Double Wedding...sort of

[Mrs.S2B]

hmmm....sounds like it could be fun and you might have a lot of family there which might be important for you, but also sounds like there could be some challenging situations.  If you guys can sort of talk out your details before making a commitment and honestly talking about what obstacles you may face it's better to get those things cleared up ahead of time. 

[eholt]

On one hand I want to say it would be loads of fun having everyone there!  Then I think about it think about the idea of you all wanting different things and possible pulling your guests in different directions.  IDK....

[mnh1983]

I understand how that could be really convenient for the family, but I just see disaster written all over it.  What happens if you try to out-do each other?  What if some of her guests invite themselves to your wedding and reception?  What if you guys decide you don't like the same resort and start fighting over where to have the wedding?  I can just see a lot of things that could potentially go wrong.

[lowkeybride]

Update for everyone...we still haven't started planning our wedding (yes, we are procrastinators!! and really busy at work ) but we changed our minds and decided we might just go elope the two of us, or with a set of friends/family to be the witnesses. Or who knows, we could end up doing something completely different!

[helen9]

Personaly i would also say no. As selfish as it sounds, i want my wedding to be about me and don't want to risk the comparisons between weddings. And trying to compromise with FH is a drama already - let alone trying to add another couple even if they are family into the mix

[islandbride8]

Oh my...  Personally I cannot even fathom agreeing to something like this.  I would not want to attend any wedding 2 days after mine, or have my wedding 2 days after my cousins.  I can just imagine the headache of trying to agree on everything with another bride.  Logically, I get it.  And yes, it makes a lot more sense for family members and other guests.  If you're open-minded enough and laid back enough then go for it, but if you're having ANY hesitation about this then I would stay far away from it!  If you do go for it, I would pick the resort and date, then let her know your plans and see if she still wants to do it.