Aggravated w/ MOH

[stevensFiance]

My MOH still hasnt booked, getting married in June & over the last few weeks, she's been asking me to check prices for her trip, The price for the Royal is obvs' much higher then for the Gran Caribe, and when I told her both hotels are beautiful, its fine if she has to stay at the Gran, I got a bit of a 'tude back from her, that "she wont be able to hang out with everyone, & this and that." Last week I found her the royal with air from thurs-tues (which is what she said she wanted) for only $1600, thats an amazing price, and it was only $100 more then the gran caribe, so I tried to tell her to get on it and book it. A few days later I asked if she did and she said no, so ofcourse I asked why, and was told that her bf doesnt understand why he has to go to Cancun, because he's already been there 3 times (then leave him home) so now they are in this big arguement over the days, and he just wants to go fri-monday. I aske/told her numerous times I need her there for Thursday, and I even offered to pay the difference in price if $ was an issue. I checked the prices on expedia again, yesterday the royal is now at $2,100 for those days at the gran is at $1,800. So the more they keep argueing the more the price goes up. Her BF is a drama queen, and I can already picture the miserable/jealous look hes going to have on his face, when she walks down w/ a groomsman. I guess if they ever book that is.

[Sylvie143]

Oh honey, *BIG BIG BIG HUG*..... The BF is a piece of work and I think he's preventing your MOH from booking, it seems like she's allowing him to influence her. Truth is she should be HONORED that you asked her to be your MOH..... and the fact that she is procrastinating is her fault not yours, there's only so much you can do... If she doesn't get her *ish together, I would strongly suggest you have a back up.

[marak]

Sounds like they're both drama queens, her and her bf. I'm confused? Are her fingers broken, was there a horrible accident or illness that has her hands bound and fingers limp? Why is it that you have to seek out prices for her?

 

Just nod and smile and let her and her bf figure it out. Sounds like her bf might have the right idea for the wrong reasons. The price is steep for this resort, which you are aware. It might be easier for her to stay at the Royal for less days. Even though she knew she was supposed to be there on Thursday too..such is life, if she can't be. Is she one of your witnesses? If so, see if you can't find an alternate just in case. This way at least you are covered.

 

Some people just wait till the last minute to do things. Soon her logic is going to be, "the closer to summer the cheaper the tix will be...ie. last minute deals. Nod, smile and worry about what you can control, not what you can't.

 

Hang in there girlie, people WILL try your nerves!

[Loveisintheair]

I agree with marak...your BF is your BF and she should let this get in the way. Well...not to be downer but my MOH kept puttin goff booking and then finally told me whe was not going to be able to be there. Don't sweat it. It is your day.

[svetayasofiya]

Breathe..... it'll all work out. Marak's right. You have 6 months until your wedding. She'll book when she's ready and honestly, the price will go down. June is not high season for Mexico.

Any chance they'll break up before then? *runs away.............

[stevensFiance]

You girls are hilarious! I hate to say it, but I do wish my MOH would realize what a "debbie downer" her BF is. I was a little annoyed too, that she asked me to check prices for her, but she does work in the jewelry industry, and market week is coming up for them, so she is pretty busy. She isnt a witness, but was asked to be there by thurs' for a few reasons, nothing absurd. That's what im worried about, I feel at some point its going to turn into "I cant make it." Funny as I am typing this, she just texted me that she just put in her days (for wedding) at work.

[vdaybride]

Sounds like the BF is complaining because he feels that the MOH will start to put the "squeeze" on him for a proposal LMAO he doesn't want to go for the wrong reasons!! I would agree with the girls who mentioned that you should have a back up plan

[**~Linda~**]

Definitely agree with getting a back up plan. Man that guys sounds like a real party huh?! NOT!!! Im sure it will all work out in the end so breathe girl! Hang in there!!!

[stevensFiance]

He doesnt want to go, 'cause he gets off on giving other people a hard time. And now to top everything off 2 of my BM's are in a huge blow out fight, literally the look of death is in both their eyes, and its still so fresh and theres supposed to be a get together with all of them on Monday night, and I have the 2 of them calling me, that they dont want to be around eachother, so I told them suck it up theres a time and place for everything and if they can not handle it, then just let me know and they can be excused from the entire thing. I have enough of my own stress, I dont need thigh HS drama.So thats Jill & Jessica's story, my MOH is Laura, and then my other 2 bridesmaids are my SIL & my fiances best friends gf, Lauren. Lauren told me the other day she is so miserable with her bf and wants out of the relationship but all she keeps thinking about is my wedding and how she needs to be there but knows theres no way she will be able to afford it on her own, I basically told her dont suffer for me. Jessica is a teacher, her father just informed her that he will be having his 4th wedding in FL, the week before mine, shes afraid her school wont approve back to back fridays and mondays. My entire bridal party is falling apart, and im not sitting here thinking I asked the wrong people, cause I asked the girls I am closest too, but seriously WTF!!! Jessica's situation, I cant really say anything about, its her father and granted he knows about my wedding...... I also wouldnt want her to looser her job just to come to my wedding, her principal is hack and Ive heard messages that she leaves to jessica when she calls out. As far as having a "back up" with the MOH situation, what can I really do? Im not going to ask someone else 5 months prior to the wedding, cause I feel thats rude but If Laura doesnt make it to my wedding because of her debbie downer sponge bob square pants look alike boyfriend, our 14 year friendship is over. We went to different colleges hours and hours away, over the course of four years I drove 8 hours to visit her atleast 6 times, and took flights to her maybe 4 times, thats the type of friendship we've had and I expect her to be at my wedding. Sweet, and the bridal store just called, all the bridesmaid dress's are in.

[**Kat**]

Ok, since you are supposed to get together with all of them I suggest that you sit them all down and have a heart to heart. Tell them that this is your wedding and you cant imagine having it without of them, but that the drama and the uncertainty is not helping you. This is supposed to be one of the best times of your life and and that you are asking is that your friends be just that.. friends. This isnt about her boyfriends, and this isnt about your 2 BMs drama. Tell them that if they will please work things out on their own and focus on having a great time with you.. things will be wonderful for everyone. That is what you deserve. Nothing less.