymoon. Yay for that as we were both very excited about selecting this resort originally, but especially yay for him showing signs of recovery/feeling better about the loss of his father.

 

Iberostar Grand Rose Hall in Montego Bay here we come!

 

 

Originally Posted by jnitschke 

how about a cruise?  I just got this deal in my email this morning, also... try Travelzoo... they find good deals too.

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[amanda50388]

That's great news. That's what you guys need to, it will be nice for you two to get away. Have fun!!! quote name="TheWolferts" url="/t/7513/el-dorado-royale-edr-brides-post-here/2300#post_1779748"]So after a lot of debating, my husband decided he wanted to go on our originally planned honeymoon. Yay for that as we were both very excited about selecting this resort originally, but especially yay for him showing signs of recovery/feeling better about the loss of his father. Iberostar Grand Rose Hall in Montego Bay here we come!

[Jillsepher]

Originally Posted by TheWolferts 

 

So after a lot of debating, my husband decided he wanted to go on our originally planned honeymoon. Yay for that as we were both very excited about selecting this resort originally, but especially yay for him showing signs of recovery/feeling better about the loss of his father.

 

Iberostar Grand Rose Hall in Montego Bay here we come!

 

 

That's great Nikki! I think that will be just what will help you guys out. I think you guys will totally enjoy it!

[Jillsepher]

Originally Posted by msbritbrit57 

 

 

Yes - I had my hair and make-up done by Claudia at the Casita Spa. She was wonderful. I was a little nervous about having it done without a run-through ahead of time, but everyone there was doing a wonderful job. Two other brides were in there at the same time as me, and everyone's hair looked amazing.

 

 

I'm not doing a walk through either. What did you do for your makeup? Did you bring in a picture or just say "do whatever"?

[Jillsepher]

Alright ladies I have quite the dilemma that I need your advice with. My MOH has invited her boyfriend of three months to be her plus one. I'm completely against him coming. Let's put it this way... They just went on a vacation together and he got ejected from three bars (in a 3 day time frame) for starting fights and eventually ended up in jail the last time for assault and disorderly conduct. He just got out of jail today. Why she is still with this loser is beyond me but he is not welcome at my wedding. I told her that when they first started dating because he does drugs as well (I know real winner!). My FI has told me he will flip out if this guy shows up at our wedding too. So my questions are: 1. Do I have the right to tell her he can't come since she's the one paying for her stay at EDR? 2. How do I even go about this without ruining our friendship or pissing her off so that she doesn't come? PLEASE HELP!!!:eek:

[amanda50388]

 
You have every right to tell her not to bring him, especially if he causes fights when he is drinking you do not need to be worrying about what he might do the day of your wedding. you  just be honset and explain to her how you feel to her, hopefully she will understand because I am sure she would not want that to happen to her either.

Originally Posted by Jillsepher 

Alright ladies I have quite the dilemma that I need your advice with. My MOH has invited her boyfriend of three months to be her plus one. I'm completely against him coming. Let's put it this way... They just went on a vacation together and he got ejected from three bars (in a 3 day time frame) for starting fights and eventually ended up in jail the last time for assault and disorderly conduct. He just got out of jail today. Why she is still with this loser is beyond me but he is not welcome at my wedding. I told her that when they first started dating because he does drugs as well (I know real winner!). My FI has told me he will flip out if this guy shows up at our wedding too. So my questions are:
1. Do I have the right to tell her he can't come since she's the one paying for her stay at EDR?
2. How do I even go about this without ruining our friendship or pissing her off so that she doesn't come?
PLEASE HELP!!!

[AllieH]

Oh crap. That's quite a pickle. Do you have the right, yeah, absolutely. It's your wedding, your vacation. That said...

 

If she already knows how you feel about him, and still wants him to go to Mexico with her, then you will be risking the friendship if you tell her she can't bring him. I don't know her, but her reaction might be to tell you she isn't going if he can't go too.

 

Another option may be to tell her that while she is a cherished friend, and her being MOH means the world to you, you're concerned about his ability to behave himself given his past behavior, and thus he's not welcome at the wedding events. I still think that would go over pretty poorly, but if you really want to address it with her, that's how I would position it.

 

The other alternative is to leave it alone to preserve the friendship. Have a close guy friend or two - preferrably big, husky fellows - act as security and keep an eye on him. If he can't behave himself, get the onsite WC to call hotel security and have him escorted away from your event. You could even discuss it with your onsite WC when you meet with her before the festivities begin.

 

My future FIL is the expected troublemaker for our wedding; I didn't want to invite him, but my FI insisted even though they are not close, and my FI always tells me how much he can't stand the man. So fine, he'll be there, but if he starts acting like an ass, we will have him thrown out! (this is the man who asked my FI last month if we wanted to wait another 3 years to get married...uhm, no. No we do not want to wait until 2015 to get married).  

 

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Originally Posted by Jillsepher 

Alright ladies I have quite the dilemma that I need your advice with. My MOH has invited her boyfriend of three months to be her plus one. I'm completely against him coming. Let's put it this way... They just went on a vacation together and he got ejected from three bars (in a 3 day time frame) for starting fights and eventually ended up in jail the last time for assault and disorderly conduct. He just got out of jail today. Why she is still with this loser is beyond me but he is not welcome at my wedding. I told her that when they first started dating because he does drugs as well (I know real winner!). My FI has told me he will flip out if this guy shows up at our wedding too. So my questions are:
1. Do I have the right to tell her he can't come since she's the one paying for her stay at EDR?
2. How do I even go about this without ruining our friendship or pissing her off so that she doesn't come?
PLEASE HELP!!!

[jnitschke]

Jill, you have every right to deny him the privilege of attending your wedding.  I imagine that you chose her to be your maid of honor because you are close and trust her.  If you are honest with her about how you feel, she'll probably be mad either way... but hopefully she will understand.  I would think that she equally trusts you.  If you tell her and then give it a few days to boil over, she may understand and even be sympathetic to your request.  All in all it's your wedding, and she has to realize that it's not about her.   Plus, maybe being honest with her now will help her to realize how strongly you don't approve of him as a match for her.

Originally Posted by Jillsepher 

Alright ladies I have quite the dilemma that I need your advice with. My MOH has invited her boyfriend of three months to be her plus one. I'm completely against him coming. Let's put it this way... They just went on a vacation together and he got ejected from three bars (in a 3 day time frame) for starting fights and eventually ended up in jail the last time for assault and disorderly conduct. He just got out of jail today. Why she is still with this loser is beyond me but he is not welcome at my wedding. I told her that when they first started dating because he does drugs as well (I know real winner!). My FI has told me he will flip out if this guy shows up at our wedding too. So my questions are:
1. Do I have the right to tell her he can't come since she's the one paying for her stay at EDR?
2. How do I even go about this without ruining our friendship or pissing her off so that she doesn't come?
PLEASE HELP!!!

[jnitschke]

My fiance and I are both teachers too.  It's so nice to have summer coming up to get some real planning done.  To avoid the headache of all the legal fees and hoops we're getting our certificate back here in the states at the local court house.  It will save time, money, and effort... since you have to get your Mexican certificate signed off on back here anyway for it to be recognized, or at least in MD you do.  Plus, not sure I'm too crazy about having my blood drawn in Mexico.  To us the legal side of things is not what a wedding is about, so it's not a big deal for us to do the paperwork before hand and the ceremony later in Mexico.  Just an idea... but we are going to save a ton of money since the courthouse paperwork only costs us about $30.00, 75 if we want a little ceremony outside in the garden.

 

 

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Originally Posted by asmithpoulin 

Thanks for the welcomes ! We are piecing things together slowly but surely. As for a dress, I'm actually in love with one that is $198!! Haven't purchased just yet since I'm still looking around but I'm confident I can stay under $500. We are doing a 6 nights stay, in the regular part of the resort, forfeiting the "free wedding". I am a teacher so I can't take more then a week off in the middle of the school year With the silver package being $950, that certainly ups the budget a bit.. I'm wondering if that includes the paperwork/ legalities/ translation. I know it is another $500 for the judge as well as the blood work fee...

Any tips about how you've found ways to save a little here or there would be appreciated!

Valeria is our on-site coordinator, I have not been in touch with her yet. A little overwhelmed with the school year ending and trying to get everything into it's place.

As for photographers? Has anyone been able to find a quality deal? It's looking like an avg. of $1000 or so..

[Jillsepher]

Score on the dress if you end up getting it! We are doing the symbolic ceremony that is saving us a ton as well. We just aren't telling anyone. Not that it really matters but we'll do the legal stuff the day after we get back. As far as photography the cheapest one I could find was Caribe. We ended up going with the $1300 package which was a bit more than we anticipated but it was worth it to have more time with the photographer. To save money I've decided I keep my decorations minimal. Less is more here so I'm just doing my own luminary bags I got off of eBay and some lanterns as centerpieces. I'm having my mother and MIL set up to avoid the set up fee since this seems to be stupidly priced and not very consistent between brides. Hmmm... What else? We don't have too many guests so opted for the set menu 1. We will pay around $200 for that. Good luck with the planning and lucky you that you have the whole summer to work on it!

Thanks for the welcomes :welcome: ! We are piecing things together slowly but surely. As for a dress, I'm actually in love with one that is $198!! Haven't purchased just yet since I'm still looking around but I'm confident I can stay under $500. We are doing a 6 nights stay, in the regular part of the resort, forfeiting the "free wedding". I am a teacher so I can't take more then a week off in the middle of the school year With the silver package being $950, that certainly ups the budget a bit.. I'm wondering if that includes the paperwork/ legalities/ translation. I know it is another $500 for the judge as well as the blood work fee... Any tips about how you've found ways to save a little here or there would be appreciated! Valeria is our on-site coordinator, I have not been in touch with her yet. A little overwhelmed with the school year ending and trying to get everything into it's place. As for photographers? Has anyone been able to find a quality deal? It's looking like an avg. of $1000 or so..