Help! Which MOB dress?

[doblauvelt]

A few weeks ago, my mother bought two dresses. Dress #1 was meant to be for the beach wedding and dress #2 was meant for the formal AHR. Now, she wants to wear dress #2 for the beach wedding and buy another dress for the AHR because dress #1 is now "too informal".

 

Dress #1

 

Dress #2

 

 

I honestly think dress #2 for the beach is wayyyyyyy too formal, thick, and dark but my mom claims she won't be "mother of the bride-like" wearing dress #1. I'm horribly afraid she will stick out like a sore thumb among everyone else (esp. FMIL, this is her dress F23051.

 

Should I let her wear dress #2 or convince her to wear dress #1 for the beach like it was intended? What are your thoughts.

[amandseth]

I think DEFINITELY convince her to wear the first one. The second, she will roast in! And you're right, it's not beach appropriate, whereas the fist one is elegant and flowy and GORGEOUS! She will already outshine your MIL in the 1st dress. I think it's perfect.

[*Nadine*]

I think the first one is so pretty and flowy and would be perfect for a beach wedding. With that being said, I would just let my mom wear whatever she wanted to. At least thats how I felt with my mom and FMIL - I gave them no guidelines and said just to wear whatever they wanted and felt comfortable in, be it a ball gown or a cocktail dress.

[boscobel]

#1 is a an awesome dress! I would talk her into that one.

[~Stephanie~]

I completely agree with nadine! I would pick dress #1 but leave it up to her. Maybe you could try talking to her about it and sway her but I wouldn't force it.

[Ginalyn]

I like #1 for a beach wedding. But if she's set on #2 then let her wear it. You don't want to have an upset MOB!

[JUSTUSTWO]

I'm with Carly. I love both dresses but #1 is definitely beach appropriate. I'd try to convince her to stick with #1. Dress #2 seems perfect for the AHR.

[Patti]

Dress No. 2 looks like it just doesn't belong at the beach. Are you actually getting married on the beach? What time is your wedding, daytime or night time? The are both beautiful dresses, but No. 1 seems more appropriate. I think I would just give my opinion, if it were asked, and be done with it and let her pick what she wants

[echo2_62]

I think I agree with you that dress #2 might stand out a bit too much for the beach ceremony as it is quite formal. And dress #1 is so pretty! But perhaps instead of trying to convince her to just go with what she has (because I'd be worried that she'll get her heels ground in) then maybe see if she'll keep #2 for the AHR and get a new dress that is in the middle of #1 & #2 styles as a compromise. That way she won't feel too casual and you won't have to worry about her being too formal.

 

 

And I have to admit that I confessed a "bridezilla" request to my mom right off the bat about her dress. I asked to have Veto power. More importantly I just wanted her to show me the dresses she was looking at along the way and she's been awesome with it! You'll figure out something with her!!

[Jennybell1]

Convince her for Dress #1 for sure!!! If you can get around it without upseting her, but I would not be happy if my mother was that formally dressed for a beach wedding either. I am pulling rank when I see my mother's dress, I dont like it I will ask her to get another one, having said that, I dont anticipate any issues with my mom. Good Luck!