How to keep stress free during the planning stages

[Tennyt1]

I feel so stressed out now, and I'm still in the picking location/resort stage. How do you keep stress free while planning your wedding?

[jk1101]

I think picking the resort was THE hardest thing to do. Once I did that and had my date booked i felt so much better. Then it's a matter of taking things step by step...having BDW has helped me so much - just having all the other DW brides to get ideas from and have something in common with...it's a great tool and support.

Good luck!

[tiffandmarv]

Take full advantage of this forum...it will really help with ideas and can really save you time in your planning efforts! Chances are whatever you are going through someone else on this forum has or is going through it too.

[BachataBride]

Plenty of booze!!!

 

Just kidding! You will be fine! Like jerseykitten said, picking the resort is the hardest part! The rest is easy!! Just do what makes you & FI happy, don't worry about pleasing everyone! And plan within your means...nothing is more stressful than financial worries!

[*Nadine*]

I agree.. Just take a deep breath and relax. So many brides get caught up in the little things and stress themselves out when there is no need! Having a DW is relatively stress feel and it should be FUN. Just enjoy the process and dont stress over things you have no control over.

[coley88]

I've been pretty high-strung the past month and a half. Once we picked the resort and had our date confirmed it got better. Then once we got the website up so people would stop asking us every time we talked to them that helped. Now that our invites/STD's are almost done I feel like a million bucks.

 

The rest, I think, should be the fun part, but we'll see.

 

I've leaned on my friends a lot. My BM and the girl doing my invites, both of whom are married, have helped a lot.

 

Good luck, deep breaths and a glass of wine helps

[march132010]

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Originally Posted by *Nadine* I agree.. Just take a deep breath and relax. So many brides get caught up in the little things and stress themselves out when there is no need! Having a DW is relatively stress feel and it should be FUN. Just enjoy the process and dont stress over things you have no control over.

I agree with plenty of booze that is how I did

[cjb0arder13]

I totally feel your pain. I spent MONTHS researching resorts, and just put a deposit down on mine last week. I can't say it's really gotten easier, because now I'm kind of second-guessing my choice, especially as I read about all the options for the wedding and think this place might be more expensive than I had planned on!!

 

But then again, that's me...even when I make a decision, I tend to second-guess myself until enough time has passed that I don't have a choice to change it anymore

 

I plan on visiting this forum as much as possible to share the burden! People on here are so supportive, it's awesome.

[aimee!]

I went through this too. My advice: Timeline. seriously.

 

April 2011... you have over a year (good!) I say make a timeline & try to stick to it.

 

I start planning our wedding about a 1.5 years in advance, and it was plenty of time. I actually ended up taking a 6 month break!

 

My advice is to get as much as you can done right away, that way you can take your 6 month break right before the wedding. Nothing is more stressful than "crunch time" !

 

The other big piece of advice I can give you is set deadlines. It is so easy to look for flowers, or jewelry, or whatever for days and days. Give yourself enough time to search and find what you really want. But don't let yourself second guess too much. Try to move onto other tasks and get this wedding cranked out.

 

Best of luck, and remember to have fun!!

[Melidell]

I agree that picking the resort and setting the date was the most stressful part of the process. It does get better- other planning stuff can be really fun. Last summer I felt the same way, but now I'm just really looking forward to going. Just remember that you've still got lots of time- you've started nice and early so you won't be rushed. I find, too, that taking breaks from "wedding stuff" can be really helpful so be sure that you give yourself plenty of wedding free time. Good luck- trust me, you'll do fine!