To tell or not to tell?

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We were really open about it (hello I am such a blabbermouth) and while I am glad we didn't "hide" anything or deceive anyone, I kinda wish we had been slightly more discreet about it. It's a pain having to explain to people that you consider the paperwork to be a formality only, that the wedding is your "real" wedding, etc.

[tvt]

we're getting married legally here before also. we told our parents upfront. and while we're not publishing the info we're not really hiding it either.

[DreaW]

so I just sent a letter by email telling everyone that knows about Friday the details....

 

well I didn't send the letter to FSIL because I sent the letter to erik's brother who I figured would communicate to his wife about the details...

 

Well...

I just got a call from my FFIL and he told me that I had to send her the letter, I told him, "Well I thought FBIL would relay the message to her"

he said, "I still think you should send it to her so she knows....because you sent it to me and my wife...."

 

Oh brother....Mind you FPIL LOVE FSIL....i don't like her much....

 

sorry for highjacking lol

[Debs]

We are doin it before hand and if anybody asks, we are going to say that we are just taking care of paperwork before we go.

 

It's the truth, and otherwise not their business!

[gracefulsteph]

isn't family fun??

 

i'm not worried about the blood test - i do phelbotomy myself...i'm worried about the paperwork. and i can tell that FI is nervous everything won't get done in time for our wedding.

 

i was divorced 3 year ago...so I need to have my divorce decree translated and it sounds like that takes an additional 48 hours to translate in addition to the standard 3 day waiting period?? has anyone had to deal with this?

[foxytv]

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Originally Posted by Debs We are doin it before hand and if anybody asks, we are going to say that we are just taking care of paperwork before we go. It's the truth, and otherwise not their business!

I think that is a great idea! And I think I'm going to steal that idea and do the very same thing. Because to us, that is all that it is ... paperwork.

I'm also having a Wedding/Marriage Certificate made to have on hand at out DW so that our witnesses sign it and everything. It won't be our 'legal' certificate ... but it will be our 'real' certificate.

[gracefulsteph]

i do like the "paperwork" answer! and i like the idea of the marriage certificate too!

[Debs]

no problems!!

 

We have to get it done before, so the coordinator sees the certificate and we still get the benefits of the weddingmoon specials. She does the ceremony herself (no need for the judge then) and she says the guests will not know the difference.

 

[foxytv]

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Originally Posted by gracefulsteph i do like the "paperwork" answer! and i like the idea of the marriage certificate too!

I found them on Marriage Certificates-Wedding Certificates-Calligraphy Certificates but they are not cheap, so I'm going to hijack the idea and make one myself on nice parchment paper.

[gracefulsteph]

very pretty! i'll take a look and see what i can found...or copy myself!

thanks!