For those doing a Symbolic Ceremony..

[sungoddess_08]

We are doing a Symbolic ceremony at the end of June - our guests do not know that we are getting married legally before we go.

 

How have you past brides handled this situation? Was it easy to make it look real, or how did you handle any questions your guests had about legalities. We have family members already asking how it "works" and how it becomes legal.

 

Any tips? Or future brides - how do you plan to handle this?

 

 

Thanks!!

[ali0284]

i'm wondering the same thing!! I'm afraid people will get angry if they know we are doing it "legally" before we go!!!

[tracy0716]

I'm pretty sure there's already a thread on here somewhere about this....but to answer your question I'm doing a symbolic ceremony and not telling anyone other than my mom who is going to be our witness. It seems cheaper and much more convenient. I don't think anyone will notice the difference during the ceremony. And if someone asks you can always say you filled out the paperwork with the WC and judge before the ceremony.

 

I think once our awesome DW is over I'll tell people if they ask. I just don't want to hear from anyone that this isn't our real wedding since we got legally married back in NJ. Good luck with your wedding planning!

[TLC4Rock]

This is going to helpful to everyone! Thanks sungoddess_08!

 

Because I received so much drama about having a destination wedding, I really don't want anyone to know. It would only make things worst, I am already the worst person in the world.

 

Anyway hopefully the BDW family can pull together to help everyone get through this situation.

[sungoddess_08]

Ooops! I am not sure if there is a thread or not - I didn't see one come up when I searched.

If so, sorry!

[amygirl1169]

We got legally married and I was planning on keeping it a secret, but FI has a HUGE mouth and was too excited not to tell everyone... People were really cool and nonchalant about it - they were so happy for us and couldn't care less because the DW is the real wedding and celebration of our unity in front of the majority of our friends and family.

I wouldn't stress too much about it. It's just paperwork.

[tracy0716]

Sungoddess- I just looked and it said you started the other thread I was thinking about...too funny! The thread was called something like "Anybody getting married beforehand and not telling your guests?" I haven't looked at the thread in a while but I remember past brides sharing how they managed to make the symbolic ceremony look legal. GL planning this!

[sungoddess_08]

Oh my! That shows how swamped I am with this planning!!! And evident that it's still a concern of mine! So funny.

[aepproduction]

We are also getting married in June, but getting the legal part taken care of ahead of time. No one has asked and only our parents know, but if they do we're just telling them we're taking care of the "paperwork" ahead of time. We all are treating the symbolic wedding as the one and only. Good luck!

[Micas de Miralls]

Well I can help for mexican law...so I am not sure about your destination place...