Advice needed...

[Cassie]

Absolutely do what you and FI want, it's your wedding! If you really want his sister there though, have you thought about destinations in the US? I'm having mine in California and had also thought about Florida. There are lots of pretty options without leaving the country. But, if you really have your heart set on Mexico, I say don't give it up for other people!

[Candice]

Hello...I understand where you are coming from because when we talked about having a destinaton wedding we knew that his sister and his grandparents would be unable to come...it took great thought but in the end this is what we wanted and we also decided to have the AHR to have everyone included. When we do our AHR his sister will be a big part of it and we will be having photos taken back here so she will be included in that. She was upset and first but then understood that this is something we both wanted and was happy for us! Good luck and remember to what is best for you and your FI!

 

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[AishaB]

Thanks guys. I really appreciate all of your feedback. It has been a tough decision but we have now narrowed it down to Barr Mansion, Austin TX or an all inclusive resort in Mexico. We just haven't figured out which one as yet. This forum is such a big help though. Thanks ladies.

[KimmyD]

It is your day! I agree with everyone here. Lets not forget, its about getting married to the love of your life. The person you will share YOUR life with - not theirs. Remind everyone that is what you really really want. Invite everyone important - go all inclusive! You will have your intimate wedding. You can also have an AHR and show the wedding beautiful video!

[Mischaka]

I agree with the other ladies. I'm actually the nice one...I tried to find something that won't cost too much for all of us...since the reason we are doing this is to save money. my FI honestly doesn't care who's there as long as me, him and our son is there. and that is really who's important!! if it's something you both want then that's what you do!!!

[AishaB]

Thanks again for all of the advice. Mischaka, my FI is the same as yours, as long as both of us are there he really doesn't care who else is or isn't there. M family will be there, so I was feeling badly because one of his sister's couldn't be. But my FI has told me to stop worrying about it and just have the wedding that I want. So I guess it is time for me to say que sera sera! And we will be having the AHR, so everyone can enjoy themselves then. I plan to have a slideshow going with the wedding and honeymoon, so everyone who wasn't there can experience a little bit of the wedding.

[vdaybride]

I firmly agree with most of the posts here! Please do what you feel is best for YOU! You already made it clear the type of wedding that you want so go forward with those plans. I don't know why your family member can't leave the country, please don't take this the wrong way, but that is not your problem. THis is your day and one that if your are blessed enough, will remember for the rest of your life. Don't try to please everyone around you because that is a feat that will NOT be accomplished. Plan the DW of your dreams!! Invite those family members that you want to be with you and for those that can't or won't attend plan an at home gathering for everyone. If cost is a problem. Plan a nice get together when the weather permits in a park or some other beautiful open/public/cheap space! Good luck with your decision!! I really hope you stick to your guns and plan the wedding where YOU and your FI really want it.

[bnbrmy]

I have read of a lot of brides (as well as myself) that have had issues with people not coming and people not wanting them to have a destination wedding. Keep in mind that this is for you and your FI, nobody else. my only family coming is my niece and his only family is his mother and father. There are a lot of family members that can't make it, I promised lots of pictures and left it at that, This is where FI and I have decided from the beginning and we are not going to compromise what we want for anyone. good luck with all your planning

[ktnicole]

I have been in this same situation. We decided to have a DW but couldn't afford for everyone we wanted to come to get passports. We then choose FL (live in Missouri) and we are extremely pleased with our decision. FI had a lot of family that assumed they would be invited. We just had to tell them sorry, we will be having an AHR for everyone but really only want immediate family there with us. They eventually got the picture.. hope that helps!