Wow, this is starting to feel real...

[dragonfly]

Woohoo, we went today to get our marriage liscence, this more then anything yet, really drove home, that wow I am getting married!

 

I have to be honest I am a little nervous, and I really hadn't relized that until today. Everton is so excited, he asked 4 different clerks in various area's "where do we get our marriage certificate", I was laughing at him, he said he just wanted everyone we walked by to know that he was going to be marrying me, he said he liked how it sounded! What a nut!

 

He has called me from work 3 times today to ask me if I knew that we were getting married soon! I wish I was as excited as him, but I have to admitt I am a little freaked out! Now don't get me wrong I love E, and I know he is the man that is meant for me, but omg this is huge, we have lived together for years and I never thought about it, we just went about our lives, but now I am about to committ til death do us part, for a second time to someone. I meant it the first time (and that didn't work, which is the reason marriage scares me), and this time I mean it with all my heart, but it's scarier the second time around. I don't know what has come over me today, Everton is the best friend I have ever had, we have weathered really awful times, and at the end of the day we are always standing strong together. I guess I just need to work out these few butterflies I have in my tummy.

 

It does not help that I really badly want to have a conversation with my dad about all this, he would so know how to calm me. I have never missed someone so much. This is the first big milstone in my life that I am doing without the advice of the wisest man I know. It probably didn't help that on the way to city hall, Everton took a detour because of construction and we ended up in front of the Cancer centre that I drove my dad to everyday, last year, during the month of July, he died August 6th. The tears started, and it started my melancholy mood...

 

Poor Everton, he felt sooo bad!

 

It was a very weird day, filled with happiness and saddness. I just felt the need to talk, and you guys are my go to people right now, so thanks for listening~

 

Kelly~

[Martha]

 

I am sorry your dad is not going to physically be there for your big day, but know that he WILL be with you. He is in your heart and that can't be replaced.

 

I am also getting married for the second time. It IS scary. Jay knows EVERYTHING about me and has never judged me and has supported me in all my dreams for almost 3 years. I never doubt I want to marry him....I just second guess myself that I will be a good wife. I am the one that left my first husband...which is something I never thought I would do. I have to give myself more credit and have faith in myself that Jay is THE one for me.

 

You only have a few weeks left!!!!

[JulieG]

Why did you get your marriage license? What do you need it for? Are you getting legally married on your DW or no?

 

I am so sad to hear about your day and what you went through. But you have to know that you are doing the right thing and what will make you both happy and you will be a great wife to Everton and you will both live happily ever after.

 

Just because it did not work the first time does not mean anything or have any impact on how it will work the second time. We all make mistakes, and we grow and we change and your first marriage was not the right one for you. But this one is.

 

I can't believe you are getting married so soon. I am so happy for you and I can't wait to see the pictures. Its going to be perfect.

[dragonfly]

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Originally Posted by Just Martha I am sorry your dad is not going to physically be there for your big day, but know that he WILL be with you. He is in your heart and that can't be replaced. I am also getting married for the second time. It IS scary. Jay knows EVERYTHING about me and has never judged me and has supported me in all my dreams for almost 3 years. I never doubt I want to marry him....I just second guess myself that I will be a good wife. I am the one that left my first husband...which is something I never thought I would do. I have to give myself more credit and have faith in myself that Jay is THE one for me. You only have a few weeks left!!!!

Oh you so totally get it!!

I also worry that I will be a good wife, and it is scary to admit that out loud. I also left my 1st husband, and it is awful feeling like you failed at something that was so important, I feel like the stakes are higher this time around. I know that I am also going through a bit of emotional rollarcoaster, with the marriage, and the anniversary of my dad's death, it is a very bittersweet time in my life. I am lucky Everton understands me, and always let's me work it out in my own way. I was very lucky to have found him.

[dragonfly]

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Originally Posted by Julesr Why did you get your marriage license? What do you need it for? Are you getting legally married on your DW or no? We decided not too long ago that we were going to do our legal wedding before we leave. We decided for a couple of reasons, I have a friend, the pastor at sick kids, who I met when Nicole was in the hospital. This was the worst time of my life, and this man got me through it. I am not religious, don't even know if I believe in god, but he was at Nicole's hospital door everyday for 10 months, giving me hope. We have remained good friends, and he helped me weather my dad's death. I just knew he had to marry us. He is unable to come with us, so Everton and I decided that we were going to secretly, with our children, have a very intimate legal ceremony on Centre Island (he lives there, and it is where his church is), with the person who helped us get to the this place in our lives. After the ceremony we are going to have a picnic with the kids and then dinner, with just Everton and I, later in the evening. This just feels like the right thing to do. It brings us back to the beginning of our planning which was "let's just you, me, & the kids go to the Carribbean and get married," but now it's "lets just you, me, and the kids run to centre island and get married..." LOL Funny how life works out! I can't believe you are getting married so soon. I am so happy for you and I can't wait to see the pictures. Its going to be perfect.

I can't believe it either, hence the panic, LOL. Thankyou, and remember after the wedding we are getting together for drinks, and we will have lot's of wedding talk!

Kelly~

[JulieG]

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Originally Posted by dragonfly I can't believe it either, hence the panic, LOL. Thankyou, and remember after the wedding we are getting together for drinks, and we will have lot's of wedding talk! Kelly~

You never told me why you need a marriage license. Did you or are you getting married here first?

[dragonfly]

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Originally Posted by dragonfly I can't believe it either, hence the panic, LOL. Thankyou, and remember after the wedding we are getting together for drinks, and we will have lot's of wedding talk! Kelly~

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Originally Posted by Julesr You never told me why you need a marriage license. Did you or are you getting married here first?

We decided not too long ago that we were going to do our legal wedding before we leave. We decided for a couple of reasons, I have a friend, the pastor at sick kids, who I met when Nicole was in the hospital. This was the worst time of my life, and this man got me through it. I am not religious, don't even know if I believe in god, but he was at Nicole's hospital door everyday for 10 months, giving me hope. We have remained good friends, and he helped me weather my dad's death. I just knew he had to marry us. He is unable to come with us, so Everton and I decided that we were going to secretly, with our children, have a very intimate legal ceremony on Centre Island (he lives there, and it is where his church is), with the person who helped us get to the this place in our lives. After the ceremony we are going to have a picnic with the kids and then dinner, with just Everton and I, later in the evening. This just feels like the right thing to do. It brings us back to the beginning of our planning which was "let's just you, me, & the kids go to the Carribbean and get married," but now it's "lets just you, me, and the kids run to centre island and get married..." LOL Funny how life works out!

Kelly~

[StephanieMN]

You have a great FI and I can only imagine he will be a wonderful husband.

 

Sounds like you two are in love and that you are going to have a wonderful marriage. The fact that you have butterflies shows that you are in it to make it work. I am very happy for you !

[LCBride2007]

I too was married for the 2nd time to Paul. It is soooo different from the first time. The first time you're caught up in all the "wedding drama" and stuff that comes with it. The 2nd time ... you know what it really means, what you're really doing. Not that i didn't the first time, I did, I just, well, I guess I wasn't ready. I too blame myself for the failure of my 1st marriage. that's a lot of weight to bear. i know that i am happy now, as is my ex, so i tell myself it's all for the better. but the "what ifs" are always there!

 

all i can do is love paul as best I can, and do everything in my power to make this work. and i will. and so will you. things do happen for a reason. you're where you should be now. be thankful for that!

 

as for your dad - i can't imagine - it's the biggest fear i have, losing a parent. i thankfully still have both with me. but your dad is with you - he's probably talking to you, just not physically but spiritually. he'll always be with you!

 

and you can talk to us at any time, about anything!

[JulieG]

That is the cutest most romantic thing I have heard in a long time. I am so happy you are getting married by the man you want to marry you. And, Centre Island is beautiful (I had no idea there was a church there). You are going to have a great time. Congratulations.