Only married 7 weeks and heading for divorce :(

[autjo]

Oh Leslie I just teared up reading this. I agree that you really need to go with your gut instinct. Talk to a counselor and figure out what is really going on. Sorry you are going through this and I hope everything gets worked out. *hugs*

[ChicagoPT]

I am so sorry you have to go through this. Trust your instinct.

[*Heather*]

Leslie, I'm so so sorry you have to go through this. It sounds like your hubby wants his cake and to eat it too. If he isn't taking the steps he needs to take to gain your trust back (i.e. everything you asked him for - to cut off contact, move to another dept, etc), then it doesn't sound like he is serious about you and your relationship, which is not cool. Like Nadine said, follow your head on this one...you KNOW it isn't right.

 

Big hugs - you know we are here if you need us!

[TonyandTricia]

Leslie, I am so sorry to hear this. The girls on here have said it all...

 

Good luck and I hope that it all works out for YOU most of all!!

[~*Lisa*~]

I'm really sorry to have this happen to you Leslie. Everyone here has already gave great advice. I'll be thinking about you and hope that things will work out, whatever way it goes! Keep your chin up even though it may be hard, you have to be strong!

[snoopAsh]

oooo no! I feel so bad for you! I would have done the same thing too.

 

Trust is a big deal to me...and when you break it...it's over.

 

I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.

 

Be strong and hang in there!

[kate.com]

Oh man, not good. SO sorry. We are all sending good thoughts your way. The only advice I'd add is to always think before you speak. That way you can be confident that you say and do everything to the best of your ability and either hang on or walk away with confidence.

You are a smart, BEAUTIFUL and kind woman... remember that!

[*Lo*]

Leslie, I am so sorry.

 

I have been through something similar. It seems though that the most crucial thing here is that he isn't willing to do what you need to get past this. Why isn't he willing? Clearly he messed up, and everyone makes mistakes. But I feel that marriages can survive if people are willing to do what it takes to move forward. So he has to be willing and so do you.

 

My advice is to wait a bit and let the dust settle before saying it's 100% over. Not saying you should stay with him or not, but just that it's hard to make these kind of massive decisions when you emotions are so high. Take some time and figure out if you're willing to move past this. Figure out what you really want first and what you feel you are capable of. It might take some time to sort through that. Perhaps in the end he will be willing to do what it takes, but you have to want to as well. Whatever decision you make will be the right one.

 

PM me if you want to chat some more...seriously I've been there and can relate to what you're going through.

[Lady_Di]

I teared up when I read this because I can feel your pain. I can't believe that he did that to you. The day after the wedding? Unacceptable.

 

Everyone else said it the best.

 

In the end, it is you and him. Counseling will help but don't let him walk over you. You are supposed to be his #1. I find it disturbing that he won't give you his passwords, her number and etc. If he is not willing to do that, walk away no matter how much it hurts. You can't let him take away your dignity.

 

Hang in there. We all are here for you.

[NaM]

I don't really know what to say that hasn't already been said...that is an absolutely horrible situation and I'm so sorry you are going through it.

I hope you know you have a good support system here and that you find peace with the situation and move forward whether it's with him or not.

Sending good thoughts your way.