do you give presents?

[1elephant]

when you don't go to the wedding? i mean even at-home weddings...

 

my parents taught me to give a gift as long as i was invited, even if i didn't go (weddings, bday parties)...

 

i was just curious if other people did as well.....

[starchild]

Definitely. I give presents for bdays and such even when there isn't a party, I love giving gifts and wrapping them up all pretty, it brings me joy (lame I know)

[TammyB]

We do if we were invited. But I have found that some of our close family members didn't send us even a card since they didn't go to our wedding. Maybe that's becasue we had a DW, who knows..

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by TammyB We do if we were invited. But I have found that some of our close family members didn't send us even a card since they didn't go to our wedding. Maybe that's becasue we had a DW, who knows..

My mamma says they have a year . . . who would wait a year I don't know, but that's the old school tradition.

[jak27]

Yes, I absolutely give a gift when invited to a wedding. Even if I don't attend, I still make sure and send something. I think the rule is a year after the wedding is acceptable, but I try to do it about a month after, so the couple is home from the honeymoon, back in their routine, etc, and surprise, a gift!

[Spazz]

I always send a gift if I was invited. If I don't go to the wedding, I usually just order something off of their registry. If I do go, I give cash (so many people prefer that so they have something for their honeymoon).

But, my FI said he never heard of sending a gift if you don't go to the wedding(...then again, he's the type of person who doesn't remember his mom's birthday and shops Christmas Eve, so I wouldn't go by what he does!)

 

The DW brides that have already gotten married, do you find that people still send gifts if they don't come? I feel as if they don't because it's a DW, but I have no idea!

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by lizz10179 The DW brides that have already gotten married, do you find that people still send gifts if they don't come? I feel as if they don't because it's a DW, but I have no idea!

Totally! In the weeks before the wedding we received gifts from a lot of people who couldn't go - maybe that was their way of saying "sorry we can't go-take this instead". lol We are still getting gifts from people who didn't go. You'll be surprised )

[TammyB]

well we invited about 20 people/couples and we got about 6 gifts.. So I think it just all depends.

[Spazz]

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Originally Posted by starchild Totally! In the weeks before the wedding we received gifts from a lot of people who couldn't go - maybe that was their way of saying "sorry we can't go-take this instead". lol We are still getting gifts from people who didn't go. You'll be surprised )

Not that I'm fishing for presents (lol), it's just that we invited 240(!) people and are expecting probably 80 or so to come. I wasn't sure if I should register for a lot of things or not. I don't want anyone who IS coming to get me a gift because their coming is enough, but didn't know if those who weren't would still send something.

BTW - Sorry I totally highjacked this thread!!!!!!!

[anaderoux]

Yeah I always give gifts even if we don't go to the wedding, and I've gotten more gifts from people that didn't come to our wedding than from people who did come..

 

OMG did Tammy get her pics from Juan