How would you feel?

EmmaGaussoin · March 27, 2010

A DW is definitely hard on a lot of people and can definitely seem like a burden. I know I go back and forth with just trowing the towel in a planning a wedding for back home, but I know this is what I want and in the end I will hopefully be thankful that I did it. Good luck and keep your head up.

KPEG · March 29, 2010

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Originally Posted by jenninjamaica

Hey Girl! Sorry to hear you are feeling so glum!! I know how you feel about your DW feeling like an inconvenience. I feel like that from time to time and my FI always reminds me that this is what we want and in the end its only important that he and I are there. There is some concern that some of our guests won't be able to make it, including our parents and we would miss them, but we can't imagine our wedding anywhere else than in Jamaica.

I also know how you feeling about the lack of attention on your wedding. My FI's cousin is getting married in June and they have created such a competition that its not fun anymore. I'm afraid that a family rift is going to erupt over the socials (some family is boycotting theirs b/c their mom didn't come to ours) and showers (we are closer to many of the aunt's and they have said they are spending more on us). I just want everyone to be happy for us all. Sometimes family sucks! LOL

Just remember that you love your FI and can't wait to be his wife! No matter what happens, you found love and that is rare!

Ugh! that's exactly what's happening here too! Thanks for sharing, not that I am glad someone else is experiencing the same thing but just to know I'm not the only one.

echo2_62 · March 29, 2010

I'm so sorry that you've got all this stuff hanging over your head right now The other girls are right, I think, that even though you can't completely ignore the things your family is going through you also can't be the one responsible for everything else going on.

When I read your comment that you don't even feel like you can be excited for your own wedding, I could totally relate based on a conversation that FI and I had last night. He is worried that I'm getting too stressed about little details b/c we didn't want anything fancy from the beginning. He said it's turning into too much of a "wedding" for him! We all know it's hard not to get caught up in the details no matter how much we try to avoid them, but some of these "wedding" things (yah, like making favours for everyone!) are what gets me excited too! Ugh talk about bubble bursting.

Remember that people are always going to have things going on in their lives no matter when you were trying to plan your wedding. And I can bet that even if you were having a local wedding, there would be some family members who would have problems with what date, or what weekend, or where they had to drive to etc. and you'd still end up with a bunch of headaches.

As FI tells me - let other people take care of themselves and just deal with the things that directly involve you and your FI. That's as much control as you can have (he says to me, the control freak!). This is your day and you need to do what's right for the two of you!!