Does anyone else feel awkward about having a bridal shower?

[jackie_c]

Omg your MIL is too much to handle!! I could barely read about it, never mind have it happen to me.  The ballgown thing just takes the cake too! Gee whiz!!
 

Originally Posted by giraffexx 

Just need to vent... I choose to not have a bridal shower for several reasons. 1. I felt awkward to ask guests to come to shower and spend more money after already asking them to travel to Mexico. 2. I know I am in the minority here but I find most showers to be BORING and I personally did not want to have sit through one for myself. I am fine with my choice and have not regretted it once. So.....last night my FI slipped and told me how disappointed and unhappy his mother was that I did not want a shower. That she felt I was being inconsiderate to her since this is HER AFFAIR as well and she wanted to have a shower and to be able to invite her friends. Normally, my FI is very careful not to repeat these type of things to me since he doesn't want to get caught in between. I totally get it and actually really appreciate the fact that he does that. I've been trying to shake it off all day and ignore what I heard last night but I can't. I am pissed! I would never say anything to her since my FI basically begged me not to. But for her to imply that I am taking away for HER experience, HER affair....this woman must be out of her f***king mind!!! I did not particularly care for this woman to begin with but now I can't stand her. I can't believe this woman is about to become my MIL...WTF!!!??? 

 

On top of this....she's asked me a million times what she should wear. Since we are having a beach wedding I told her to wear whatever color, style she'd like. I suggested a nice sundress or a pretty dress that you'd wear out to dinner. The only thing that I asked of her was to not get a formal dress. She is wearing a ball gown to our wedding...on the beach! 

 

BTW- my mom has not once given me any shit about not having a shower.

 

Sorry for the long rant! But I do feel a little better from venting

[pina13]

Its your wedding day... how can she be upset about YOU not having a shower?!

MIL's are sooooooooooooooooooo odd....I wonder if they say things to cause problems for their sons. Silently evil people.

[mmc1105]

I can completely relate and I'm so sorry!!! I'm glad you were able to vent here.  I don't even know what to say about the ball gown... How ridiculous.  I feel the same way about my mil.  She gives me sh*t about things that my owm mother doesn't care about!!! UGH lol

Originally Posted by giraffexx 

Just need to vent... I choose to not have a bridal shower for several reasons. 1. I felt awkward to ask guests to come to shower and spend more money after already asking them to travel to Mexico. 2. I know I am in the minority here but I find most showers to be BORING and I personally did not want to have sit through one for myself. I am fine with my choice and have not regretted it once. So.....last night my FI slipped and told me how disappointed and unhappy his mother was that I did not want a shower. That she felt I was being inconsiderate to her since this is HER AFFAIR as well and she wanted to have a shower and to be able to invite her friends. Normally, my FI is very careful not to repeat these type of things to me since he doesn't want to get caught in between. I totally get it and actually really appreciate the fact that he does that. I've been trying to shake it off all day and ignore what I heard last night but I can't. I am pissed! I would never say anything to her since my FI basically begged me not to. But for her to imply that I am taking away for HER experience, HER affair....this woman must be out of her f***king mind!!! I did not particularly care for this woman to begin with but now I can't stand her. I can't believe this woman is about to become my MIL...WTF!!!??? 

 

On top of this....she's asked me a million times what she should wear. Since we are having a beach wedding I told her to wear whatever color, style she'd like. I suggested a nice sundress or a pretty dress that you'd wear out to dinner. The only thing that I asked of her was to not get a formal dress. She is wearing a ball gown to our wedding...on the beach! 

 

BTW- my mom has not once given me any shit about not having a shower.

 

Sorry for the long rant! But I do feel a little better from venting

[MDLady]

If she wants to wear a ballgown to the wedding, so be it.  Don't get soo upset over this and let the animosity start building when you guys are just getting married.  It can  put a lot of strain on your relationship if you and your MIL have tension.  I imagine that it would be hell for all parties involved.  She might have her quirks and it sounds like she forgot that this is YOUR wedding, not hers.  But try not to let this anger build and fester because it can become toxic to your marriage.  If she wants to wear a ballgown, let her do it.  She is the one who will probably be uncomfortable and if you don't want a bridal shower, then don't have it.  She will get over it and if she doesn't, then at least it's her problem and not yours!

[mochamakes3]

Giraffe... I am so sorry for your rough time. I know everyone reminds you that it's your day and you and your FI should be making all the decisions, but I also know that it is tough not to take other people's feelings to heart. I wanted a simple "beach" wedding gown, but my mom wants something more traditional. I'm appeasing her just because we're actually getting away with having a destination wedding. Good luck to you.

 

And yes, we are only having our AHR for my mother and her friends. And I will have to have two showers, one at home for my friends and another at my mom's for her friends.

[giraffexx]

thanks ladies for letting me vent and all the positive feedback. i don't know what i'd do without this site.

[Nan]

No one has even talked to me about any shower!!! I don´t know if they are planning a surprise for me or perhaps they haven´t  even thought about it!! I feel awkward! good thing for the moment I don´t have that on my mind!!

 

Maybe that´s why we are all getting along so well... 

 

giraffex: Don´t argue with your MIL just let her her wear whatever she feels like ! Is she aware it will be hot and humid at the beach and that her hairdo will melt away with all the sweating fom wearing a ballgown?? hahahaha 

[giraffexx]

I guess not. Not to mention she is a rather "big" woman and normally sweats in the winter. So this should be interesting. But if she wants to look like a crazy lady on the beach in a ball gown then so be it. 
 

Originally Posted by Nan 

No one has even talked to me about any shower!!! I don´t know if they are planning a surprise for me or perhaps they haven´t  even thought about it!! I feel awkward! good thing for the moment I don´t have that on my mind!!

 

Maybe that´s why we are all getting along so well... 

 

giraffex: Don´t argue with your MIL just let her her wear whatever she feels like ! Is she aware it will be hot and humid at the beach and that her hairdo will melt away with all the sweating fom wearing a ballgown?? hahahaha 

[Nan]

 

 

Originally Posted by giraffexx 

 

I guess not. Not to mention she is a rather "big" woman and normally sweats in the winter. So this should be interesting. But if she wants to look like a crazy lady on the beach in a ball gown then so be it. 

 

 

you could ask your WC (if you have any) to set a Fan just in front of her !! I´m sorry, don´t take me wrong it´s that laughing at "stuffy" situations like this, helps me get through difficult situations...

 

[giraffexx]

LOL...now that is funny. WOW...that would be priceless to see her face. Thanks for making me smile
 

Originally Posted by Nan 

you could ask your WC (if you have any) to set a Fan just in front of her !! I´m sorry, don´t take me wrong it´s that laughing at "stuffy" situations like this, helps me get through difficult situations...