I need some advice (please)

[dawnkyeknod]

I have been on this forum for a few months now and I am always amazed at how everyone helps each other. I don't usually ask but I was hoping to get some advice about something.

Here goes...

I am 40 years old and this is my second marriage. When I got married the first time I was young and I had my dad walk me down the aisle even though he and I are not close at all.(my parents were divorced when I was 8 years old). I wanted to have my mom and step dad walk me down the aisle but I was guilted into asking my dad...

This time around I want to do what I want- not what other people think I should do.

So, the problem is that I really want my mom and step dad included in a special way but my FI and I have 3 kids (all teenagers) between us. My original thought was to have my daughter and step daughter walk me down the aisle and my step son waiting at the front with my FI.

What are your thoughts??

Any suggestions would be great

Thanks everyone!!

[clfaidl2]

I think that would be fine...or if you want to include them all could you have your daughters and son as bridesmaids/groomsmen? and then your mom and step dad walk you down the aisle? If not, I definitely thinks its fine to involve the kids in the walk down the aisle. good luck!

[kate.com]

do what you want! I think that sounds wonderful and very personal.

[wendyjd]

Agree with Christina, I would probably have the children stand with you at the wedding as your wedding party then you can have your mom and step dad walk you down the aisle. Or conversely have your parents as wedding party (not sure it that is "legal" per Ms Manners) and have your children walk you down the aisle. Its your day and do what you want. I'm having my mom and step dad walk me down the aisle. I walked myself down the first time.

[Tilly in the Sun]

I agree that you should do whatever makes you happy. It's your day and I think your idea is very sweet, thoughtful and original.

[Thomasjsgirl]

This was my second marriage too and I wanted to include my kids as well (DH has none). So, I had them participate in the wedding (daughter was MOH, son walked me down the aisle, readings, etc.). Plus, I had each participate in the sand ceremony. It was very special and I hope they have fond memories of being included in their mom's wedding too.

[DWbridetobe]

You should do what YOU want. It's your wedding, afterall. I will say though... I love the idea of incorporating your entire family, children included. Your marriage is the joining of two families, so it's such a symbolic occasion to include everyone. No matter what you decide, just make sure that you are happy!

[mnh1983]

I like the idea of having the kids at the front and having your parents walk you down the aisle. That way, everyone you love can be included!

[Melidell]

I really agree that you should do what you want! I think having your children in the wedding party may be a bit easier (plus that way your mother and stepfather can walk you down the aisle if you like) but do whatever works best for you and your family. I think the kids will really appreciate being included, no matter how you decide to do it. Good luck!

[dawnkyeknod]

Thanks for the "pep talk" - I feel better. We are also including the kids in the sand ceremony. I think it will be a very special day no matter what we decide. Although I say that I want to do what I want, I still dont want to hurt anyone's feelings (my mom has "mentioned" several times how much it would mean to have my step dad walk me down the aisle...)