Bachelor Parties....yes more than one :(

Ginalyn · December 22, 2009

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Originally Posted by KAMAY11

I understand that you were put off since you weren't expecting this trip to be his Bachelor party but unfortunately boys will be boys. He is marrying YOU and loves YOU...

I absolutely agree with this. Guys are just...different, and you can't stress about this kind of stuff. Just remember YOU are marrying HIM. Also, it's usually the bachelors friend's that drag the bachelor out to the strip clubs (get a few drinks down and friends will drag them there even if they don't want to). It's more so entertainment for the friends rather than the bachelor. Just my two cents!

Fruitcrush · December 22, 2009

It's always interesting seeing other peoples perspectives on things, and this is one of them. FI and I are very open about things and this is the one thing that does not bother either of us. In fact, he and I enjoy going to strip clubs together. At the end of the day, I know who he is coming home with and I am very secure with myself to not worry about things like this. I consider FI and Myself to be attractive and I cannot get mad if someone hits on him and goes the other way. Now, like some of the others have said, if he has had a reputation in the past to make you feel otherwise, then this is something that needs to be worked on asap!

Adriana

carolina24 · December 22, 2009

I might sound way jealous or like the bitchy FI/wife but I absolutely refuse to let my FI have a lap dance or stripers or anything like that. I've made this clear to him and his friends and he agrees that we should be the only ones in our "sexual space" like you put it. I'm sorry but this would have pissed me off to no end...esp since he DID NOT TELL YOU before hand. I understand that there are "traditions" but some should not be followed, this would not fly with me. He had one lap dance too many, imo and you SHOULD tell him that another one would not fly!!! It bothers you and that's all that matters!

carolina24 · December 22, 2009

So I just went back and read some responses and I should have included in my post that FI and I have been to clubs together before and that was fine. It's the fact that you weren't there that would bother me the most. And when we've been, there have been no lap dances for him, sorry I don't budge on that