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[michelle2011]

Roo so sorry to hear what you have had to put with from that horrible woman. She clearly has no morals! What a waste of space. I would push the custody thing if that's what you want and would make your life easier. Give her a taste of her own medicine. What a poisonous woman she is. Not a good mother at all. She sounds jealous of what you have got and is now going out of her way to take it from you. I would be so mad too!!

 

I wonder how she got the CSA onside. My son Harrison has never had a penny of his dad and my case has been with the CSA for 12yrs now! What a joke!

 

Really hope it gets sorted out. At least you have a happy marriage and the wedding of your dreams. Chin up hun. What goes around comes around. She will get hers!!! xx

[roo66]

Michelle the csa have made changes since they first come in i unfortunatly was given the run around as i started my claim the month they came into force.From what i can understand now to simplyfy it they just do the 25% thing with a reduction for the amount of nights you care for them in any one year.She has decieded they cant be bothered to drop the kids at pauls mums anymore Which means an hour drive each way.I will find out this weekend if they are both working.I will play detective cos i know she worked last christmas time and was paid in tesco vouchers.If shes still doing it i will report her to the social for fiddeling the system

Im angry beyond belief but to fight for custody would cost us thousands am i prepared to get ourselves deeper in debt? i dunno

im going to find out if they will be worse off if they are out of work or if they get to keep all the money if they are on benefits.Paul is trying to play it down cos my nerves are at me.

She very ruthless shes with her dead best friends husband and rubbed Pauls nose in it for five months before he could take no more.

You are right about presents not being everything but they hve so little from home he smashes everything or its sold on ebay its nice for them to have nice things here.

I couldnt believe it a few monthsw ago i said to Amy where are your hairbands clips etc you know girly bits and she said at 12 years old we dont have any.

Life is going to be harder for them aswell.Jamie is from the same mould as his mother Pauls dad bought him some scalectrix cars at a boot fair only a few weeks ago and hes bragged scott(step father) owes him 90 quid !!!for selling them on ebay.Amy wont let them in her room os they rummage and sell her things.

Im so mad to have to be working 11 hour days for this woman that could easily make a good jeremy Kyle guest.

Paul cancelled her payment for the 12th and has had it paid into his isa account so when it is all sorted we have the money there.Hes rhoping she will be desperate and cave in i do hope so ahhhhhhhhhhhh

Oh and my ex pays me £5.88 for three and Scott the stepdad has a daughter he sdosent pay for.Im sure its a case of flogging the willing horse.

Thanks for allowing me to rant lol

[Nicyx]

Been MIA for a few days, been lurking but feeling sorry for myself and fed up.... GOOD GOD GIRL, GIVE YOURSELF A SHAKE.....{{{{{}}}}} So thats what im doing haha :-) x
 

Originally Posted by josietoms 

Your shoes look lovely!

 

Suddenly I feel like I am getting married............... booked our photographer today I think its made it all seems so more real.  Also delivering the AHR invites on Saturday as we need a response by 24th Dec for confirmed numbers.  OMG its all really real and I have so much to do with not a lot of dollar - arrrggghhhh.  I've only had a year to plan - lol.

 

Michelle - well done on the weight loss x

Thats brilliant Josie :-) ARGH!!!! I want to feel real :-) Haha x
 

Originally Posted by herbie76 

Oh Roo I'm so sorry to hear what's happening with you at the moment. I really hope you get it sorted out. Remember that the children probably just enjoy being with you at Christmas for the love and care they get and not how much you spend on them. Big hugs to you. Xx

Im with you on this one herbie :-) x

 

Originally Posted by roo66 

Michelle the csa have made changes since they first come in i unfortunatly was given the run around as i started my claim the month they came into force.From what i can understand now to simplyfy it they just do the 25% thing with a reduction for the amount of nights you care for them in any one year.She has decieded they cant be bothered to drop the kids at pauls mums anymore Which means an hour drive each way.I will find out this weekend if they are both working.I will play detective cos i know she worked last christmas time and was paid in tesco vouchers.If shes still doing it i will report her to the social for fiddeling the system

Im angry beyond belief but to fight for custody would cost us thousands am i prepared to get ourselves deeper in debt? i dunno

im going to find out if they will be worse off if they are out of work or if they get to keep all the money if they are on benefits.Paul is trying to play it down cos my nerves are at me.

She very ruthless shes with her dead best friends husband and rubbed Pauls nose in it for five months before he could take no more.

You are right about presents not being everything but they hve so little from home he smashes everything or its sold on ebay its nice for them to have nice things here.

I couldnt believe it a few monthsw ago i said to Amy where are your hairbands clips etc you know girly bits and she said at 12 years old we dont have any.

Life is going to be harder for them aswell.Jamie is from the same mould as his mother Pauls dad bought him some scalectrix cars at a boot fair only a few weeks ago and hes bragged scott(step father) owes him 90 quid !!!for selling them on ebay.Amy wont let them in her room os they rummage and sell her things.

Im so mad to have to be working 11 hour days for this woman that could easily make a good jeremy Kyle guest.

Paul cancelled her payment for the 12th and has had it paid into his isa account so when it is all sorted we have the money there.Hes rhoping she will be desperate and cave in i do hope so ahhhhhhhhhhhh

Oh and my ex pays me £5.88 for three and Scott the stepdad has a daughter he sdosent pay for.Im sure its a case of flogging the willing horse.

Thanks for allowing me to rant lol

 I really feel for you roo, wish it wasnt like this for you, the nicest of nice people always seem to get stung :-( and you dont have to thank us for "allowing" you to rant, you need to get it out and were all here for you :-) x   &  x

 

 

 

 

 

Im off to look at wedding dresses 2moz, a new shop is opening up near where i work in Carlisle 2moz so im going in after work, luckily i only work til 12 on a sat so i will hopefully have a great few hours :-) All the dress shops in Carlisle are tiny and dont have a great selection, but this new shop has 3 fllors of wedding dresses..... whoo, whoo.... i hope to try 1 or 2 on.... Im hoping it will get me feeling all weddingy again, as i havent for ages and ages!!!! I know what dress i want as you all know, so im gana see if they stock it, if not i try on diferent ones anyway!!! Haha, ive only ever tried on 2 so i wana get a feel of a few :-) ANY XCUSE!!!!!! x

 

 

 

 

 

[roxmysockz]

Roo - i'm totally with Michelle my mum never ever got a penny from my dad either! Yet in your case their not happy with just some they want more!! its an awful situation and hope it gets sorted soon xx

 

Nicy - Yipeeeeee!!! I cant wait to hear all about it xx

[roxmysockz]

I found the shirts for the guys yesterday from .. ASDA! lol

 

We have been looking for a long sleeve white shirt with some lines running through it just to break it up a little couldnt find any we liked anywhere. Pop to ASDA and tah dah!! £10 each... bargain!

 

[michelle2011]

Can't wait to hear all about your dress shopping Nicy x

 

Wow Kerry what a bargain! Lovely jubbly!!

 

We are having a witness dilemma! What's your opinions on this girls? As you know we need 4 witness'. We have asked FI's brother and sister and also one of my BM's husbands as we have known him for yr's and lovely bloke. We have two options for the 4th witness. We can ask our other BM's husband (not to close to him but again a lovely bloke) or a friend that is coming (a girl) Not known her to long either really but lovely girl that get on really well with and met through BM number 1 (she only recently booked up to come). So do we have both the BM's husbands then BIL and SIL or do we have BIL, SIL, BMs husband and friend which will make it two girls two boys? Arrggghhh we dont know what to do :o/  FI said he can't make his mind up but i really think we need to ask the 4th witness as asked the others ages ago now. Help!!

[Nicyx]

 

 

Originally Posted by roxmysockz 

 

I found the shirts for the guys yesterday from .. ASDA! lol

 

We have been looking for a long sleeve white shirt with some lines running through it just to break it up a little couldnt find any we liked anywhere. Pop to ASDA and tah dah!! £10 each... bargain!

 

 

 

Bargain... I Love ASDA, always come up trumps that palce when you least expect it :-)

 

 

Originally Posted by michelle2011 

 

Can't wait to hear all about your dress shopping Nicy x

 

Wow Kerry what a bargain! Lovely jubbly!!

 

We are having a witness dilemma! What's your opinions on this girls? As you know we need 4 witness'. We have asked FI's brother and sister and also one of my BM's husbands as we have known him for yr's and lovely bloke. We have two options for the 4th witness. We can ask our other BM's husband (not to close to him but again a lovely bloke) or a friend that is coming (a girl) Not known her to long either really but lovely girl that get on really well with and met through BM number 1 (she only recently booked up to come). So do we have both the BM's husbands then BIL and SIL or do we have BIL, SIL, BMs husband and friend which will make it two girls two boys? Arrggghhh we dont know what to do :o/  FI said he can't make his mind up but i really think we need to ask the 4th witness as asked the others ages ago now. Help!!

 

 

Witness thing is bugging me, as we nned to have 2 BUT they cant be related to either of us..... So that rules out ALL our guests.... unless some friends book last min!!! Haha, so we can have them provided to us by the hotel... I wonder who they get to witness? A hotel worker or what?

I said to stephen wonder if we meet anyone there? haha, they can come to our wedding and be our witnesses to that way it wont be "just some random from the hotel" they can be a "random" who we may actually like or kinda get to know!!!!

 

 

 Michelle to end the dilema i say go with "girl" that way you got 2 of each....... keep it simple :-) And just use that as deciding factor !!!

 

 

 

 

 

OMG OMG OMG...... I HAVE A DILEMA TOO..............

 

I knew i shouldnt have gone dress shopping..... girls i have fallen in  with another dress...... Ok so in the pictures of it, it dosent actually look that special, but i tried it on today and i DIDNT wana take it off, I just loved it..... In fact the more im talking about it the more i think im going to get it.... It was gorgeous, fitted PERFECT too & & & & & i always said i didnt want a veil but now i do.... i was looking for an aqua flower for my hair now i just want a hair comb with some bling flowers... i tried on the whole "shbang" I really really wanted my mum or sis there. I went on my own today as i couldnt get anyone to go with me. But i must say, I Looked Gorgeous :-) Infact reading back on this I dont think i have a dilema after all............ I nearly cried, didnt cry, but nearly i had a tear in my eye for sure....

I just wish the picture of it looked like it did when it was on!!!!

You will probably notice it is VERY VERY simliar to the one i originally wanted so i defo know the style is right :-)

 

I am so so glad i held off buying the Maggie dress..........

 

HERE IT IS :

 

http://www.benjaminroberts.co.uk/4017-p-329.html 

 

 

HERE IS "MY" ORIGINAL ONE to compare :

 

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?page=8&style=A3283 

 

PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK, I RELY ON YOU GIRLS SO SO MUCH  x

 

[josietoms]

Michelle - with regards to the witnesses I thought they couldnt be related to you or your partner ie; no blood relatives.  We have FIs step father, step mother,  my brothers girlfriend and my aunts husband.  In our wedding pack it says you can hire local people for a fee - lol!

 

When I went to Sri Lanka a few years ago me and my partner at the time were witnesses to another british couple getting married out there as they went out on their own.

[josietoms]

Nicy - both dresses are beautiful and wll look fantastic on the beach.  Do you remember how you felt when you tried on your first choice - did you get as emotional?  Maybe try and get a day with a friend, sister or mum when you can get to try on both dresses.  xx

 

[*lyndsey*]

hey nicy,

both dresses are beautiful and they are quite similar but if the second dress makes you feel really special & you can afford it get it!x