To tell or not to tell?

[1elephant]

we're going before, and only told our parents...my sister, genius she is, figured it out and told me she'd kill me if she wasn't there...we're not telling his brother (unless he figures it out) or anyone else...however i have a feeling that FMIL may have spilled the beans........ hrm..........

[RaydensMama]

When my sisters bf got married they did not tell anyone that they were getting married here before their DW. THe only people who knew were the witnesses (MOH and BM)

[dlou]

We will probably get married before we go. I don't want to tell anyone about it, but I'm considering having my BIL perform the symbolic ceremony so I'm guessing he would have to know about it...Right?? I guess there is no way around him not knowing is there?