Bridal showers and Registering

[StephyD]

I believe my MIL wants to throw me a bridal shower but we are not going to be registering for wedding gifts.

[MDLady]

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Originally Posted by skadow I think its a good idea, plus I heard that sometimes people will go off those lists around Christmas times or holidays, Housewarming ect. Times when people want to get you a couples present ,but don't know what to get you. I registered at Home Depot ( we just bought a house) Crate and Barrel ( For people who like getting nicer gifts) Target ( For Practical Gifts) If you register for items with a different prices, people can buy what they feel is approprate. So you don't have to worry about feeling odd. Who knows, co-workers or parents friends might want to get you something too.

Totally agreed. We were in the same position but only registered at Macy's. Whoever wanted to buy something did buy it, but those who did not were not forced to. I also put quite a bit of a range in item prices on the list so there were things that were $15 all the way up to $250.

[MDLady]

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Originally Posted by hat0112 My FI and I just registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond. We invited only 90 people to the wedding and only about 20 are coming. A lot of our family and friends want to send us something and I know my family wants me to have a shower. I figure I rather register and get things I want then not register and get things I don’t like or need.

Exactly!!! Most people WANT to get you a gift, even when you tell them that they don't have to. I argued with many of my guests about it and then just gave in because I did not want to seem ungrateful. I did let them know upfront that gifts were not expected from them due to travel costs. Some guests did not give a gift, others gave very generously and everything in between. I made a small registry and it was sufficient enough for those who wanted to get something. My and my FI's family gave cash since we are both non-American-born and traditionally money is given for weddings Here in the U.S. is it considered rude so a registry is a very good idea IMO.

[mareW9]

We were not planning to, but then I thought we would start a small registry for those situations others mentioned above - nothing too extravagant. Of course, now the DW may be off so we're going full-steam ahead with the registry.

[Bella30]

How far in advance should we start a registry before the wedding? My wedding is not until April 2011?

[tracy0716]

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Originally Posted by Bella30 How far in advance should we start a registry before the wedding? My wedding is not until April 2011?

We registered almost a year before the wedding. We only did this because my parents gave us an engagement party and many family members started asking where we were registered. I'm glad we did because some family and friends have given us gifts off the registry for my birthday and Christmas gifts.

[Bella30]

Makes sense! Awesome thanks for the info!!! Can't wait to start mine lol

[Ellabaja1983]

I feel the same way as many of the others, where I do not want to seem greedy, however I know the majority of those invite will not be able to attend and I know my bridesmaids are planning on throwing me a shower.. So, we are going to at least register at Bed, Bath & Beyond. I'd love to register at Target, but because I live in such a small state (without a Target), I don't think I will do that...