marriage counseling

[kelly1214]

Just wondering what everyone else is doing about marriage counseling. My fiancee and I have a great relationship and didn't see any noticable concerns as we approach our wedding day. But we have really benefitted from it so far and I was wondering if anyone else learned anything important or that they want to share...

[kerrij]

Good thread....where are all the responses?

We have never been so I can't add...doh!

[mbarnes04]

absolutely! we've tried counseling and it has been AWESOME! we were doing to make sure we start off on the right foot. a lot of the new teachings are partially based on science and the work of john gottman... he's amazing!!! see if you can get his videos at the library and read two of this books:

 

- the seven principles of marriage

- the four horsemen

 

The Gottman Institute -

[*Nadine*]

Since neither of us are religious we didnt have to participate in any pre-marital counseling, like some religions/churches have you do..but we actually talked about signing up for a weekend seminiar or some courses b/c I have always only heard good things.

[mslis007]

I want to do some kind of pre-marital counseling, but I am having a hard time finding any that isn't based on religion. Any suggestions?

[hoyt75]

If you live in Texas you can do a pre-marrital counseling called twogetherintexas.org... It's only a 4 hour seminar, and not only do you get counseling, but you also get $60 off your marriage license (if you're getting legally married here). We were going to do it, but the classes fill up really fast.

[blckrevpower]

Hi

My FI and I did pre-marital counseling through our church. It was really helpful. It brought out some things that we didn't necessarily talk about and some that we usually do talk about.

We loved it because it gave us time to really focus on our relationship, which most people don't have time to do.

I'd say go for it.

I do know that some couples didn't get married because of it, but that's probably because they weren't meant to be anyway.

[march132010]

We did not do pre-marital counseling, in our group of friends we are the last 2 to get married and all of our friends that have they are having the most problems, so we didn't do it.... Good Luck.........

[*HOLLY*]

A and I are doing pre-mart counseling now and we are enjoying it. At first A was pretty upset about it and thought it was dumb. We know how eachother works and what makes us upset. What is nice is having a 2nd point of view of us. After taking a test and going over our answers we realized we are actually a very close couple. We scored better than I thought we would and realize this marriage will work if we stay on the same path.

[flbluiiis]

We did it for a little while. I think it helped us a little, but neither of us were to happy with the counselor. I think we would have got a lot more out of it if we liked the counselor.