Any brides from the UK

[jodieP]

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Originally Posted by Woodsylou i'm planning on doing exactly the same, losing a bit more than i need so i have some give! also i plan to wear my dress for my AHR which is 6 days after we're back from Mexico, so i can't put on too much after the ceremony, ill never get back in it! haha! are any of you UK brides moving to a different hotel after your wedding for your honeymoon? are you all having AHR's? what are your plans for those? i have my hair trial tonight! MEGA excited!!!!

hi woodsylou! wow u must be getting super excited it's all so close now!!!

we're moving to a diff hotel the day after the wedding, we will go fro cancun to el dorado seaside suites near playa del carmen area! honeymoon hotel looks fab!!

I'm getting married on day 5 too so i'll really need to behave with food and booze! there is so many big drinkers to that it'll be hard taking it easy but oh so worth it! i'd hate foe my dress not to feel right! think ur idea is great, few extra pounds loss to cover you!!

Jodie.xx

[michelle2011]

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Originally Posted by Soon-to-be-McRae Hi Ladies Not been on for a while, there is loads to catch up on will have to sit with a cuppa and have a read. As most of you know we are planning a Mexico wedding for November 2011 but because we carnt book yet i am in a rut as there doesnt seem to be anything i can do right now :-( I have decided to have my bridesmaids dresses made by a dressmaker but carnt do that until i know who is definatly booked and coming as i wouldnt want to spend all the money on a dress for someone to say they can no longer afford to join us, and not really sure what else i can do. Also we haven't even decided on a wedding package yet, and trying to get OH to discuss this is damn hard work!!!!! Any advice or tips ladies would be great, what plans and things did you start with a year and 4 months to go until your big day? Vicki x

Hi Vicki, i know how you feel. It's so frustrating waiting to book. I got my dress first. I couldn't wait any longer ha ha.. We'd been waiting to book since Aug 09 for June 11 and i got my dress in Jan 10... so about 1.5yrs before the wedding ha ha.... then we got FI's suit and booked the AHR... It's hard to know what to do before you actually book but i say if you know what you want just do it as and when you have the money! That's what we did. I was fed up with sitting around waiting to book. Now we have i am up in the air wondering what to do first. We have 11 months now and altough we've coverd alot aready. There is still alot to do. Planning early like your doing can only be a good thing )

[roo66]

Its never to early to start planning.I would use this years prices for hotels as a guide they will go up but you will be ahead of the game when you can book.If you narrow it down to two or three hotels then present them to h2b you may get a better response lol.Nows the time to be looking for the grooms outfit the sales are fast approaching and quite honestly mens fashion dosent move that quickly.When we went to buy Pauls outfit he really thought he could buy a suit without trying it on.We found his pale blue linen suit at the macarther glen outlet.I just know the shirt is going to be more expensive than the actual suit.Theres nothing stopping you from trying on dresses either.Again you may well get a bargain in the sales.Decor if you plan on taking anything will also be discounted in a few weeks i bought t light holders in hot pink from ikea.Shoes!!!! you will find them now and you will need them when you go dress shopping.

LOL THERES LOADS OF SHOPPING YOU CAN BE DOING have fun xxxx

[Woodsylou]

Hey ladies

 

i agree, there are many things you could be doing. are you going to make your stationery or buy it? you might want to start looking at that. also thinking of themes, looking at things you'd want as centrepieces/placecards/favours which are easily transportable (as you'll be packing everything) that kind of thing! good luck!

 

i need some advice from you girls. i have a friend, we were best friends for about 6 years. we used to go on holiday together all the time (barbados twice a year) and because we're so close i know how she works, i know what she earns etc etc.

 

when i got engaged and booked Mexico she said her and her boyf would only be able to come for a week, because of cost. i TOTALLY understand that, it's not cheap. then about a week later she said only she would come, because her boyf's job doesn't have paid leave etc. totally understand. then a little bit later she said they couldnt' come at all because they were planning on trying for a baby in late 2010 and they needed to save money. i was a little bit put out, but what can you do. anyway,since then the boyf has got a new job, 5 weeks paid leave etc and a payrise. she has also had a promotion and a £5k payrise and an off the cuff £3k bonus too. (I know all this, because she's not shy in telling people she earns £58k a year etc etc) . But even so, they haev never mentioned coming to the wedding (oh, she's also a bridesmaid!!)

 

on her facebook last week it said 'Friend A is looking at holidays in the Dominican Republic, anyone been?' so i was a bit pee'd off to say the least. but i didn't say anything. she sent me an email linking me to a hotel in dom rep asking me what i think!!! what could i say?! i said it looks nice and she said that if she could afford our wedding she'd do that but she can't. basically she's making the excuse that the Moon Palace is a lot more expensive, which im sure it is, but she doesn't have to stay there! a few of our friends are staying at other, cheaper resorts and coming in for a day or two.

 

last night her status said 'Friend A is considering the Sandals resort in Cuba, anyone been?'

 

now every time i read it i feel like ive been kicked in the stomach. lots of people text me last night saying 'omg have you seen friend a's status?' so i know im not alone in thinking it's out of order.

 

i don't know how to 'get over it' because i don't want it to bother me. i don't want her to come to my wedding now anyway, she's clearly not the friend i thought she was. but it still hurts every time i see it.

 

i don't expect any of you to make it better, but any advice?!

[michelle2011]

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Originally Posted by Woodsylou Hey ladies i agree, there are many things you could be doing. are you going to make your stationery or buy it? you might want to start looking at that. also thinking of themes, looking at things you'd want as centrepieces/placecards/favours which are easily transportable (as you'll be packing everything) that kind of thing! good luck! i need some advice from you girls. i have a friend, we were best friends for about 6 years. we used to go on holiday together all the time (barbados twice a year) and because we're so close i know how she works, i know what she earns etc etc. when i got engaged and booked Mexico she said her and her boyf would only be able to come for a week, because of cost. i TOTALLY understand that, it's not cheap. then about a week later she said only she would come, because her boyf's job doesn't have paid leave etc. totally understand. then a little bit later she said they couldnt' come at all because they were planning on trying for a baby in late 2010 and they needed to save money. i was a little bit put out, but what can you do. anyway,since then the boyf has got a new job, 5 weeks paid leave etc and a payrise. she has also had a promotion and a £5k payrise and an off the cuff £3k bonus too. (I know all this, because she's not shy in telling people she earns £58k a year etc etc) . But even so, they haev never mentioned coming to the wedding (oh, she's also a bridesmaid!!) on her facebook last week it said 'Friend A is looking at holidays in the Dominican Republic, anyone been?' so i was a bit pee'd off to say the least. but i didn't say anything. she sent me an email linking me to a hotel in dom rep asking me what i think!!! what could i say?! i said it looks nice and she said that if she could afford our wedding she'd do that but she can't. basically she's making the excuse that the Moon Palace is a lot more expensive, which im sure it is, but she doesn't have to stay there! a few of our friends are staying at other, cheaper resorts and coming in for a day or two. last night her status said 'Friend A is considering the Sandals resort in Cuba, anyone been?' now every time i read it i feel like ive been kicked in the stomach. lots of people text me last night saying 'omg have you seen friend a's status?' so i know im not alone in thinking it's out of order. i don't know how to 'get over it' because i don't want it to bother me. i don't want her to come to my wedding now anyway, she's clearly not the friend i thought she was. but it still hurts every time i see it. i don't expect any of you to make it better, but any advice?!

Oh hun i sympathis with you. I can't believe she is looking at holidays and not coming to your wedding. Not just a cheap hol to spain etc but long haul expensive holidays.... I would be as hurt as you are. Especially as she was asked to be BM! WTF..... I dont know what to say really. I feel upset for you.. Obviously you dont want to fall out with her over it but could you talk to her about it? Or one of your friends maybe? She's not being very tactful is she? Maybe she's jealous? I dunno but it's a horrible and hurtful situation to be in. Clearly even if saving for a baby she can afford to come, i dont get it..

We had an upset with our Bestman. He has been FI's best friend since 5yrs old. FI was bestman to him at his wedding in Nov 09. We asked him to be bestman at our wedding and he was over the moon....We knew a baby was on the cards and half expected his wife not to come (she's not our biggest fan).. But bestman said to FI "mate even if she is on the delivery table i am coming to your wedding"..... 3 months later... wife is pregnant and bestman tells us he's not coming cos of the baby. (baby will be 7months old when we go).. so so so upset and feel so let down. None of FI's friends have booked up so now we are without a bestman. It's been upsetting and to be honest we're not over it. We feel so let down and truely gutted he's not coming. Alot of ppl have said he should come on his own for a week, but what do you do? you can't make him and dont think wife would let him anyway..... To top that my dads not coming (but that is due to the long flight, he cant do it)...

Very sad that us brides/FI's have this upset in the run up to our weddings.

[Woodsylou]

awwwwwww honey, that sucks. my brother had a VERY similar situation to you, his bestman pulled out and none of his friends came. in the end he paid for his bestman to come, flights and hotel in hawaii and suits etc. madness. i wouldn't have done it, especially as he had to share a room with his best man for the first 5 days and his wife to be had to share with her brother!!!! people are very selfish and i think things like this really bring to light where people's loyalty's lay!

 

it's hard to move on from isn't it? i know i'm meant to just get over it, but i can't. everything she does is like a kick in the stomach. i bet you both feel similarly. but what can you do? at least we know our wedding day's will be fabulous and it's THEM who will be missing out, not us.

 

p.s. i get married one month today! whooooop!

[janapana]

Woodsylou and Michelle2011, I hear you!

 

My two best friends (or so i thought) aren´t coming for a variety of shite excuses, despite having promised they wouldn´t miss it for the world. And OH´s best mate has said he can´t make it for even SHITE-ER reasons, essentially though his girlfriend doesn´t want him to.

 

Woodsylou, I´d hide your friend on your facebook for a bit so you don´t have to look at her status!

[Woodsylou]

this is going to sound really mean and i don't mean it to, but im glad it's not just me!! seems a destination wedding makes a lot of people act like b@stards!!!

 

that's a good idea, i'm hiding her now!

[michelle2011]

OMG can't believe your brother paid for him to go... Moneys not a issue with our Bestman, he can afford it which makes it even worse in a way. We are gutted really sad he wont be there but like you say. It's their loss, they will regret it one day. And it defo shows peoples true colours. I had a row with MIL in Jan (because i'm not having SIL as bridesmaid) and we are still not really talking properly now. She told me "it's as much her day as it is mine"....WTF!!! I tell ya, weddings bring out the monster in ppl.... very spiteful of them to cause problems with our special day.

 

I suppose in a way yes it is down to us having DW's but why shouldn't we and my belief is... if they REALLY wanted to be there they would...

 

I was going to suggest the same thing. Hide her in your news feed. What you dont read can't hurt you. You dont need it in the run up to your special day! Let her see your beautiful photos on FB when your back then she'll be kicking herself she didn't come )

 

janapana - sorry your going through it too... Girls at least we have each other to vent to ah?

 

WHOOOPPPP 1 month 2day how exciting. Mine is 11mths exactly tomorrow. lol

[michelle2011]

Woodsylou - might be an idea to tell your friends you dont wanna know either (when they text etc about her status updates...) it's only hurting you. Just say "look it's up to her i'm to busy with MY WONDERFUL wedding to worry about what she's doing...