Poll~ Legal vs. symbolic ceremony?

[TammyB]

I have a question for the ones that did the legal ceremony in Cabo. I received the Judge's questioner and it asks to list both the B & G's parents. Cain has no idea who his Father is nor does ANYONE talk about it in their family (don't know why but it's a BIG no, no) I asked the WC if it would be a problem to list the father as "unknown" but I'm still waiting in her response (she tends not to answer me if she has to THINK about something or research it) AND because I'm going to the site visit with Cain's MA and I can't bring it up.

 

Do you guys happen to know if we will run into a problem? If we do then we'll be forced to get married in the states first.

[Jackie]

Sarah,

I'm with Tammy and Karla on this one. Ecspecially If its a question of insurance and surgery. I really feel like the marriage doesnt begin till you get in that dress, walk down the aisle and exchange vows.

[TOESNTHESND]

We are having a legal ceremony in Cabo. I thought thats what we both wanted but I was telling Kevin how Karla got married @ the courthouse before leaving and he says lets just get married now, i can't wait! But we both know that can't happen cause our parents would kill us! I am the first daughter and he is an only child so thats not really an option. The only good thing with the insurance is we both work for the county and they recognize domestic partners, so we are already on each others insurance.

[NATASHA]

Tammy - I asked about the same thing. We don't know where my FIs father is and it asks for the address.

 

I was told that you can't leave something blank and the recommendation was to make something up. OK - not really comfortable with that.

 

How about this... Ask Cain's mother for his birth certificate as you will need to get it translated and notarized to get married legally in Mexico. Maybe it's on that?

[TammyB]

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Originally Posted by NATASHA Tammy - I asked about the same thing. We don't know where my FIs father is and it asks for the address. I was told that you can't leave something blank and the recommendation was to make something up. OK - not really comfortable with that. How about this... Ask Cain's mother for his birth certificate as you will need to get it translated and notarized to get married legally in Mexico. Maybe it's on that?

I already asked Cain and he said his fathers name is not on the BC. I finally got an email back from our wedding coordinator and she said it's fine to put "unknown" in that spot. So that's what we'll do.

[texanna]

We're doing a symbolic ceremony only. We'll get married by the legally in the States when we get back, that way we won't take away from the special moment when we're pronounced man and wife for the first time. In the end, the legal ceremony is just a piece of paper and our true wedding date will be that which is witnessed by our friends and family. On the more practical side, I need to get on my fiance's insurance soon and I'm leary of waiting for paperwork!

[Christine]

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Originally Posted by BURROWM There isn't a both option. We did our own ceremony, with a friend playing the minister's role and then afterwards stepped to the side to sign the paperwork. The judge didn't say anything to us, but sign here and put your thumb print here. Best of both worlds! And the needle wasn't so bad. The guy came to the Baja weddings office and it was over in 5 minutes.

I am somewhat in the same situation, my parents would probably be upset. did anyone think about just not telling them and having a friend witness. I know that sounds like drama waiting to happen but I am an only child for my mother and I just think she would get really upset if I got married legally before the wedding she is helping to pay for.

[TammyB]

Christine, Cain is an only child as well. Course were paying for everything. But for us we wanted to be legally married in Mexico. Our wedding will be small so we wanted it to be true in our hearts, but with that said I think you should do what is best for you and your FI. Whatever that might be, only the two of you can make the decision and I'm sure your mom would learn to accept it over time.

[TammyWright]

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Originally Posted by Soon to be Mrs. Hull I am somewhat in the same situation, my parents would probably be upset. did anyone think about just not telling them and having a friend witness. I know that sounds like drama waiting to happen but I am an only child for my mother and I just think she would get really upset if I got married legally before the wedding she is helping to pay for.

we didnt tell...

[LCBride2007]

we don't have the option to make our actual ceremony legal. we can legally get married in PV earlier that day - but the actual ceremony can't be legal. we're thinking of just not telling! then since we're going to Hawaii for the honeymoon the day after the ceremony, we'll probably just do it legally there, and have a romantic dinner!

 

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