do you give presents?

[CourtneyV]

I do if I'm close with them. I recently got invited to a wedding of a friend with whom I haven't spoken with in probably 5+ years. She had it listed on her website that presents are expected, even if you don't plan to attend the wedding! That pissed me off so much!! (I posted about it on this forum, of course). I didn't attend, and I didn't send a gift because I felt like I was just another invite for a gift! Otherwise, If I've spoken to the person ...recently, then of course!

[TammyB]

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Originally Posted by anacgarcia OMG did Tammy get her pics from Juan

No I'm still waiting. These are two pictures he sent me since I'm trying to sell my dress. I'm hoping Jen's is up today and mine should be sometime "hopefully" next week.

[anaderoux]

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Originally Posted by TammyB No I'm still waiting. These are two pictures he sent me since I'm trying to sell my dress. I'm hoping Jen's is up today and mine should be sometime "hopefully" next week.

It's torture.. mine will be done in 6 weeks suposedly..

[tvt]

for us it depends on whos wedding it is and how close we are to them. but more likely than not, we send presents even if we don't go.

[NYJen]

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Originally Posted by CourtneyV I do if I'm close with them. I recently got invited to a wedding of a friend with whom I haven't spoken with in probably 5+ years. She had it listed on her website that presents are expected, even if you don't plan to attend the wedding! That pissed me off so much!! (I posted about it on this forum, of course). I didn't attend, and I didn't send a gift because I felt like I was just another invite for a gift! Otherwise, If I've spoken to the person ...recently, then of course!

OMG!!! That's just OBNOXIOUS!!! I can't believe someone would say that. I have heard of people doing that and I always feel that's so tacky. Good for you for not sending a gift. I would have done the same thing.

[IrieBride08]

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Originally Posted by lizz10179 Not that I'm fishing for presents (lol), it's just that we invited 240(!) people and are expecting probably 80 or so to come. I wasn't sure if I should register for a lot of things or not. I don't want anyone who IS coming to get me a gift because their coming is enough, but didn't know if those who weren't would still send something. BTW - Sorry I totally highjacked this thread!!!!!!!

I'm in the same boat. Plan to invite a little over 100, but anticipate about 50 guests. I don't want my guests to worry about buying me a gift after they come all the way to Jamaica to attend my wedding. (A few presents at the AHR would be nice though... LOL)

I'm still trying to figure out the proper way to handle the gift issue. (I haven't registered anywhere yet.)

[TammyB]

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Originally Posted by anacgarcia It's torture.. mine will be done in 6 weeks suposedly..

I thought you already got yours? Do you mean you'll have then in your hand in six weeks?

[Spazz]

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Originally Posted by CourtneyV I do if I'm close with them. I recently got invited to a wedding of a friend with whom I haven't spoken with in probably 5+ years. She had it listed on her website that presents are expected, even if you don't plan to attend the wedding! That pissed me off so much!! (I posted about it on this forum, of course). I didn't attend, and I didn't send a gift because I felt like I was just another invite for a gift! Otherwise, If I've spoken to the person ...recently, then of course!

I read that thread the other day. That girl is ridiculous! I cannot believe the nerve of some people. Good for you not sending her anything!

[diana2008]

Wow, saying on your website that gifts are expected is so tacky!!!! I wouldn't have sent one to that couple, either.

 

But besides a situation like that, I always send a gift if I receive an invitation. If it's someone I'm not close with or haven't talked to in ages, I'll just send them something on the lower end of the $$ range than I normally would for a good friend.

[TOESNTHESND]

We always send gifts if we are invited to bday parties, bridal showers, weddings. I already have a ton of gifts from family that is not going to the wedding but to the AHR when we return. I have no idea what I am going to do with all this stuff!