Paying For Travel Arrangements??

[*Lo*]

We are going to pay for their hotel. (not their dates just them since it's an AI.) We are also paying for the bm's dresses and the gm's suits but we are only having 2 each. If we were having a lot I don't think we would.

[ask9999]

We are not paying for travel for our wedding party, but doing presents for the wedding party. I don't think its necessary or expected that you pay for your wedding party's travel.

[GracieBebe]

We had 25 guests between all of our family and friends. Because we rented our location exclusively, we were able to provide for accommodations for everyone, but we told them that they had to take care of their own airfare/travel and any other types of transportation such as subway/train/car, etc. We paid for both of our immediate family's train tickets and arranged between those who rented a car and those who did not to at least have rides everywhere we/they were going.

 

If we had not been able to rent our location exclusively and had to go the hotel route, we would not have paid for anyone's accommodations other than our immediate family's.

[eec129]

It sounds nice and I wish we could do it, but unfortunately we are not paying for anyone, either. No one has said anything about it, but my family is having difficulty affording it. We have offered to lend money if need be but no one seems too interested in that option.

[amandseth]

Wow, I wish I had the money to do that! Unfortunately, we don't. We approached out bridal party initially saying that we'd be having a destination wedding, and if they could make it we'd love for them to stand up for us. No pressure. Luckily we're fortunate enough that the majority have decided to join us.

I think there are not a lot of people who can afford that, and it is just a best case scenario reccommendation rather than actual ettiquette. IMO, anyway.

[SSNM]

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Originally Posted by bholthof A lot of wedding etiquette is simply not practical or doable for anyone who isn't high society, loaded with cash, or not willing to go into massive debt for thier wedding.

SUSTAINED.

I mean, I am all for etiquette when it comes to making sure everyone is well treated but once it is at the expense of my financial or mental well being, all bets are off.

[wilsoml2]

I've read that your only supposed to pay for two nights of the hotel for your attendants because they only actually have to be at the location the night before and the night of the wedding. Anything else is extra so they have to pay for that themselves. We're on a tight budget but it does include paying for 2 nights for 4 attendants as well as their clothes for the wedding. We also gave our attendants over a year to prepare but feel that we should help them out since they'll be spending so much money to come to our wedding.

[abbypoo]

I've also read that you're supposed to pay for your wedding party's accommodations, but not travel expenses. We've decided to pay for our BM and MOH's lodging, but no one else's since the other 4 will be our brothers and sisters (and they are receiving help from either his parents or us). But we are probably going to be on a pretty tight budget as well, and will either have to only pay for a few nights at the AI, or put them up in a less expensive hotel down the beach. I guess it depends on how long they want to stay and if they want to spend any extra money themselves.

 

Paying the lodging of other guests is probably going to end up being about a fourth of our budget, actually. My mom is on disability and so I already know I'll be paying for her room, and I've also agreed to pay half the expenses of my brother and his girlfriend. When you think about plane tickets, passports (several of my guests don't have current ones), lodging and misc. expenses it really adds up. Not to mention most people feel obligated to give gifts (even if you tell them not to).

 

To me, I'd rather have my loved ones at my wedding then have an extra awesome reception without them. Even if my reception sucks, they'll still have gotten to go to Cancun and be there for my special day!

[isaidyes]

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Originally Posted by ML YoungLove We are paying for hair, and wedding wear for everyone in our wedding party, plus the $200.00 deposit at the travel agents. I think that is more than enough, but it really depends on what you can afford.

Did you buy your wedding party gifts too? That's pretty generous

[chrissytina924]

we arent paying for anyones full trip... we gave our parents and between the 2 of us we have 5 brothers and sisters all of them each a $200 voucher towards there trip that we will pay for... so its costing us $1800..... we really cant afford to do more then that plus like most of the brides said we gave them 11 months notice.. if they wanted to come they would have saved up to make it happen..